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This is our in-detail guidance on "General & Practical Advise on Husband Wife Relationship" (To Resolve Conflict) Note : This guidance and advise is given to the wife . But even a husband can use this by just replacing the word "wife" with "husband" (and vice versa) wherever you find on this post. Case : Here a wife was seeking help regarding her husband being overpowering with anger issues. Guidance is given to resolve this relationship peacefully and wisely with a spiritual insight on "karmic laws" and a regular practise of affirmations (Swamaan) and RajYog meditation. ✶ Foreword ➤ This is a draft & our 'in-general' advice on the above matter. It covers main/imp points and it is onto the person how they apply this spiritual insight and advice as per their situation . 🌱We understand that the life is designed by our own deeds (karma) . Just as that, your relationships are designed by how you and the other person share a karmic account or thoughts about each other, or had shared in past life/lives. 🌿The nature of your relationship with your husband's soul is caused by the karmic account which you both souls had shared during past birth/s (journey) ☘️In this in-detail guidance, we are giving you "general advise" and insight/wisdom that true love is in detachment from your expectations from the other person. True Love means: "respecting each other", "well-wishing" for each other, "being each other's true friend", and being a "soul-mate" of each other. ★ Important 👉 While taking ANY step forward in this relationship, your STATE OF MIND should be calm, clear and detached . This is must. When your state of mind is clear and detached from temporary emotion/feelings, you will be able to make the better choice , which will reward you in the future. 🌻 When you are ' attached ' to someone, you can never be fully satisfied and thus happy. God, the Supreme Soul himself has taught us, that true love is when you stay ' detached ' from other person's behaviour and yet help them to transform/overcome their weakness. You can apply this wisdom and help your husband to overcome his weakness (of anger); thus resolve the situation peacefully... ✤ Practical Wisdom ✤ 👉 When and if your husband is in a bad mood, you should calm him down ... For example: Cook his favourite food, give a head massage, put a relaxing music & best to put on our " Awakening with Brahma Kumaris " series on YouTube while you eat the dinner together. 👉Watch the series on " Relationship management " hosted by Sister Shivani . 🌿Here is full playlist 👉 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uXMRxwyzVe0&list=PL6mmKavEt551HqVGwRL1hqVi9TQD-03Hp (Save this YouTube playlist) ☘️Find more such " relationship " related talks by Sister Shivani (on YouTube) which would be surely helpful to you in many ways... Just search youtube as " Bk shivani on healing relationship " or similar. True Meaning of Love The meaning of a true love is to be pure... Love teaches also to sacrifice . We should put our ego besides and develop selfless love for each other... This way, every relationship can be beautiful. Keep the aim to maintain peace and harmony in your home, in your life, no matter what happen . Because remember that tomorrow you will forget the harsh words of your husband... time heals every wound. The Other Option Along with the above-shared guidance on resolving the situation, we also provide a practical way out in case of a more challenging circumstance. So, if the situation becomes out of control, it is best to leave your husband alone and go away from him for a while ... And in wider sense, if you are financially independent , then taking a divorce is a wiser and easier option. ➥ The videos and Awakening episodes on ' Healing Relationship ' and ' Karmic Patterns ' (search on YT) will help you a lot in this process to understand the law of karma/soul connections and resolve any situation peacefully... Peace & Patience Wins 🌷When your husband will see you staying CALM, always smiling and not reacting to his anger, even he will calm down. The situation will resolve, and you both will live in harmony ... This is just as water cools down the fire... For this, respecting each other is also important . ➥ See each other as a "companion" and a child of God... Know that we all human beings have both virtues and weaknesses ... It is upto us what we want to see in others. If you go into a conflict, remember his virtues (everything good about him). Tip : Learn 7 virtues of Soul Remember : " When our mind is at peace, there is clarity in our thoughts. When there is clarity in thoughts, we take the right decision, which leads to a better, favourable future for us. " How to Keep Mind calm & peaceful? Learn the method, and then practice RajYog meditation ... Here is the best guidebook 👉 https://www.shivbabas.org/rajyoga-meditation (on this page, learn the method, aim and purpose of RajYoga meditation ... and then start practice using the guided commentaries .... for this, click "Start Now" button on above page) 🌷This is all from us... Now you apply the given advice as per your situation and comfort. Make the better choice with a clear and detached state of mind. Blessings... On Godly World Service, Manager, Samadhan, Shiv Baba Services Initiative

This is our in-detail guidance written to an individual seeking guidance on how to forget past events, move ahead in life, and re-create life by taking better decisions. How to forgive and forget? (Please use the following as per your exact situation) ✶ Background ➙ Forgiving and Forgetting are 2 different things. Forgiving the self or someone else for their deeds is a simple "decision" which you can take... In this, spiritual wisdom and this understanding of "Karmic Patterns" does help. 🌴 Forgetting on other hand, is more of the " memory " which is hardly in our control. Nor is it necessary to try to forget something. In fact, the more you remember an event or a person (or his/her deeds and relationship you shared), the more that particular memory is "solidified" in the mind. 🌴Therefore, the best way to FORGET an event or a person, is to first send them vibrations of peace and blessings and then switch your mind back to your life... and move on . For this exactly, some very useful videos are provided on this response. ➤ Start practising Affirmations/Swamaan ⇗ daily morning and before sleep to elevate the spiritual/mental state. 🌻Consciously create such uplifting thoughts so as to increase your soul power . By thoughtfully replacing negative and waste thoughts with positive thoughts, you are developing a new thinking pattern . DO THIS CONSCIOUSLY for some time and after say a few months, as per the intensity of swaman practise, it will become your natural/default thinking pattern . 🌺 Create new beautiful happy memories to replace old ones . Create a new chapter, if not with others than with yourself ( i.e. self-talk, introversion, self-inspection, and spending time with yourself). ➤Give time for daily meditation. Along with meditation, working on your way of thinking & way of doing things will serve you in best way . Meditation gives us strength and develops silence power but we have to use it wisely in our daily life to get results. Learn RajYoga meditation from our official guide ➤ https://www.shivbabas.org/rajyoga-meditation ✤ Videos for You ✤ Speaker : BK Sister Shivani (Hindi, English mix) 1. Letting go of past hurt ➤ https://youtu.be/_vs1-O8Kqq8 2. How to forget the past ➤ https://youtu.be/zpR4hc8ZfVw 3. How to release hurt & pain ➤ https://youtu.be/bFIrvL5mJD0 4. Release old impressions about people ➤ https://youtu.be/OZk0WwfbaWs 5. MOVING ON from the Past ➤ https://youtu.be/tJZa2ZmQ7zg (English) ☝️Please watch all above given 5 videos one by one, in your free time... ✱ ADVISE  👉 We recommend doing  Swamaan Abhyas (practising affirmations) to empower the self from within, reminding ourself of our original virtues, our original powers. ★ Swaman Guide ➤ What is Swamaan and HOW TO practise it on this PDF 👉 https://files.shivbabas.org/wp-content/uploads/Swaman-Abhyas-Guide.pdf अच्छा... On Godly Service, Manager, Samadhan, SBSI

This is in-detailed response and guidance on how to deal with a love relationship (non-married) with a balance of heart and mind, of feelings and a balanced judgement. We have also provided spiritual guidance, practical wisdom and a series on "relationship" to understand more. ★Please go through the below "general advice" we give on such matters...you will find guidance to take the right decision. Foreword : This is a draft from our response written to a sister who was seeking guidance to resolve an obstacle on her marriage with a person whom she love. General & Practical Advise on a non-married love Relationship We do not give a specific/personal advise to such non-married "love relationship" matters, since we understand that the life is designed by our own deeds and our own karmic patterns . Just as that, your relationships are designed by how you and the other person share a karmic account or thoughts about each other, or had shared in past life/lives. ➥ Thus, we will give you our "general advise" and insight/wisdom that true love is in detachment from your expectations from the other person. Love means: "respecting each other", "well-wishing" for each other, "being each other's true friend", and being a "soul-mate" of each other. ➥ When you are ' attached ' to someone, you can never be fully satisfied and thus happy. God, the Supreme Soul himself has taught us, that true love is when you stay ' detached ' from other person's behavior and then help the other to transform/overcome their weaknesses. ✱ Important ➤ While taking ANY step forward in this relationship, your STATE OF MIND should be calm, clear and detached . This is must. When your state of mind is clear and detached from temporary emotions/feeling, you will be able to make the better choice which will reward you both in the future. One should not try to change others. We strongly understand and teach that "Real transformation comes from the Within" Practical Wisdom As far as to convince his parents for this marriage, we suggest you to do that in a thoughtful way . If you explain correctly, they will definitely understand. More important is that the boy should also be equally willing to marry you... Love should be from both sides if you expect it to last. There should be maturity of a lifelong promise to live together. If such a love exist, then path ahead will be created by its own. ➥ The meaning of love is pure ... Love teaches also to sacrifice . Hence if you try all your ways and fail, then sacrifice the marriage rather than fighting with anyone . If you both share a strong 'karmic account' (of past life) then only a lasting marriage is possible. This is what we learn from "laws of karma" and apply to life in any and every situation. Understand this and remain detached from the result of your tryings. ★We will suggest you to watch " Relationships " episodes of our " Awakening with Brahma Kumaris " TV series hosted by BK Sister Shivani . ❈ Here is the Full playlist ➤ https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6mmKavEt551HqVGwRL1hqVi9TQD-03Hp (Save this YouTube playlist) ➥ Find more such " relationship " related talks by Sister Shivani (on YouTube) which would be surely helpful to you in many ways... Just search as " Bk shivani on healing relationship " or similar. This is all from us... Now you apply the given advice as per your situation and comfort . Make the better choice with a clear and detached state of mind . On Godly World Service, Manager, Samadhan, The Shiv Baba Services Initiative