This is in-detailed response and guidance on how to deal with a love relationship (non-married) with a balance of heart and mind, of feelings and a balanced judgement. We have also provided spiritual guidance, practical wisdom and a series on "relationship" to understand more.
★Please go through the below "general advice" we give on such matters...you will find guidance to take the right decision.
Foreword: This is a draft from our response written to a sister who was seeking guidance to resolve an obstacle on her marriage with a person whom she love.
General & Practical Advise on a non-married love Relationship
We do not give a specific/personal advise to such non-married "love relationship" matters, since we understand that the life is designed by our own deeds and our own karmic patterns. Just as that, your relationships are designed by how you and the other person share a karmic account or thoughts about each other, or had shared in past life/lives.➥ Thus, we will give you our "general advise" and insight/wisdom that true love is in detachment from your expectations from the other person. Love means: "respecting each other", "well-wishing" for each other, "being each other's true friend", and being a "soul-mate" of each other.➥ When you are 'attached' to someone, you can never be fully satisfied and thus happy. God, the Supreme Soul himself has taught us, that true love is when you stay 'detached' from other person's behavior and then help the other to transform/overcome their weaknesses.
✱ Important➤ While taking ANY step forward in this relationship, your STATE OF MIND should be calm, clear and detached. This is must. When your state of mind is clear and detached from temporary emotions/feeling, you will be able to make the better choice which will reward you both in the future.One should not try to change others. We strongly understand and teach that "Real transformation comes from the Within"
As far as to convince his parents for this marriage, we suggest you to do that in a thoughtful way. If you explain correctly, they will definitely understand. More important is that the boy should also be equally willing to marry you... Love should be from both sides if you expect it to last. There should be maturity of a lifelong promise to live together. If such a love exist, then path ahead will be created by its own.➥ The meaning of love is pure... Love teaches also to sacrifice. Hence if you try all your ways and fail, then sacrifice the marriage rather than fighting with anyone. If you both share a strong 'karmic account' (of past life) then only a lasting marriage is possible. This is what we learn from "laws of karma" and apply to life in any and every situation. Understand this and remain detached from the result of your tryings.★We will suggest you to watch "Relationships" episodes of our "Awakening with Brahma Kumaris" TV series hosted by BK Sister Shivani.❈ Here is the Full playlist ➤ https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6mmKavEt551HqVGwRL1hqVi9TQD-03Hp(Save this YouTube playlist)➥ Find more such "relationship" related talks by Sister Shivani (on YouTube) which would be surely helpful to you in many ways... Just search as "Bk shivani on healing relationship" or similar.This is all from us... Now you apply the given advice as per your situation and comfort. Make the better choice with a clear and detached state of mind.On Godly World Service,Manager, Samadhan, The Shiv Baba Services Initiative