Maintaining self-respect and emotional safety means building an inner sanctuary where your worth is recognised and your feelings are honored. With this, you create relationships that "uplift" you, rather than erode your spirit. By treating yourself with the same care you’d give a dear friend, you ensure your heart remains both protected and free to bloom.
You have taken a very "courageous step" by choosing your self-respect and emotional safety over societal pressure—and that is not a small thing. Let’s explore how you can face society and move on peacefully, with "spiritual strength" and "inner clarity".
✶𝗔𝗱𝗺𝗶𝗻: 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘧𝘶𝘭, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘶𝘮 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 (𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺/𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴). 𝘏𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘶𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 & 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴. "𝙎𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙎𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜"
The following was written in response to a query we received on our Samadhan WhatsApp group in May 2025. So please read the following in the same context.
Practical Suggestions
Here are our point-wise suggestions:
1. Facing Society & Their Taunts Calmly
You are right — society can be harsh, especially when you take a stand for your truth. Here’s how to face it:
➥ Remember: You did nothing wrong.
Choosing not to enter a toxic marriage is a sign of wisdom, not weakness.
➥"Silence" speaks louder than arguments.
You don’t need to defend your choice to every person. Let your peaceful presence and growth become your silent response.
➥ Think of every soul as an actor in a drama.
As you beautifully said — “Think of all people as souls” — this changes your perspective. Their taunts are just part of their own ignorance, not your truth.
➥ Create a daily affirmation:
“I am a pure, strong soul. I listen only to the voice of God and my inner truth.”
2. Trusting Again & Moving On
Trust takes time to rebuild. And that’s okay. But here’s how you can start:
➥ Heal before you search: Don’t rush into another relationship just to prove anything to society. First, connect deeply with your own self-worth.
➥ Set spiritual standards, not just emotional ones.
Look for a partner who shares your spiritual values and respects your freedom, not just one who looks “good on paper.”
➥ Tell God, “You choose for me.”
Let Baba be your guide. He sees what you cannot. Surrender your future with faith:
“Baba, I trust Your plan. The right soul will enter my life at the right time.”
3. Finding Peace With Baba
Yes, Baba will definitely help you find peace. He already is. Here’s how to deepen your connection:
➥ Daily connection through Amritvela (early morning meditation):
Sit in silence and remember: “I am a peaceful soul. God is my eternal companion.”
➥ Send vibrations to your mother
Even if you can’t speak much, you can send her spiritual strength. Sit in silence and think:
"“Baba, fill her with healing light and divine courage.”"
For this, please read & follow our post: SAKASH: Meaning, Method, Purpose
and
➥ Write Diary to Baba
Write your fears, your hopes, your pain — as daily letters to Baba. You will feel a lightness... and experience empowered and hopeful. Write letter to baba (using our online service)
4. Your Inner Hero
"“I have to conquer fear and show the hidden hero inside me”"
Yes! That hero is your original self — fearless, divine, radiant. Keep reminding yourself:
➥ You are not this temporary situation. You are an eternal soul.
➥ You don’t need validation from anyone—God is already proud of you.
➥ Your life is not broken. It’s unfolding exactly as it’s meant to.
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Final Affirmation (affirm daily morning & before sleep)
"“I am a pure soul. I am on a divine journey. I choose peace over fear. Baba is guiding me every second. No taunt can shake my inner light.”"
Tip: Refer to our "Swaman (Affirmations) guide>> https://files.shivbabas.org/wp-content/uploads/Swaman-Abhyas-Guide.pdf
Sending you strength and peace
YOU ARE NOT ALONE... You have already shown great courage—now let "peace" and "divine wisdom" carry you forward.
Also read: Healing Marital Relationship & Finding Self-worth
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𝐵𝑒 𝐵𝓁𝑒𝓈𝓈𝑒𝒹..✨
Oᑎ ᘜOᗪᒪY SᗴᖇᐯIᑕᗴ,
𝕸𝖆𝖓𝖆𝖌𝖊𝖗, 𝕾𝖆𝖒𝖆𝖉𝖍𝖆𝖓, 𝕾𝖍𝖎𝖛 𝕭𝖆𝖇𝖆 𝕾𝖊𝖗𝖛𝖎𝖈𝖊𝖘 𝕴𝖓𝖎𝖙𝖎𝖆𝖙𝖎𝖛𝖊 (SBSI)
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