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Dealing with one-sided love feelings is a challenging and emotionally taxing experience. When you find yourself deeply infatuated with someone who doesn't reciprocate the same feelings, this imbalance can evoke feelings of sadness, frustration, and even self-doubt. Failed expectations and desires can lead to a heartbreak, which is often noticed especially in one-sided feelings. But even the 'healing' and coming out of this is easy, since there is only ONE person involved, and it is YOU. The healing is a realisation away—that i have learned from this experience and now happily release all my feelings. I carry no hurt or ill-wish for anyone, but only blessings.

This brief response was given to a person who was going through the same. We explore practical suggestions, emotional insights, and self-care process to help you attain clarity on your feelings and dealing with the complexities of one-sided love. The 3 main aspects being—Acceptance, personal growth, and maintaining emotional well-being. We hope this post will help you in navigating these challenging emotions with resilience and compassion towards themselves.

Introduction

Foreword

The Perspective

Practical Suggestions (*)

✶𝗔𝗱𝗺𝗶𝗻: 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘧𝘶𝘭, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘶𝘮 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 (𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺/𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴). 𝘏𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘶𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 & 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴. "𝙎𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙎𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜"

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The following was written in response to a query we received on our Samadhan WhatsApp group in Jan 2025.

★ 𝙊𝙣𝙚-𝙒𝙖𝙮 𝙇𝙤𝙫𝙚-𝙁𝙚𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨 ★

Foreword: The following was written to a lady for her one-sided love experience. So please read in the same context. You may replace 'him' with 'her' if that makes it sound more relatable.

What we are seeing here, is a one way love-relationship. And this is quite common. It is only that you have expressed it openly, something that many people experience secretly.

🌷It is great, the feeling of love... when it is genuine, unconditional, and selfless. If you keep such feelings for someone, it is also serving you, healing you from within... So see it as "a part of your own life-process"

The Perspective

Now, whether the other person (whom you love), agrees or not—is their 'choice'. You must respect that. Your feelings cannot be 'compelling' and you cannot press it on others. The moment you compel and press your feelings on him, the bond breaks, and the mutual respect fades. Then it is not love really, but attachment to self-will if you respect not the other person's will and view. In other words, it would be like loving yourself, through another (only seeing your own view & doing what you find right)

🌼Just as you are free to love him, and to confess the same—even he is free to express his feelings. And practically too, his decision to not marry or involve in a relationship must have a reason. You should try and learn of that reason. Ask him, but do not intrude his privacy. If your relationship is meant to happen, it will... A patient approach is needed, not a forceful one!

Ahead: Once you see his 'point of view—it would be all clear and much easier to move on... Of course, keep your feelings. Remain true to your inner-feelings. But also have respect for his.

✶Most Important: The love you have created should not be wasted... should be go fade... So why not spread it all over your life, in all your relationships. Let the water of 'love' nurture the plants of your garden, and blossom more flowers. Let this love reach all your family, friends and more... and your life become like a fragrant flower.

the love you have sent out to the universe, will come back—in a different form.

🍎Let this be a smooth process... as we have guided today. Be Open to new relationships... And when you do, be honest about everything. "Speak to them openly of your past & present".

🌸Honesty is the best policy indeed. When you are honest and patient (in any relationship), you avoid conflicts and 'strengthen' the bond.

Tip: We highly recommend you to read our beautiful post on What is True Love?

Practical Suggestions

The following are some practical steps you can consciously take to deal with your inner feelings and overcome from the situation:

1. Acknowledge Your Feelings Recognize and accept your emotions without judgment. It's okay to feel sadness, disappointment, or longing in one-sided love situations. This acceptance is the first and the most important step to healing.
   

2. Set Boundaries Establish clear boundaries to protect your emotional well-being. Limit contact or interaction with the person if necessary & possible, to avoid going into the cycle again. You can give it a try and see if doing this helps you to attain emotional detachment. Tip: Read our post Overcoming Emotional Attachment (visit for guidance & helpful videos)
   

3. Focus on Self-Care Prioritise activities that promote self-love and nurture your mental health. Engage in your hobbies, physical exercise, yoga, walking, or spend time with supportive friends and family members. Tip: Do read our special post on Self Love & Healing Hurt.
   

4. Shift Your Focus Redirect your attention towards personal growth and goals. Be grounded to the 'real' world and keep busy in activities that enhance your skills, knowledge, and overall happiness independent of the relationship.
   

5. New Connections Finally, the step that will complete the process is when you "open" yourself to meeting new people and forming meaningful relationships that align with your values and mutual affection. Keep yourself open to finding a two-sided relationship, where the other person reflect the same feelings as you. This way love can cherish. Tip: Read this articlefrom TinyBuddha: Finding real, lasting love.
   

By implementing these practical suggestions, you can navigate one-sided love feelings with resilience and compassion towards yourself, while respecting the other person... and thus allowing 'personal growth and emotional healing'.

Recommended post: Healing from a Breakup

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