Brahma Kumaris Forum

Marriage, often envisioned as a lifelong partnership rooted in love and mutual support, can sometimes become a landscape of misunderstandings, unmet expectations, unresolved conflicts, and emotional distance. When communication falters and trust fades, the strain on the relationship often resonates inward, causing you to doubt your self-worth. Yet within these challenges lies an opportunity—not only to heal the relationship-bond but to rediscover and reclaim your inherent value. Healing a marital relationship and nurturing self-worth are deeply intertwined journeys, each requiring courage, vulnerability, and a willingness to grow (both together and individually). Title: "𝙃𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙃𝙪𝙨𝙗𝙖𝙣𝙙-𝙒𝙞𝙛𝙚 𝙍𝙚𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙥, 𝙎𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙝" Subtitle: 𝙾𝚞𝚛 𝚌𝚘𝚖𝚙𝚕𝚎𝚝𝚎 𝚐𝚞𝚒𝚍𝚊𝚗𝚌𝚎 𝚏𝚘𝚛 𝚑𝚎𝚊𝚕𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚊 𝚏𝚊𝚖𝚒𝚕𝚢 𝚜𝚒𝚝𝚞𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗, 𝚑𝚞𝚜𝚋𝚊𝚗𝚍-𝚠𝚒𝚏𝚎 𝚛𝚎𝚕𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗𝚜𝚑𝚒𝚙 & 𝚏𝚒𝚗𝚍𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚜𝚎𝚕𝚏-𝚠𝚘𝚛𝚝𝚑 { a helpful post } ✶𝗔𝗱𝗺𝗶𝗻: 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘧𝘶𝘭, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘶𝘮 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 (𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺/𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴). 𝘏𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘶𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 & 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴. "𝙎𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙎𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜" Share on WhatsApp⇗ The following was written in response to a query we received on our Samadhan WhatsApp group in May 2025. So please read the following in the same context. ———————————— 🌴The following guidance is based on the information you have provided in your query message. Please read nicely and see what you can follow. Here is our 𝕡𝕠𝕚𝕟𝕥-𝕨𝕚𝕤𝕖 detailed insights and guidance, touching all aspects of your present situation👉 1. 𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝘄𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗵 & 𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗲 Firstly—as we understand, there are a few things 𝐭𝐨 𝐧𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐠𝐧𝐢𝐬𝐞: Your emotions—𝚑𝚞𝚛𝚝, 𝚏𝚛𝚞𝚜𝚝𝚛𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗, 𝚏𝚎𝚊𝚛 𝚘𝚏 𝚕𝚘𝚗𝚎𝚕𝚒𝚗𝚎𝚜𝚜—are valid. Living in an environment where you sometimes face criticism, regular unfair treatment, and emotional inconsistency from loved ones can reduce 'self-esteem' over time. 𝗥𝗲𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳: ➥ I deserve 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭, both in words and actions. ➥ My 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐢𝐛𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 (financial, emotional, household) matters, and should not be weaponized against you. ➥ Silent treatment, blame-shifting, and threats to abandon the relationship are forms of 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐩𝐮𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧. These behaviors are 'not' healthy expressions of love or partnership. 2. 𝗕𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗸 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗖𝘆𝗰𝗹𝗲 You describe a recurring pattern: Arguments → silent treatment → your apology → temporary peace. This cycle can create a trauma bond, where 𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐫 𝐨𝐟 𝐚𝐛𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐨𝐧𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 (of being alone) keeps you within this cycle. 𝗔𝘀𝗸 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳: ➥ Does your husband 'acknowledge' his role in conflicts, or does he await an apology from you? ➥ Are you 'respected' for who you are, and your contribution to the family? ➥ Do you feel 'emotionally safe' and FREE enough to express yourself fully? ☘️The answers to these questions is the answer to whether this relationship is based on natural love, mutual respect, and understanding—and whether you are seen and cared by everyone. And of course, before this, must you ask yourself: "Do i give my best to maintain a positive atmosphere? Do i love & respect everyone?" 3. 𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗘𝗺𝗽𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 Your fear of 'loneliness' and then 'attachment' to your husband are understandable, but these feelings can trap you in a cycle, as explained earlier. So here are our 𝟑 𝐬𝐮𝐠𝐠𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 for you to "reclaim" your self-worth: 𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗽𝗲𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 As a working woman, you have already built 'financial' independence—now extend this to your 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞. Write a diary (journal your every day life and write down what happened and how you felt today), talk with trusted friends, and "stay connected" to this divine platform (Samadhan) where you will receive 𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 & 𝐞𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫 𝐦𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐚𝐠𝐞𝐬 every day. 𝗣𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝗥𝗮𝗷𝗬𝗼𝗴 (𝗺𝗲𝗱𝗶𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻) Connect to Shiv baba (God, the supreme soul) through what we call RajYog (becoming 𝚜𝚘𝚞𝚕-𝚌𝚘𝚗𝚜𝚌𝚒𝚘𝚞𝚜 & remembering our father, 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐞𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐞, 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 & 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐭𝐡... And in every day life matters, ask yourself before making any choice: “𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘮𝘺 𝘩𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘢𝘥𝘷𝘪𝘴𝘦 𝘮𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰?” (or "𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘎𝘰𝘥 𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘮𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰?") 𝗖𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝗯𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 Politely but firmly—disengage (𝐝𝐞𝐭𝐚𝐜𝐡 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 from the situation & the emotions) when taunts or criticism arise (e.g., “I won’t participate in this conversation”). 𝐑𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐦𝐛𝐞𝐫: Boundaries are not about changing others but protecting your PEACE. 4. 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗺𝘂𝗻𝗶𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗼𝗹𝘃𝗲 When your husband is receptive and 'open to listen' during those peace-moments, try framing the conversation (politely) around "your needs" rather than accusations: “I feel hurt and isolated when disagreements lead to days of silence. Can we find a way to resolve conflicts without shutting down?” “When your parents criticize me, I need to feel supported by you. How can we work together on this?” If he dismisses or blames you, it may signal an unwillingness to change—a critical insight that can help you decide the next steps. 5. 𝗚𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗛𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗦𝗮𝗸𝗮𝘀𝗵 A spiritual and deeply renewing way to HEAL any relationship is—sending them your 𝙎𝙖𝙠𝙖𝙨𝙝 (positive and transformative vibrations/thoughts with an intention to 'heal' the relationship) ➤Please read our detailed guidance on our post Sakash (Meaning, Method, Purpose), follow its structure & apply it. ———————————— Helpful Links Please read & follow all the given links one by one to find maximum guidance: ➤Post: Self-love, Heal Hurt, End Attachments ➤Post: Healing a 'Family situation' ➤Post: Overcoming Emotional Hurt 🍎The best way to get "constant guidance" is to follow our series episodes on "Healing & managing Relationships" in a variety of situations and cases. The series is under our popular TV program 𝘼𝙬𝙖𝙠𝙚𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝘽𝙧𝙖𝙝𝙢𝙖 𝙆𝙪𝙢𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙨 hosted by BK sister Shivani. ➤Series one ('𝐑𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬') https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6mmKavEt551HqVGwRL1hqVi9TQD-03Hp ➤Series two ('𝐑𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐌𝐚𝐧𝐚𝐠𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭') https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLsc5xwFxdoFzdVvaHu2Uhw2X-k9ecVGlR ☝️Watch both series from above shared playlists. Watch regularly to keep yourself on the path and feel motivated. ✶𝗔𝗱𝗺𝗶𝗻: 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘧𝘶𝘭, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘶𝘮 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 (𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺/𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴). 𝘏𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘶𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 & 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴. "𝙎𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙎𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜" Share on WhatsApp⇗ ———————————— 𝐵𝑒 𝐵𝓁𝑒𝓈𝓈𝑒𝒹..✨ Oᑎ ᘜOᗪᒪY SᗴᖇᐯIᑕᗴ, 𝕸𝖆𝖓𝖆𝖌𝖊𝖗, 𝕾𝖆𝖒𝖆𝖉𝖍𝖆𝖓, 𝕾𝖍𝖎𝖛 𝕭𝖆𝖇𝖆 𝕾𝖊𝖗𝖛𝖎𝖈𝖊𝖘 𝕴𝖓𝖎𝖙𝖎𝖆𝖙𝖎𝖛𝖊 (SBSI)

Our thoughts shape how we "𝚏𝚎𝚎𝚕, 𝚊𝚌𝚝, 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚎𝚡𝚙𝚎𝚛𝚒𝚎𝚗𝚌𝚎" life—but they can sometimes become overwhelming, distracting, or negative. Learning how to control your thoughts doesn’t mean stopping them completely, but guiding them towards being POSITIVE, in a healthy way, more aligned with your goals (purpose). Unwanted Thoughts The thoughts we would like to control, are not just every thought, but only those 'unwanted' thoughts which rises waves in the silent ocean of the mind. Those thoughts which disturbs our peace and clarity. We know that "positive thinking" and "optimism" can actually improve our health and physical well-being. But unwanted thoughts can fill us with negative emotions and make us feel defeated. They take us away from the present moment by having us dwell on the past or feel anxious about the future. With unwanted thoughts, we may struggle with negative self-talk as we feel less confident, have more self-doubt, and have poor self-esteem. How to Control Overthinking? Answer: "Obverve/focus on the gaps between two thoughts" Between one thought and the next, there exists a fleeting, silent space. It is not thought. It isn't an emotion. It is a pure presence—like the pause between heartbeats, or the silence between musical notes. When you become "aware" of this gap, you slip out of the cycle of overthinking and sit on the calm observer’s seat. How to Focus on the Gaps: 1. Close your eyes. 2. Watch your thoughts. Don't resist them—just watch. 3. Notice when one thought ends and before the next begins. 4. Gently rest your attention on that empty space. It might be just a split-second. That’s okay. With awareness, it stretches. Why This Works When you focus on the gap, you are no longer riding the waves—you’re watching the ocean. Overthinking thrives on momentum; the gap breaks that momentum. It dissolves the narrative, the analysis, the loop. It brings you to the still point, where "clarity" lives. Controlling and Managing Thoughts Controlling thoughts begins with mindful awareness—observing them without judgment to create mental distance. Techniques like cognitive restructuring help challenge irrational patterns by reframing negativity into balanced perspectives. Redirecting focus toward purposeful activities and positive affirmations can shift mental energy constructively. Regular practices such as meditation and journaling (writing a daily diary) strengthen focus and emotional regulation, while consistent self-compassion fosters patience, acknowledging that thoughts are transient and manageable rather than needing suppression. Over time, this intentional guidance cultivates mental resilience and clarity. By becoming "aware" of what you’re thinking and choosing where to place your attention, you can reduce stress, improve concentration, and feel more at peace. Therefore, meditation is not about controlling the thoughts, but being aware of them and thus, more in control of them. Every thought is a creative energy that we send out the universe... and it is then "manifested" in our reality (the more we think & work towards that thought) Suggestion: Do watch this clip from a world bestselling book Conversations With God >> the clip is on "CREATE" where god explains how we create our reality: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GzPA1oGfVQA&list=PLs-ebcevZI7lM2ndmNPywZtLeFKUhZDQb Next Please read & follow our detailed post on: ➤Overcoming Negative Thoughts ➤How to 'Detox' the mind? ➤The 'Overthinking' issue ☝️Please read all 3 posts one by one for maximum guidance. Video: "Remote control" of your thoughts & emotions (BK sister Shivani) 'Remote Control' Of Your Emotions: Part 2: BK Shivani (English) Video: How to Overcome Compulsive Emotional Patterns? (Sadhguru) How to Overcome Compulsive Emotional Patterns? | Sadhguru Answers Video: How to Stop Negative Thoughts & Feelings? (Sandeep Maheshwari) How to Stop Negative Thoughts & Feelings? By Sandeep Maheshwari I Hindi EXTRA: Learn manifestation through our detailed guide👉 https://www.shivbabas.org/forum/question-answers/best-method-of-manifestation ~ Manager, Samadhan, SBSI

Life is an ever-unfolding journey marked not only by moments of joy and triumph but also by those challenges that test our resilience, reshape our perspectives, and demand growth. Whether navigating personal setbacks, societal upheavals, or global crises, adversity is a universal thread woven into the human experience—one that can either unravel us or become the catalyst for profound self-transformation. "Living and Growing Amidst Challenges" explores how struggles, when met with courage and adaptability, can nurture strength, deepen empathy, and reveal hidden paths forward. This article post offerrs and brings out perseverance, spiritual insight, a mindset shift, and unwavering FAITH during uncertainty. Must read till the end. Title: "𝙇𝙞𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜 & 𝙂𝙧𝙤𝙬𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝘼𝙢𝙞𝙙𝙨𝙩 𝘾𝙝𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙚𝙣𝙜𝙚𝙨" Subtitle: 𝙶𝚞𝚒𝚍𝚊𝚗𝚌𝚎 𝚝𝚘 𝚗𝚊𝚟𝚒𝚐𝚊𝚝𝚎 𝚎𝚟𝚎𝚛𝚢 𝚍𝚊𝚢 𝚌𝚑𝚊𝚕𝚕𝚎𝚗𝚐𝚎𝚜 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚕𝚒𝚐𝚑𝚝 𝚘𝚏 𝚕𝚘𝚟𝚎 & 𝚠𝚒𝚜𝚍𝚘𝚖 ✶𝗔𝗱𝗺𝗶𝗻: 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘧𝘶𝘭, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘶𝘮 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 (𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺/𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴). 𝘏𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘶𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 & 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴. "𝙎𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙎𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜" Share on WhatsApp⇗ The following was written in response to a query we received on our Samadhan WhatsApp group in May 2025. So please read the following in the same context. ———————————— 🌿This would be a 'point-wise' guidance for every aspect that you mentioned in your original message. And i am happy to see how nicely you have described your situation and asked for guidance. Know that not only today, but you will continue to receive the 𝕓𝕖𝕤𝕥 𝕠𝕗 𝕘𝕦𝕚𝕕𝕒𝕟𝕔𝕖 and 𝕥𝕚𝕞𝕖𝕝𝕪 𝕤𝕦𝕡𝕡𝕠𝕣𝕥 through this group. "𝙏𝙚𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙏𝙞𝙢𝙚𝙨 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝘽𝙡𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙚𝙙 𝙏𝙞𝙢𝙚𝙨" The moments when you are tested and when there are challenges, you are closest to god... The father is your 'shelter' and your 'solace'... It only seems difficult if you make yourself alone... so see not what is outside, but what is WITHIN... hear not what they say, but the voice that speaks within you. ➤Recommended post: Testing Times are Blessed Times "𝘾𝙝𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙚𝙣𝙜𝙚𝙨 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙥𝙪𝙣𝙞𝙨𝙝𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩, 𝙗𝙪𝙩 𝙥𝙧𝙚𝙥𝙖𝙧𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣" if it seems that you are going through a lot, believe that YOU ARE BEING PREPARED for the gifts that you are to receive ahead... for no gift comes without preparation... whole your being will be 'prepared' to HOLD that blessing, that gift... You are being made 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫 & 𝐰𝐢𝐬𝐞𝐫... so do not endure it, but ENJOY it ! ➤Recommended post: Healing Embrace of God Guidance The entire guidance will be grouped in 3 points: Point 1 You mentioned how your 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐲𝐥𝐞 (𝚠𝚊𝚔𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚞𝚙 𝚎𝚊𝚛𝚕𝚢, 𝚖𝚎𝚍𝚒𝚝𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗, 𝚖𝚞𝚛𝚕𝚒, 𝚜𝚝𝚞𝚍𝚢) does not coalign with that of your roommates. As you are aligning to a satvik life, guided by discipline and meant for your spiritual-welfare. The first thing i would like you to 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰, 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐬𝐞 & 𝐫𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐦𝐛𝐞𝐫 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 >> Those are not your enemies, neither are you there to tolerate their presence and contradicting nature (lifestyle)... They are a providing you with a "contrast" which you are meant to use in order to make your own Purusharth faster. 𝗧𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 If everything is 'perfect' and 'aligned' to your lifestyle and liking, then would you do your purusharth as 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐲 as you would, when things around you are 'in contrast' to your spiritual stage... The 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 who challenge you, the 𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 that irritates, and the 𝐚𝐝𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 that troubles you—are not obstacles, but 𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐩𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐬. You step on them and make a jump. They are 'catalysts' for your spiritual awakening. So see them not as troublemakers, but as those who are in trouble. 🌈Your presence is meant to touch them POSITIVELY (and not vice versa). You are their 𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐥 that god has sent. When you see yourself this way, 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐛𝐥𝐞𝐬 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐫. Because you know who is your 'protector' and your 'guide'. All angels are constantly guided by the divine (god)... What force do you think connected you to this platform, so you could get this guidance? Point 2 𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙏𝙤 𝘿𝙤? Now that you have taken in the POINT ONE, what you are to do as a solution, is 𝐦𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐞—wake up early, sit for Amritvela Yog (meditation), followed by 25 minutes of Murli. ➤Get ALL sources of Daily Murli 🪷But with this, also try not to interfere in their way of living... Most importantly, DO NOT THINK about them... Because every thought you create for them, is a ripple that reach them, and 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐨𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐝𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮... and you do not want that, do you? So the solution is 𝐭𝐨 𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐚𝐠𝐞 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐢𝐧 𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐝𝐲, 𝐫𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐦𝐛𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐒𝐡𝐢𝐯 𝐛𝐚𝐛𝐚, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐟𝐨𝐜𝐮𝐬 𝐨𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐨𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐠𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐝𝐲. We also recommend you to put a headphone all the time and hear Shiv Baba's songs. ➤𝙎𝙝𝙞𝙫 𝘽𝙖𝙗𝙖 𝙠𝙚 𝙂𝙚𝙚𝙩 Songs Library: https://www.shivbabas.org/songs (online, lyrics & free download) Audio Playlist: https://www.shivbabas.org/bk-songs-playlist (playlist of 130) Point 3 Understanding your situation through your message, it is clear that you are giong through a test on "adjusting" >> All people and situations created around you are not only to enhance your "power to adjust" but also 𝐞𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧 𝐚 𝐝𝐞𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐫 𝐰𝐚𝐲. I know you feel it within. Every time you successfully pass a day around them, you feel stronger than you were yesterday. Do you see this? This setup is not to pull you down, but 𝐭𝐨 𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐬𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐮𝐩. When time is less, this is how a soul can become a great purusharthi: "𝐛𝐲 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧 𝐚 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐝𝐢𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧" >> where the soul is tested in many ways, and in this the soul LEARN and GROW... All of life is a "process" >> so do not see struggles as tests, but rather "preparation" (a process) that is preparing you for what is to come next... You are '𝐞𝐯𝐨𝐥𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠' every day, every moment. ➤Every time you choose LOVE (over fear), PEACE (over chaos), and TRUTH (over Maya), you are evolving higher, and coming closer to god. Directions For You You are advised 'never' to compromise with your divine values of 𝐩𝐮𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐲, 𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐞, 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞, 𝐣𝐨𝐲 & 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐭𝐡. Never loose these qualities. You know this is your 𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐮𝐫𝐞... But also, do not attract the negatives by thinking about them... 𝐒𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐝𝐚𝐲 𝐚 𝐟𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐡... Forget how someone behaved with you yesterday... (We know this may sound difficult to you right now, but this is the way you need to walk... and it will be made easy) Because when you see others with the lens of yesterday, they get your vibrations... and they behave/interact with you in the same way again... So instead, START LOVING, BEING MORE KIND, and SMILE TO THEM... Even when you do this, you should 𝐫𝐞𝐦𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐝𝐞𝐭𝐚𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐝, do not involve in their group talks. This is the BALANCE you need to achieve... a balance of BEING KIND to them and BEING YOURSELF with yourself. ➥See them as those who are suffering from Maya... and 𝐛𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐭𝐞 to them. 𝐁𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦... as you would bless an illness, so it heals. 𝗘𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 This is a VERY important point. You need to "expect" better treatment from everyone (your roommates, parents, etc). Because 𝐲𝐨𝐮 '𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭' 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 '𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭' >> Remember this, always. Tip: Please read our beautiful post: 𝐆𝐮𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐭𝐨 '𝐌𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐟𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧' 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝘆 𝗖𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗲𝗱 Above guidance was for you to adopt immediately. But you will see that the journey will have its obstacles and challenges, as you are living around such an atmosphere. So this group, this platform will be 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐠𝐮𝐢𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐨𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐞. Read those "daily messages" i post on our groups. They are meant for 𝚞𝚙𝚕𝚒𝚏𝚝𝚖𝚎𝚗𝚝, 𝚖𝚘𝚝𝚒𝚟𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗, 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚒𝚗𝚜𝚙𝚒𝚛𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗. ➤𝐌𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐡𝐥𝐲 𝐈𝐧𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐌𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐚𝐠𝐞𝐬 (lifechanging words from god) ✶𝗔𝗱𝗺𝗶𝗻: 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘧𝘶𝘭, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘶𝘮 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 (𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺/𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴). 𝘏𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘶𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 & 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴. "𝙎𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙎𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜" Share on WhatsApp⇗ ———————————— 𝐵𝑒 𝐵𝓁𝑒𝓈𝓈𝑒𝒹.. Oᑎ ᘜOᗪᒪY SᗴᖇᐯIᑕᗴ, 𝕸𝖆𝖓𝖆𝖌𝖊𝖗, 𝕾𝖆𝖒𝖆𝖉𝖍𝖆𝖓, 𝕾𝖍𝖎𝖛 𝕭𝖆𝖇𝖆 𝕾𝖊𝖗𝖛𝖎𝖈𝖊𝖘 𝕴𝖓𝖎𝖙𝖎𝖆𝖙𝖎𝖛𝖊 (SBSI)