Brahma Kumaris Forum

Title: "𝙁𝙞𝙭𝙚𝙙 𝘿𝙧𝙖𝙢𝙖 𝙊𝙍 𝙒𝙚 𝘾𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙤𝙬𝙣 𝙍𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙩𝙮?" Question: 𝘈𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘥 𝘪𝘯 𝘢 𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘸𝘦𝘳 𝘰𝘯 𝘚𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘥𝘩𝘢𝘯, 𝘮𝘺 𝘴𝘰𝘶𝘭 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘢𝘯 '𝘪𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘰𝘳𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨' 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘮𝘺 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘺 𝘰𝘶𝘵. 𝘈𝘯𝘥 𝘪𝘧 𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦 (𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘷𝘦) 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰 '𝘱𝘶𝘳𝘶𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘩'. 𝘚𝘰 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘮𝘺 𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦 𝘮𝘺 𝘥𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘺, 𝘰𝘳 𝘢𝘮 𝘐 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘵𝘰𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥 𝘣𝘺 𝘥𝘳𝘢𝘮𝘢 𝘰𝘳 𝘸𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦 𝘪𝘵 𝘣𝘺 𝘢 𝘴𝘮𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘤𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘨𝘦. ✶𝗔𝗱𝗺𝗶𝗻: 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘧𝘶𝘭, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘶𝘮 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 (𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺/𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴). 𝘏𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘶𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘰𝘯𝘦 & 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴. "𝙎𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙎𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜" The following was written in response to a query we received on our Samadhan WhatsApp group in Nov 2024. 𝗔𝗡𝗦𝗪𝗘𝗥 i see you are 'encircling' around the same point, even as you declared that you do understand. So let us take a visit again and explain in more clear terms >> First The entire point is—"𝕐𝕠𝕦 𝕒𝕣𝕖 𝕓𝕠𝕦𝕟𝕕 𝕓𝕪 𝕟𝕠-𝕠𝕟𝕖 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕟𝕠-𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕟𝕘, 𝕓𝕦𝕥 𝕪𝕠𝕦𝕣 𝕠𝕨𝕟 𝕔𝕙𝕠𝕚𝕔𝕖𝕤" God has given this "free-will" to every soul on Earth and in heaven. No one comes here only to experience a role in a fixed drama, but to CREATE it!... We are not just a 'part' of this drama, but the 'creator' of it. You are not only the 'actor' but also the 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐨𝐫 of this drama. 🪴No force of the universe makes you do what your soul did not 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐝. Simply because all our experience is born from the original thought of 'intention'. You are "always at choice"... in fact, when you make a choice, the universe's job is to "help you manifest it"... so the question of "drama makes me do this or that" must disappear. 𝗘𝘀𝘀𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗠𝗮𝗻𝗶𝗳𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 Our every thought is a "magnet" that pulls our reality closer... the more you THINK, SPEAK, WRITE, and ACT towards a reality, the more REAL it becomes in your life. ☘️so even as we say DRAMA REPEATS, that only means "whatever choices you make NOW, is 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐫𝐝𝐞𝐝 in your soul for eternity" (( so make better choices, for which you shall never regret, and always find harmony with them )) All there is is NOW... there is no past or future that exist somewhere out of your mind... Both past and future are 'inner experiences'. All that exist outside, is the PRESENT MOMENT... the moment in which we have 'free-will' and 'free-choice' to think, speak, do, and experience whatever we choose. 🪻if you get a 'leser thought' about someone, THINK AGAIN... 𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐚 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭 in your mind... house many such thoughts (for yourself & others), and you will grow 𝐚 𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞, 𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐞 & 𝐛𝐞𝐚𝐮𝐭𝐲 which would bear its fruit for a long time. 𝗥𝗲𝗺𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿: "𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘧𝘢𝘳𝘮𝘦𝘳 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘢𝘳𝘮, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘦𝘯𝘫𝘰𝘺𝘦𝘳 𝘰𝘧 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘪𝘵𝘴 𝘧𝘳𝘶𝘪𝘵𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘧𝘭𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘳𝘴". And the farm remembers what was grown on it, for a long time. ——————————— 🍁Finally—the question of "whether we can only change a percentage of our life after taking birth"—then here is the answer to that👉 We have already explained this in greater detail when we wrote on '𝐍𝐞𝐚𝐫 𝐃𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐡 𝐄𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞𝐬' (NDE) through which we received this information (knowledge) on how the soul prepares its "life story" before taking the birth, in order to reach its 𝐬𝐨𝐮𝐥-𝐩𝐮𝐫𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞. 🌈The important part here is that—we get to choose 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲 before taking the birth... BUT, the 𝚌𝚑𝚘𝚒𝚌𝚎𝚜 & 𝚍𝚎𝚌𝚒𝚜𝚒𝚘𝚗𝚜 we make in 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐝𝐚𝐲 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 are not necessarily inspired from the "original choice" we made before taking birth. Our daily decisons are more or less purely backed by FREE-WILL... We choose what we think will serve us, ins't it? or, do you ask God what choice to make? Most people dont... They only PRAY to god after making a choice (not before)... and God do not interfere with the 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐮𝐥𝐭 of your karma. The prayer therefore, should be made 𝐛𝐞𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐞 making the choice, before taking the first step. ☝️I think all points are now cleared through the above paragraphs.... Now, does this make home in your heart now? is it more clear. ✶For 𝕞𝕠𝕣𝕖 𝕚𝕟𝕗𝕠𝕣𝕞𝕒𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟 & 𝕗𝕦𝕣𝕥𝕙𝕖𝕣 𝕦𝕟𝕕𝕖𝕣𝕤𝕥𝕒𝕟𝕕𝕚𝕟𝕘𝕤, please visit our post 𝗜𝘀 𝗟𝗶𝗳𝗲 & 𝗗𝗿𝗮𝗺𝗮 𝗽𝗿𝗲𝗱𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗲𝗱? ———————————— Oᑎ ᘜOᗪᒪY SᗴᖇᐯIᑕᗴ, 𝕸𝖆𝖓𝖆𝖌𝖊𝖗, 𝕾𝖆𝖒𝖆𝖉𝖍𝖆𝖓, 𝕾𝖍𝖎𝖛 𝕭𝖆𝖇𝖆 𝕾𝖊𝖗𝖛𝖎𝖈𝖊𝖘 𝕴𝖓𝖎𝖙𝖎𝖆𝖙𝖎𝖛𝖊 (SBSI)

Foreword: A true friendship is grounded in trust, honesty, and genuine care, where both individuals feel seen and valued for who they truly are. It does not demand perfection but embraces imperfections of each other, while definitely offering insight, opinion, and support to each other whenever needed. A true friendship nurtures growth through understanding and empathy. In a true friendship, comfort and security allow for openness, vulnerability, and support through both highs and lows. Ultimately, it reflects the freedom to be oneself without fear of judgment, creating a bond that flourishes and strengthen over time. The following was written in response to a query we received on our Samadhan WhatsApp group in June 2024. Query: I have a friend who is lazy and always gets late in everything. Sometimes i get agitated and speak harsh words to her. I want to know how to handle this friendship the right way. Response: 🌴Like any other relationship, the core of friendship is "love" and especially in this relationship—"unconditional love & acceptance" 🌷This is what YOU would expect from a good friend, wont you? Someone with whom you can be yourself without worrying of judgements and criticism... Won't you enjoy that kind of friendship? 🪻If you truly are a good friend > that is > if you truly love your friend, then let them (her/him) be themself (herself/himself) >> Taking time, more of less, is taking time none the less... but she would be much 'happier' and 'comfortable' in your company if you stop judging her for this little aspect of "being late". 🍀Your friendship will flourish and strengthen if you appreciate her qualities, comfort her in your presense and help her to do things quicker (instead of criticising her for being late) Essence of Friendship: "Be The Friend, As You Wish A Good Friend Of Yours To Be" Quotes on Friendship ✱𝐇𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐪𝐮𝐨𝐭𝐞𝐬 𝐨𝐧 "𝗙𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗱𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽" 𝐛𝐲 𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐨𝐰𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤𝐞𝐫𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐰𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐬: A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you. A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out. A friend is someone who makes it easy to believe in yourself. A friend is someone who knows the song of your soul, and sings it back to you when you have forgotten the words. Friendship is not about whom you have known the longest; it is about who came and never left your side. ———————————— 𝐵𝓁𝑒𝓈𝓈𝒾𝓃𝑔𝓈... Oᑎ ᘜOᗪᒪY SᗴᖇᐯIᑕᗴ, 𝕸𝖆𝖓𝖆𝖌𝖊𝖗, 𝕾𝖆𝖒𝖆𝖉𝖍𝖆𝖓, 𝕾𝖍𝖎𝖛 𝕭𝖆𝖇𝖆 𝕾𝖊𝖗𝖛𝖎𝖈𝖊𝖘 𝕴𝖓𝖎𝖙𝖎𝖆𝖙𝖎𝖛𝖊 (SBSI)

Being an 'introvert' means feeling energized by spending time alone or in quieter settings rather than actively seeking stimulation from large crowds or constant social interaction. Introverts often engage in reflective thinking, preferring deep, meaningful conversations over small talk. They value 'solitude' as a means of recharging their mental and emotional batteries, which helps them thrive in environments that respect personal space and privacy. Introversion: A Virtue Introversion, often misunderstood as shyness or aloofness, can be seen as a 'virtue' because it develops self-reflection and genuine understanding in relationships. Instead of scattering their energy, introverts channel their focus inward, cultivating richer inner lives and creative insight. This quality can lead to thoughtful decision-making and meaningful connections, as introverts tend to more genuine, real, and intelligent; rather than artificial and emotional. Title: "𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙑𝙞𝙧𝙩𝙪𝙚 𝙊𝙛 𝘽𝙚𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙄𝙣𝙩𝙧𝙤𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙩" Subtitle: 𝙻𝚎𝚊𝚛𝚗 𝚊𝚋𝚘𝚞𝚝 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚠𝚊𝚢 𝚘𝚏 𝚕𝚒𝚟𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚚𝚞𝚊𝚕𝚒𝚝𝚒𝚎𝚜 𝚘𝚏 𝚊𝚗 𝚒𝚗𝚝𝚛𝚘𝚟𝚎𝚛𝚝 (𝚛𝚎𝚜𝚎𝚛𝚟𝚎𝚍) 𝚙𝚎𝚛𝚜𝚘𝚗. ✶𝗔𝗱𝗺𝗶𝗻: 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘧𝘶𝘭, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘶𝘮 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 (𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺/𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴). 𝘏𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘶𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘰𝘯𝘦 & 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴. "𝙎𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙎𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜" The following was written in response to a query we received on our Samadhan WhatsApp group in June 2024. ———————————— 🌴First of all, nothing is universally good or bad. And surely 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐭 (or) be able to 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐚𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐞 is a "virtue" (quality) of a human being. 🍀𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝—just living alone (or being alone) does not mean you have failed in creating good relationships. Just as being around dozens of people would not mean that you are great in maintaining relationships, or that you are very virtuous (a nice person). ☘️Just as anything else in life, 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 "𝐜𝐡𝐨𝐢𝐜𝐞". In fact, those who are mostly alone (or with very few close relationships) are the ones who are 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐯𝐚𝐥𝐮𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 (compared to those who are surrounded by dozens of people) 🪴The simple reason is that—"𝙒𝙚 𝙫𝙖𝙡𝙪𝙚 𝙢𝙤𝙧𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨 𝙬𝙚 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙡𝙚𝙨𝙨" (the lesser close relationships we keep, the more we value and nurture them). Therefore, 𝐤𝐞𝐞𝐩 𝐟𝐚𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐖𝐇𝐎 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐀𝐑𝐄... you are this for a reason. Do Not try to be like someone else. Do Not lose your-self in the process of life... Indeed, 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚 𝙞𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙘𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙤𝙛 "𝙛𝙞𝙣𝙙𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙩𝙧𝙪𝙚 𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛". ✚To understand life & its process the deeper way, please read our post 𝗝𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗲𝘆 𝗼𝗳 𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗰𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 ———————————— 𝗕𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗜𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘁 Now we will touch the second part of your question: 🌻Being introvert must be seen as a "virtue" of any human being. Because you will find that those who are introvert have constant conversation with their "inner self" (call it the 𝚜𝚒𝚡𝚝𝚑 𝚜𝚎𝚗𝚜𝚎 or 𝙶𝚘𝚍'𝚜 𝚟𝚘𝚒𝚌𝚎) and thus 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐥𝐨𝐬𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐭𝐡—they are more likely to 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐝𝐚𝐦𝐚𝐠𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐧𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫—𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝘀𝗲𝗿 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗳𝗹𝗲𝗰𝘁𝘀 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝙥𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙚, 𝙬𝙞𝙨𝙙𝙤𝙢, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙥𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚. 🌈Therefore, 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐯𝐚𝐥𝐮𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭. Do not get carried away by the false light of the world. Do not force yourself to be extrovert or be like someone else. Remember: No one has aciheved success by being or doing something that they did not want to. ———————————— ✱ 𝗨𝘀𝗲𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝗟𝗶𝗻𝗸𝘀 ✱ We have a lot many articles and forum posts that can help & guide you. I would highly recommend you to read & follow them one by one: 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗙𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗱𝘀? (practical suggestions) 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗥𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗱𝗲𝗰𝗶𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀? AudioBook: 𝗖𝗼𝗻𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗚𝗼𝗱 (highly recommended for advance spiritual understanding) ———————————— 𝐵𝓁𝑒𝓈𝓈𝒾𝓃𝑔𝓈... Oᑎ ᘜOᗪᒪY SᗴᖇᐯIᑕᗴ, 𝕸𝖆𝖓𝖆𝖌𝖊𝖗, 𝕾𝖆𝖒𝖆𝖉𝖍𝖆𝖓, 𝕾𝖍𝖎𝖛 𝕭𝖆𝖇𝖆 𝕾𝖊𝖗𝖛𝖎𝖈𝖊𝖘 𝕴𝖓𝖎𝖙𝖎𝖆𝖙𝖎𝖛𝖊 (SBSI)