Dealing with in-LAWS is sometimes difficult because they are new to you. You are new to them. There lacks an understanding or acceptance. There can occur a difference in opinion. Thus here is our advice on How to deal with everyone of your New family with love and patience. Do listen till end.
Original Email Received
I am listening to BK Shivani from long back. I am facing some problem to which I am requesting a solution.
I am married (arrange marriage) since 3 years, me and my husband's job is also in chandigarh now from last 1.5 years. My parents and in laws are not sharing a good relationship which is affecting my personal life with my husband and my stress level. My mother in law is having some problem with depression so we have to ask each and everything before doing anything, i.e. we cant do anything of our own.
I am not able to think what to do? how to do? How to handle situations tactfully without hurting anybody and without letting do whatever only my mother in law wants.
Your email is received and read. Here is our answer.
Become light. You are a light. Soul is a point of light. YOU ARE A SOUL.
So let us begin. Your situation is fairly sensitive and it needs you to become very 'sensible' to stablise the life. So if you explain your mother in law about that you need to go to your family, if you can convince them with your extra good behavior and some smile. See this works. If they are sensible and give respect to your thoughts, then there is no reason to stop you. OK?
You seem to be in a position which feels like it is suffocating you. As you cannot discuss your situation with anyone, it is the right time to make the real connection with God. He will listen to you and you can share all your problems with him. He hears you and even gives you solution, provided you are ready to listen to it. Meaning that, your mind must be silent, not in turmoil to hear what he has to say. He will start guiding you as to how you should handle this situation at home in the right way.
You are carrying a soul (child) within you. Not only what you eat affects the child, but your thoughts and the atmosphere at home will have a deep impact on the child. So it is upto you to create positive thoughts and vibrations in the house so that everyone is benefited from that. Practice to be detached to whatever is happening around and make a promise to yourself that whatever happens I will be light and happy (at least for the sake of the child). It might seem difficult, even impossible now, but if you practice Rajyog (connection with god) in small steps regularly, it will help you immensely.
~~ What you need to do ~~
Start practising Rajyog. But before that you need to take 7 days course online from here: https://www.brahma-kumaris.com/rajyoga-course