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We receive numerous queries on this subject via email and our Samadhan WhatsApp groups. Here is our more detailed and refined answer/spiritual guidance on the topic of "healing and managing a non-married love-relationship"

Title: "𝙃𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖 𝙣𝙤𝙣-𝙢𝙖𝙧𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙙 𝙇𝙤𝙫𝙚-𝙧𝙚𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙥"

Subtitle: 𝙻𝚎𝚊𝚛𝚗 𝚠𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚝𝚛𝚞𝚎 𝚕𝚘𝚟𝚎 𝚒𝚜, 𝚍𝚘𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚒𝚗𝚗𝚎𝚛 𝚠𝚘𝚛𝚔, 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚑𝚎𝚊𝚕𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚊 𝚛𝚎𝚕𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗𝚜𝚑𝚒𝚙.

✶𝗔𝗱𝗺𝗶𝗻: 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘧𝘶𝘭, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘶𝘮 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 (𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺/𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴). 𝘏𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘶𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘰𝘯𝘦. "𝙎𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙎𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜"

The following was written in response to a query we received on our Samadhan WhatsApp group in May 2024.

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Foreword

🌴So you are newly discovering 'love' through this relationship. There would naturally be ups and downs, and you will have a difference of opinion... But surely 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐞 & 𝐝𝐞𝐞𝐩, 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐨𝐧𝐭 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐞𝐝 in any way—not matter what your lover say or do.

🌻This is because 𝙩𝙧𝙪𝙚 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙗𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨 𝙪𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙪𝙣𝙞𝙩𝙮... You no longer identify your-self as 'different' from your lover. Then how can you disrespect, hurt, or be hurt by your own self!

☘️Of course, this may sound unreal to many. In today's time, rarely any relationship offer us the experience of complete unity. But the very meaning of love is 𝙪𝙣𝙡𝙞𝙢𝙞𝙩𝙚𝙙, 𝙚𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙣𝙖𝙡, 𝙪𝙣𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙙𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙖𝙡 >> if love fails in any of these 3 aspects, it is not the highest expression of love.

🍀You have heard what love really is... Now it time you can 𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐥𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐬𝐝𝐨𝐦 𝐢𝐧 𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐥𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐬𝐝𝐨𝐦 𝐢𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞. Does your relationship provide this experience? It is 𝚞𝚗𝚕𝚒𝚖𝚒𝚝𝚎𝚍 in the sense "never ending" and is it 𝚞𝚗𝚌𝚘𝚗𝚍𝚒𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗𝚊𝚕 in the sense "without a reason or condition" and is it 𝚎𝚝𝚎𝚛𝚗𝚊𝚕 in the sense of time?

🌿It is very important 𝘁𝗼 𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗲 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗶𝘀. So here is a perfect answer to it i have published recently on our Forum👉 What is True Love? (must read)

Guidance for Healing Relationship

Whatever the past may be, and whatever may have happened, you wish to HEAL this relationship now... and you are indeed trying to take the first step towards healing >> that is >> "𝕒𝕔𝕔𝕖𝕡𝕥𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕞𝕚𝕤𝕥𝕒𝕜𝕖 & 𝕒𝕤𝕜𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕗𝕠𝕣 𝕗𝕠𝕣𝕘𝕚𝕧𝕖𝕟𝕖𝕤𝕤"

🍁This should 𝐛𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐭, 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐛𝐲 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐝𝐬... And you will do this by heart, when there is no 'ego' or 'hurt' left. What does that mean then? Right... In order to heal this relationship, must you 𝗳𝗶𝗿𝘀𝘁 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗿𝘁.

🌱𝙎𝙚𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙙 >> 𝔾𝕠 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕙𝕒𝕧𝕖 𝕒 𝕡𝕖𝕣𝕤𝕠𝕟𝕒𝕝 𝕥𝕒𝕝𝕜... Explain your point of view and show to him/her your best side. "All human beings do mistakes now and then... not because they want to hurt another, but because they feel hurt within"

🪻Expression of anger is nothing but 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐰𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐡𝐮𝐫𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧... But in truth, the anger remains & the hurt grows. The 𝐬𝐨𝐥𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 therefore, is to 𝚌𝚊𝚕𝚖 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚗𝚎𝚛𝚟𝚎𝚜, 𝚎𝚡𝚙𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚟𝚒𝚜𝚒𝚘𝚗, 𝚝𝚛𝚢 𝚝𝚘 𝚜𝚎𝚎 𝚘𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚛𝚜' 𝚙𝚘𝚒𝚗𝚝 𝚘𝚏 𝚟𝚒𝚎𝚠, and ask the question "𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘧 𝘪 𝘢𝘮 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯" >> the answer to this question is the answer to living life consciously. You will never hurt anyone when you live in the awareness of this question "what if i was them?"

🪴Of course, as you live with this 𝚊𝚠𝚊𝚛𝚎𝚗𝚎𝚜𝚜, you no longer need to worry of what others do or say. They may still be hurt, but not because of you... Your work is within, remember. 𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐢𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐫 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐥𝐝 𝐢𝐬 𝐚𝐭 𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐞, 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐚𝐦𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐢𝐭𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐬𝐢𝐝𝐞—𝙞𝙣 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙧𝙚𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙥𝙨, 𝙝𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙩𝙝, 𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙙, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙞𝙣 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙙𝙚𝙘𝙞𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨/𝙘𝙝𝙤𝙞𝙘𝙚𝙨.

⭐The way to achieve this inner peace is 𝗥𝗮𝗷𝗬𝗼𝗴 𝗠𝗲𝗱𝗶𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻. We invite you to learn RajYog meditation through our official guide.

➕We also suggest you to learn what we call 𝗠𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗳𝘂𝗹𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗠𝗲𝗱𝗶𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 >> this has helped millions of people to achieve 'peace' and a 'balanced life'.

Learn about Mindfulness Meditation 👉 https://www.mindful.org/meditation/mindfulness-getting-started

𝗔𝗱𝘃𝗶𝘀𝗲 𝗙𝗼𝗿 𝗬𝗼𝘂

Now that we have given the 𝚜𝚙𝚒𝚛𝚒𝚝𝚞𝚊𝚕 𝚐𝚞𝚒𝚍𝚊𝚗𝚌𝚎 that will help you first understand what true love is, and second, help you to achieve 𝚒𝚗𝚗𝚎𝚛 𝚙𝚎𝚊𝚌𝚎—it is time to give direct advice.

FIRST ➤ You should do the inner work as guided above

SECOND ➤ Go and talk with him/her personally (not over the phone). Explain your side and be open to hear theirs... give & seek forgivesness with a joint-promise that "this wont happen again"

THIRD ➤ After doing this, if they understand, forgive you, and keep the relationship alive >> then all well >> but if he doesn't >> then you must understand that this relationship lacks true love... If they feel disrespected, then they are acting with 'ego' and does not love you truly. And even if they love you truly, then still the relationship is not meant to proceed further. You need to hear the signals of the Universe in every phase of live.

🍇BUT > it is important 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐥𝐚𝐦𝐞 them or yourself >> this was an "experience" of life and love that you will always cherish... and with time you will realise how beneficial this experience was that shaped you and made you 𝐰𝐢𝐬𝐞𝐫, 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠.

Lastly, here is our general guidance on 𝗛𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮 𝗻𝗼𝗻-𝗺𝗮𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗱 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽

☝️So this is all the help & guidance we offer. Follow all what i have written above. See the benefit it brings. Please visit the links.

"all the best"

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