This is advise given to solve various problems arising between family after marriages..
Original Email Received
I m 9 month married girl myself komal.my husband is in defence force.i m living with his family . In our family there is only my husband who is the source of proper income. My father in law nd brother in law also doing jobs but overall family depends on my husband. On our marriage my husband took loan and now he is not able to afford to pay for whole family.because its financial crisis. This issue is disturbing my life.they put blame on me for this. That i m refusing to give money at home.they neglected me.their behaviour towards me was not good. For their comfort i left my job nd served at home.but they dont care.my husband said they are my parents i dnt do anything.now i m 4 month pregnant nd i m living with my own parents. Kindly give me solutions
Our Email Response + Guidance
To: Komal Satish ji and Everyone reading this From: Prajapati Brahma kumaris Ishwariya Vishwa Vidhyalaya (Godly Spiritual University)
Dear Divine Brother/ Sister,
Your email is received and thoroughly read. Here is our suggested solution to your problem.
For in-laws and husband-
It seems a lot of misunderstandings have arisen between you and your in-laws. If possible then you and your family should verbally try to sort out.
And at the thought level, you must be positive. Don't create negative thought or don't send the negative energy and vibes to your in-laws and husband..
Consider yourself and themselves as Souls, a point of light . Close your eyes and send them good wishes.. Keep God (incorporeal God Shiva, sweetly called as Shivbaba) with you. And tell him everything you want to. Keep giving them water of healing vibrations.. This will help you clear your Bad Karmic Debts with your in-laws.
Watch this video :
1. . Faith in God (Bk Suraj bhai):
2. Settle Karmic Accounts (Bk Shivani)
For financial matters-
To overcome financial problem then you should join back your job, if possible and help your family.. If this is not possible then do 21 days yog bhatti (https://www.brahma-kumaris.com/forum/question-answers/why-21-days-yog-bhatti ).. but before 21 day bhatti, you must attend Rajyoga Course at your nearest center or online.. then only you'll be able to do bhatti.
For unborn child-
You are carrying a soul (child) within you. Not only what you eat affects the child, but your thoughts and the atmosphere at home will have a deep impact on the child. So it is upto you to create positive thoughts and vibrations in the house so that everyone is benefited from that. Practice to be detached to whatever is happening around and make a promise to yourself that whatever happens I will be light and happy (at least for the sake of the child). It might seem difficult, even impossible now, but if you practice Rajyog (connection with god) in small steps regularly, it will help you immensely.
~~ What you need to do ~~
1. Start practising Rajyog. But before that you need to take 7 days course online from here: https://www.brahma-kumaris.com/rajyoga-course
visit your nearest BK Rajyog center (Recommended)
2. Listen to Swaman commentaries early in the morning
~~ Links on Mother Baby care~~
Divine Mother Baby
Watch all episodes in this series ''Virtue Baby'' when you get time during the day -> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y07fjkn7_LY&list=PLjzCBUU9MVAqd7aYJBEDM0CSx7TdxQvkY
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Who am I?: https://www.brahma-kumaris.com/who-am-i-the-soul
Hope this helps. Do email and let us know of your progress.
In God Fatherly service