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In a world that often emphasizes external validation and relentless self-improvement, the concept of "being your own best-friend" can feel radical. Yet, the relationship we nurture with ourselves is the 'foundation' of every other connection we form. This isn’t about vanity or self-absorption; it’s about cultivating a compassionate, supportive inner dialogue that empowers you to navigate life’s challenges with resilience and grace. Imagine treating yourself with the same patience, encouragement, and forgiveness you so generously offer to your friends. This article-post explores how shifting your perspective to self-kindness can unlock greater confidence, peace, and authenticity. This will help you to recognise & celebrate your worth, learn self-love, by following the given insights and practical guidance. Title: "𝘽𝙚𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙊𝙬𝙣 𝙁𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙙" Subtitle: 𝚂𝚎𝚕𝚏-𝚕𝚘𝚟𝚎, 𝚂𝚎𝚕𝚏-𝚌𝚊𝚛𝚎... 𝙸𝚗𝚜𝚒𝚐𝚑𝚝 & 𝚙𝚛𝚊𝚌𝚝𝚒𝚌𝚊𝚕 𝚜𝚞𝚐𝚐𝚎𝚜𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗𝚜 (𝚜𝚝𝚎𝚙𝚜) 𝚝𝚘 𝚊𝚙𝚙𝚕𝚢 𝚒𝚗 𝚎𝚟𝚎𝚛𝚢 𝚍𝚊𝚢 𝚕𝚒𝚏𝚎 ✶𝗔𝗱𝗺𝗶𝗻: 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘧𝘶𝘭, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘶𝘮 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 (𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺/𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴). 𝘏𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘶𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 & 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴. "𝙎𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙎𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜" Share on WhatsApp⇗ The following was written in response to a query we received on our Samadhan WhatsApp group in May 2025. So please read the following in the same context. ———————————— Foreword Self-love is not just about 'talking care of yourself' but it has its roots in 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐡 and the kind of relationship we have with our-self. Do you treat yourself with the same 'kindness' you would treat your dearest friend? This is the question. In this message, you will read our 'practical suggestions' to enhance this experience in every day life. 🌸"Self-care" is the gentle art of turning down life’s volume, so as to hear your own heartbeat. And 𝘣𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥 means offering compassion when you stumble, while celebrating every little victory, and never letting the inner critic block the growth and progress. Our 9 Suggestions Becoming your own best friend is a journey of self-compassion, understanding, and intentional practise. Here is a structured approach to cultivate this relationship: 1. 𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗮𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻 Replace Criticism with Kindness: When mistakes happen, ask, "𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘐 𝘴𝘢𝘺 𝘵𝘰 𝘢 𝘥𝘦𝘢𝘳 𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥?" and apply that kindness to yourself. 𝐌𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐑𝐞𝐟𝐥𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧➛ Acknowledge your feelings without judgment. Use phrases like, “It’s okay to feel this way.” 2. 𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗖𝗮𝗿𝗲 Routine Habits➛ Schedule regular exercise, nutritious meals, and sufficient sleep. Make this a part of your routine. Set Boundaries➛ Learn to say "no" to things you do not like. Protect and 'preserve' your time and energy. 3. 𝗨𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 Journaling➛ Reflect daily on thoughts and emotions you carry. Try prompts like, 𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘮𝘢𝘥𝘦 𝘮𝘦 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘥 𝘵𝘰𝘥𝘢𝘺? 𝐌𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧➛ Practice 𝚖𝚒𝚗𝚍𝚏𝚞𝚕𝚗𝚎𝚜𝚜 to stay in the "present moment" and connected with your inner self. 4. 𝗖𝗲𝗹𝗲𝗯𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗦𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁 Acknowledge Wins➛ Celebrate small victories, like completing a task, overcoming a fear, or making any small progress. Comfort in Failures➛ Treat setbacks as learning opportunities. Learn from the experience. Support yourself as a dear friend would. 5. 𝗙𝗼𝗿𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗟𝗲𝘁 𝗚𝗼 Write down past mistakes and consciously forgive yourself. See what you have learned from them, focus on the 𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐰𝐭𝐡, take the lesson, and work for the positive change. LET GO of everything that keeps you down (release the burden). 6. 𝗘𝗻𝗷𝗼𝘆 𝗦𝗼𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗱𝗲 Quality Alone Time➛ Engage in hobbies like 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘸𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘤𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘳𝘵, 𝘰𝘳 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘭𝘬𝘴. Embrace solitude as an part of life that inspire our spiritual growth. Read our post 𝐄𝐦𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐒𝐨𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐝𝐞 7. 𝗦𝗲𝘁 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗰 𝗘𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 Achievable Goals➛ Break tasks into smaller steps. Celebrate progress (every step of the 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐜𝐞𝐬𝐬), not just outcomes. Balance Ambition➛ Strive for "growth" and "betterment" while accepting that making mistakes is a part of the process, and 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 from them is important. 8. 𝗣𝗼𝘀𝗶𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗧𝗮𝗹𝗸 Affirmations➛ Use personalised mantras like, “I am capable” and “I trust my abilities and good intention” Reframe Negativity➛ Challenge critical thoughts with evidence of your strengths, and move with FAITH in god. Have no doubt on the process, and 'surrender' the result of your karma to god. This is the way. 9. 𝗕𝘂𝗶𝗹𝗱 𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗧𝗿𝘂𝘀𝘁 Honor Instincts➛ Make decisions aligned with your 𝐯𝐚𝐥𝐮𝐞𝐬 and 𝐩𝐮𝐫𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞. Listen to your heart, your 𝚒𝚗𝚗𝚎𝚛 𝚟𝚘𝚒𝚌𝚎 𝚘𝚏 𝚒𝚗𝚝𝚞𝚒𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗 (sixth sense) when making important and life-transforming decisions. Use your 'past-experience' as a tool to make better choices now. 𝙁𝙞𝙣𝙖𝙡 𝙏𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝𝙩: Treat this relationship as you would any meaningful friendship—nurture it with 𝚙𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚎𝚗𝚌𝚎, 𝚌𝚘𝚗𝚜𝚒𝚜𝚝𝚎𝚗𝚌𝚢, 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚕𝚘𝚟𝚎. Over time, this bond will develop 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦, 𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧-𝘢𝘤𝘤𝘦𝘱𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘪𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘳 𝘱𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘦. ——————————— Videos for You ➤How to be your own best friend? (Sandeep Maheshwari) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4lPVFaY1bkA ➤What is 'true friendship' (Sandeep M) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wsPLOMOfQEA ➤ALL VIDEOS on "being your own friend" https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=being+your+own+best+friend MUST READ: 𝟏𝟐 𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐛𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐟𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐝 (article) https://lonerwolf.com/how-to-become-your-own-best-friend/ ➤Read our 𝐃𝐚𝐢𝐥𝐲 𝐈𝐧𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐌𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐚𝐠𝐞𝐬 Follow good pages on 𝐬𝐨𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐦𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐚 for 'inspiring' content: Facebook➙ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100077483870758 Instagram➙ https://www.instagram.com/quotescafeinsta/ ✶𝗔𝗱𝗺𝗶𝗻: 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘧𝘶𝘭, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘶𝘮 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 (𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺/𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴). 𝘏𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘶𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 & 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴. "𝙎𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙎𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜" Share on WhatsApp⇗ ———————————— 𝐵𝑒 𝐵𝓁𝑒𝓈𝓈𝑒𝒹..✨ Oᑎ ᘜOᗪᒪY SᗴᖇᐯIᑕᗴ, 𝕸𝖆𝖓𝖆𝖌𝖊𝖗, 𝕾𝖆𝖒𝖆𝖉𝖍𝖆𝖓, 𝕾𝖍𝖎𝖛 𝕭𝖆𝖇𝖆 𝕾𝖊𝖗𝖛𝖎𝖈𝖊𝖘 𝕴𝖓𝖎𝖙𝖎𝖆𝖙𝖎𝖛𝖊 (SBSI)

Introduction: Experiencing every relationship with God is a journey of the heart, where 𝕕𝕚𝕧𝕚𝕟𝕖 𝕔𝕠𝕟𝕟𝕖𝕔𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟 with god (the source) becomes the foundational support of all our life-ventures. He is a friend in moments of solitude, a parent in times of need, a guide through uncertainty, and a constant companion in both joy and sorrow. We may see god as the sun and the moon, both of which moves with us, everywhere we go. To walk with God is to embrace trust, and surrender to his divine ways and divine timing... It is discovering that His presence transforms ordinary moments into sacred experiences—a whisper of intuition guiding you in the quiet, a force stoping you from making a wrong choice, a feeling of peace amidst chaos, a balm in pain. Through prayer, gratitude, and stillness, we learn to see His love not as distant or abstract, but alive in every breath, relationship, and challenge. In this dance of FAITH, every struggle becomes a lesson, every joy a shared celebration, and every act of love an extension of His grace. Here, we find not just a higher power, but a home—a boundless, intimate relationship that roots us in peace, purpose, and assurance that we are never alone. ✶𝗔𝗱𝗺𝗶𝗻: 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘧𝘶𝘭, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘶𝘮 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 (𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺/𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴). 𝘏𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘶𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 & 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴. "𝙎𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙎𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜" Share on WhatsApp⇗ The following was written in response to a query we received on our Samadhan WhatsApp group in May 2025. So please read the following in the same context. ★ Experiencing Every Relationship with God (Supreme Soul) ★ Your question partly answers itself... Remembering Shiv Baba in different ways is a good way to keep renewing the love and affection every day. How To Do That? Simple... We can experience every close human relationship with god/creator/shiv baba. And you can start this in the morning >> it is the best time for 'new beginnings'. So during your amritvela (morning meditation), you can create a thought: ➙my beloved baba ➙my beloved teacher ➙my beloved friend ➙my beloved lover ➙my beloved child ➙my beloved guide shiv and so on... 🌷You can pick any ONE relationship every day... and affirm it during morning meditation >> and then keep that in mind throughout the day. This will help you naturally feel the 'connection' with the supreme soul in the form of a parent, a friend, a child, a teacher, a guide. 🌈The key to experience every connection with the divine (god) naturally, is "GRATITUDE" ✶Meaning: Find the gifts you have received in your life... then 'categorise' those gifts into: Gifts from Shiv baba: as 'father' as 'mother' as 'teacher' as 'friend' as 'lover' as 'guide' 🪻Then you can THANK him for every gift, and experience 'closeness' to god with every relationship mentioned above. For example: Today, you can thank shiv baba for the KNOWLEDGE (gyan) that you have received from him as a TEACHER... So you are experiencing 'closeness' to him as your TEACHER. ➥Then tomorrow you can thank shiv baba for all the love, blessings & help that you have received from him as your PARENT. 🍀We hope you have understood the picture now... Go on and practise this every day (plant the 'seed' during morning meditation) ✶Recommended post: Restoring Faith in God ✶Recommended Audio playlist: MUST listen to this crafted audio playlist of selected audiobooks & speeches that can 'inspire' and 'invoke' the best in you: https://soundcloud.com/brahmakumaris-bk/sets/motivational-faith-feeling Video: STRONG relationship with god ('Awakening' episode by BK Shivani) Strong Relationship With GOD: Ep 75 Soul Reflections: BK Shivani (English Subtitles) Video: CREATING a 'personal' relationship with god (a class by BK Shivani) Create A Personal Relationship With God : Sister BK Shivani I Share on WhatsApp⇗ ———————————— 𝐵𝑒 𝐵𝓁𝑒𝓈𝓈𝑒𝒹..✨ Oᑎ ᘜOᗪᒪY SᗴᖇᐯIᑕᗴ, 𝕸𝖆𝖓𝖆𝖌𝖊𝖗, 𝕾𝖆𝖒𝖆𝖉𝖍𝖆𝖓, 𝕾𝖍𝖎𝖛 𝕭𝖆𝖇𝖆 𝕾𝖊𝖗𝖛𝖎𝖈𝖊𝖘 𝕴𝖓𝖎𝖙𝖎𝖆𝖙𝖎𝖛𝖊 (SBSI)

Introduction: This article post introduces you to the FOUR parts of the soul: Heart, Intellect, Mind, Senses... "In the quiet spaces between our thoughts and the unspoken yearnings that guide our choices lies the essence of what it means to be truly alive—the heart of the soul. This deepest core of the soul, and older than memory—pulses with the rhythms of our truest selves, shaping how we love, grieve, dream, and connect. We all have that inner core—the part of us that feels deeply, hopes fiercely, and sometimes wrestles with doubts or fears. It’s what we might call the “heart of the soul,” the quiet center where our truest self lives. This isn’t about grand philosophies or abstract ideas; it’s about the raw, everyday stuff that shapes how we love, cope, and make sense of life. Whether it’s the joy that lifts us or the pain that weighs us down, understanding this part of ourselves can change how we navigate relationships, challenges, and even the quiet moments in between. Let’s talk about why this “heart” matters and how to listen to it and make better choices. ★ The Heart of Soul ★ You wanted to know "how is heart related to the soul". You do understand that it is only the SOUL who is the ultimate master... Soul, the 𝚙𝚞𝚛𝚎 𝚌𝚘𝚗𝚜𝚌𝚒𝚘𝚞𝚜𝚗𝚎𝚜𝚜, operating and experiencing LIFE using/through the sensory organs (इन्द्रियाँ), the mind (मन), and intellect (बुद्धि) ⭐Imagine: Visualise a point of light (or 'a ball of light')... and the light is radiating out... The further you go from the centre of this light, the lesser its 'intensity' becomes. 🍁Now, what we call HEART, is the closest component of the soul... the deepest part of the soul (the 'essence' THAT YOU ARE) which always knows and is informed through feelings >> "feeling is the language of the soul" and what we call HEART receives and transmits these feelings. It is the heart that "remembers" and "recalls" what the soul always knew and experienced even many lifetimes ago. Heart is the depth from which our intuition (𝚍𝚎𝚎𝚙 𝚒𝚗𝚗𝚎𝚛 𝚔𝚗𝚘𝚠𝚒𝚗𝚐) is born. Then comes intellect (बुद्धि) 👉 a deeper faculty of the soul through which the soul discriminates (judge what is GOOD and what is BAD, what is RIGHT and what is WRONG) and thus, what to DO and what NOT to do. As you can understand, the intellect is a very important part of human experience, as it separates us from animals and birds... We can THINK and CHOOSE between good and bad, even between good and better. 🪻Then comes the mind (मन) 👉 another part of the soul through which the soul can THINK (create thoughts) >> and you know that thoughts hold creative energy >> hence it is through the faculty of mind that we CREATE our life, our reality. The furthest faculty is sensory organs (इन्द्रियाँ) 👉 through which the soul 𝚏𝚎𝚎𝚕, 𝚎𝚡𝚙𝚎𝚛𝚒𝚎𝚗𝚌𝚎 & 𝚘𝚙𝚎𝚛𝚊𝚝𝚎 the physical body. This includes the 5 senses (see, hear, touch, smell, taste) Conclusion We have explained the 4 faculties of the soul (heart, intellect, mind, senses) and how they relate and function. ☘️Now putting this into a perspective: ➙When you touch someone with your hand (a physical touch), you are touching the soul through its "senses" ➙When you touch (or influence) someone with your thought (intellectually), you are touching their "mind" ➙When you touch someone with deeper feelings & emotions you are touching their "heart" ➤Recommended post: Soul & Soul-consciousness and The Healing Embrace of God ———————————— 𝐵𝑒 𝐵𝓁𝑒𝓈𝓈𝑒𝒹..✨ Oᑎ ᘜOᗪᒪY SᗴᖇᐯIᑕᗴ, 𝕸𝖆𝖓𝖆𝖌𝖊𝖗, 𝕾𝖆𝖒𝖆𝖉𝖍𝖆𝖓, 𝕾𝖍𝖎𝖛 𝕭𝖆𝖇𝖆 𝕾𝖊𝖗𝖛𝖎𝖈𝖊𝖘 𝕴𝖓𝖎𝖙𝖎𝖆𝖙𝖎𝖛𝖊 (SBSI)