A must read post: Life and relationships: two inseparable forces shaping who we are and how we experience the world. Understanding ourselves (self-realisation), examining the lessons learned from struggles, self-discovery through relationships, and the spiritual growth that blooms from the journey of life. This post aims to offer perspective on this journey, while explaining the depths of karma, life, and healing relationship with family (parents in this case).
Title: "๐๐ฃ๐จ๐๐๐๐ฉ ๐๐ฃ๐ฉ๐ค ๐๐๐๐ & ๐๐๐ก๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐จ๐๐๐ฅ๐จ"
Subtitle:
๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐บ๐๐๐๐, ๐ป๐๐๐ & ๐ท๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ฟ๐๐๐๐๐๐
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โถ๐๐ฑ๐บ๐ถ๐ป: ๐๐ง ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ง๐ช๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ๐ง๐ถ๐ญ, ๐ฑ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ข๐ด๐ฆ ๐จ๐๐๐ง๐ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ถ๐ฎ ๐ฑ๐ฐ๐ด๐ต ๐ช๐ฏ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ค๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ค๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด (๐ง๐ข๐ฎ๐ช๐ญ๐บ/๐ง๐ณ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ด). ๐๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ ๐ถ๐ด ๐ช๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ฅ๐ช๐ท๐ช๐ฏ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ข๐ด๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ, ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ๐ช๐ฏ๐จย & ๐ต๐ณ๐ข๐ฏ๐ด๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฎ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ญ๐ช๐ท๐ฆ๐ด. "๐๐๐๐ง๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐จ ๐๐๐ง๐ซ๐๐ฃ๐"
The following was written in response to a query we received on our Samadhanย WhatsApp group in June 2025. So please read the following in the same context.
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๐ฆ๐ฝ๐ถ๐ฟ๐ถ๐๐๐ฎ๐น ๐๐ป๐๐ถ๐ด๐ต๐๐
The situation of your friend as you have described, suggests that is rather ๐ ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐๐ฒ ๐จ๐ ๐ค๐๐ซ๐ฆ๐ & ๐๐๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐ฒ married together. Let me explain:
He is born in a well-doing family, but generally lacks the support that he desires and deserves. This is what i understand from what you have written. So he is given one thing and not given another.
๐๐ป๐๐ถ๐ด๐ต๐ ๐ผ๐ป ๐๐ฎ๐ฟ๐บ๐ถ๐ฐ ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ป๐
The unusual relationship that you described of your friend with his parents, is a result of a past life karmic account between them, plus the karma that they all jointly created in this life. "๐๐ซ๐๐ง๐ฎ ๐จ๐ค๐ช๐ก ๐๐ญ๐ฅ๐๐ง๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐ง๐๐จ๐ช๐ก๐ฉ ๐ค๐ ๐๐ฉ๐จ ๐ค๐ฌ๐ฃ ๐ ๐๐ง๐ข๐". This is the highest truth. Even when you think it is the parents being harsh, KNOW that it is just the way Karma is getting settled for your friend.
๐๐ฟ๐ถ๐ด๐ต๐ ๐ฆ๐ถ๐ฑ๐ฒ:
It is more important to notice that the situation isn't as bad on its own, but only 'feels' painful ๐ฐ๐ก๐๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ค ๐ญ๐จ๐จ ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐๐ก ๐จ๐ง ๐ข๐ญ. Most of the sorrow we experience is a "creation of our own mind" by overthinking and making a situation look worst than it it... and we then miss seeing the "bright side" and the ๐จ๐ฉ๐ฉ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ๐ฎ๐ง๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ of growth that it has brought.
๐ฟWe know that not all parents are perfect, and although seeking their support is natural, it is not vital for your ๐ฅ๐ข๐๐'๐ฌ ๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฌ๐ to fulfil. No... ๐๐ก๐ ๐ฅ๐๐ฐ ๐ข๐ฌ: "Every soul reaches its life's purpose no matter what happens and what does not". No matter who supports and who doesn't. God has given us no real reason to worry.
๐The universe works all things for you. All you need to do is FOCUS on your path, ๐ฅ๐ข๐ฏ๐ ๐ข๐ง ๐๐ฐ๐๐ซ๐๐ง๐๐ฌ๐ฌ, ๐๐จ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐๐ซ๐๐๐ญ๐ ๐ ๐ง๐๐ ๐๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐ ๐ค๐๐ซ๐ฆ๐ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐๐ง๐ฒ๐จ๐ง๐, ๐ค๐๐๐ฉ ๐๐จ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ ๐จ๐จ๐ ๐ค๐๐ซ๐ฆ๐, ๐๐ง๐ ๐ฐ๐๐ฅ๐ค ๐ข๐ง ๐๐๐ข๐ญ๐ก. All the rest is done by the natural process of life. God helps all his children at right time & in the best way. ๐๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐ง๐, you will see how it all worked out 'perfectly' by the grace of god. Always remember this.
๐๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ฃ๐๐ฟ๐ฝ๐ผ๐๐ฒ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐๐ถ๐ณ๐ฒ
The 'key' to understanding such situations & challenges in life is knowing that: "๐๐๐ ๐ฅ๐ช๐ง๐ฅ๐ค๐จ๐ ๐ค๐ ๐ก๐๐๐ ๐๐จ ๐ฃ๐ค๐ฉ ๐๐๐จ๐ ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ค๐ข๐๐ค๐ง๐ฉ, ๐๐ช๐ฉ ๐๐ง๐ค๐ฌ๐ฉ๐ & ๐๐ซ๐ค๐ก๐ช๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ"
๐ชด๐๐ซ๐จ๐ฐ๐ญ๐ก happens when the soul goes through all kinds of experiences (both 'pleasant' and 'unpleasant'). ๐๐ฏ๐จ๐ฅ๐ฎ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง is the greater spiritual process, which progresses ahead when the soul LEARNS through those experiences and its ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ expands.
๐Even in the earthly perspective, look at the life stories of those who achieved ๐ง๐จ๐ญ๐๐๐ฅ๐ ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐๐๐๐ฌ๐ฌ in their fields. One thing common in them is the "struggle" and "disappointments" they faced in the path. Those struggles (whether emotional, financial, spiritual, or any) that they faced actually ๐ฌ๐ก๐๐ฉ๐๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ข๐ซ ๐๐ก๐๐ซ๐๐๐ญ๐๐ซ, ๐๐ฑ๐ฉ๐๐ง๐๐๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ข๐ซ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฌ๐๐จ๐ฆ, and "prepared" them for the work they eventually did.
๐ชทIf life happened all comfortable, they would have not "learned", there would be thus no GROWTH in their wisdom & consciousness... and there would thus be no success.
๐ปAlso, the reason God allows us to go through this "process" is not to test us, but to PREPARE us for the success, for the 'blessing' he has to offer. Because it is not just about reaching success, but also ๐ฆ๐๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐๐ข๐ง๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ข๐ญ. And you can maintain and grow your success only when you are PREPARED in every way---๐๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ strong & mature, ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ grounded, and ๐ฌ๐ฉ๐ข๐ซ๐ข๐ญ๐ฎ๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ 'aligned' to your purpose.
๐๐ข๐ก๐๐๐จ๐ฆ๐๐ข๐ก
Now that we have explained the 'spiritual insight' behind what happen in life, you understand why all things happen for a GOOD cause. It is not to stop or trouble you, but to PREPARE and help you GROW in spirit, in your consciousness. Thus, see life this way and you will see the truth. You will see ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ ๐จ๐จ๐ behind the challenges, the ๐๐๐ซ๐ญ๐๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐ฒ behind the uncertainties, ๐ ๐จ๐'๐ฌ ๐๐๐ฏ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ amidst the struggles, and ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ at the end of the tunnel.
Practical Suggestions
The following are our suggestions for your friend. He should start following as he can๐
1. ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ฎ๐ป๐ฐ๐ถ๐ฎ๐น ๐๐๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐
I see you have some EMIs to pay. So you are working a job, and doing the duties of a good son. That is ๐ฅ๐๐๐ฏ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ ๐ ๐ซ๐๐๐ญ ๐๐ฑ๐๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐, ๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ซ๐ค on the society (and on the world) that how a good child should be. Do Not worry about other things. You do not need to send money to your parents, unless asked. Rather, try to save money and put it where it is more needed.
2. ๐๐ผ ๐ก๐ผ๐ ๐๐น๐ฎ๐บ๐ฒ
You have been strong and steady all this way. Now is not the time to be weak, or put blame on your parents. They are how they have become due to the 'society' they affiliate to, the 'culture' and the 'norms' that they follow, and the 'beliefs' they have nurtured.
๐ชปIt's just that they do not understand "your perspective" right now. This is why they go harsh on you sometimes, not being able to see the struggle and hard work you put. ๐๐ก๐ ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฅ๐ฎ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐ข๐ฌ: Let them know about it, tell them how you are managing with multiple jobs and still able to save money & even send them. Also show them how difficult is to get a job in India right now. They would thus realise how significant your 'contribution' and your 'effort' is. ((But do all this with "peace" in your mind))
3. ๐๐ฒ๐ฎ๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฅ๐ฒ๐น๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป๐๐ต๐ถ๐ฝ
This is an essential step and also a 'process' to go through. We invite you to HEAL this special bond with "love" and "patience". You can do this by practising ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐จ๐ , ๐๐ฐ๐๐ฆ๐๐๐ง & ๐๐๐ค๐๐ฌ๐ก ๐ฆ๐๐๐ข๐ญ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง. We know of many people whose relationships are healed when they practised giving Sakash (intense 'positive' ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐/๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ with an intention to HEAL a relationship by sending/seeking 'forgiveness')
For this, you need to LEARN and PRACTISE giving sakash. Please follow our article: Sakash: Meaning, Purpose, Method
๐๐ข๐๐๐จ: 3 Thoughts to HEAL any relationship (by BK Shivani)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=38lXq_q5D9Q
๐๐ข๐๐๐จ: 'Affirmations' to heal a relationship (BK Shivani)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ii6KPi5S8_8
โAlso read our specific post on ๐๐๐๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐๐ฅ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐ฉ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐๐๐ซ๐๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ
4. ๐ง๐ผ๐๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฑ๐ ๐ฆ๐ฝ๐ถ๐ฟ๐ถ๐๐๐ฎ๐น๐ถ๐๐
Above all, i welcome you to take our "introductory course" called the 7 days RajYog course online on our website, where you will get all resources to understand the spiritual knowledge in greater depth.
๐ผJoin our WhatsApp group ๐๐๐ฆ๐๐๐ก๐๐ง (๐๐จ๐ ๐๐ง๐ฌ๐ฐ๐๐ซ๐ฌ) and stay in this divine community. You will receive ๐๐๐ข๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ข๐ง๐ฌ๐ฉ๐ข๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐ & ๐ฎ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ข๐๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ฌ๐ฌ๐๐ ๐๐ฌ, along with the responses i post regularly. As a member, you would also be able to seek help & support by posting ONE message on the group.
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โถ๐๐ฑ๐บ๐ถ๐ป: ๐๐ง ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ง๐ช๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ๐ง๐ถ๐ญ, ๐ฑ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ข๐ด๐ฆ ๐จ๐๐๐ง๐ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ถ๐ฎ ๐ฑ๐ฐ๐ด๐ต ๐ช๐ฏ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ค๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ค๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด (๐ง๐ข๐ฎ๐ช๐ญ๐บ/๐ง๐ณ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ด). ๐๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ ๐ถ๐ด ๐ช๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ฅ๐ช๐ท๐ช๐ฏ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ข๐ด๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ, ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ๐ช๐ฏ๐จย & ๐ต๐ณ๐ข๐ฏ๐ด๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฎ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ญ๐ช๐ท๐ฆ๐ด. "๐๐๐๐ง๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐จ ๐๐๐ง๐ซ๐๐ฃ๐"
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๐ต๐ ๐ต๐๐๐๐๐๐น..โจ
Oแ แOแชแชY SแดแแฏIแแด,
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