Self Love for Self-transformation
Foreword: In a world that often equates self-love with vanity or excessive pride, embracing genuine compassion for oneself is not merely an act of rebellionโit is the cornerstone of profound personal transformation. "Self-love" transcends affirmations or self-pampering; and it is a conscious choice of honoring self-worth, nurturing growth, and freeing yourself from self-pity, guilt & grief. When we cultivate self-love, we lay the foundation for self-transformation, from which healing, empowerment, and self-confidence can flourish.
This journey inward, though deeply personal, unlocks the courage to shed limiting beliefs, embrace vulnerability, and align with the true self. How essential self love is in no matter what we do in life. You will learn from this truly lifechanging article/postโunderstanding self-love, self-acceptance, and the process of self-transformation.
In this article, we explore how self-love acts as both the compass and catalyst for transformation, offering insights & practical suggestions to turn introspection into actionable changeโbecause transforming your life begins with transforming how you see yourself.
Title: "๐พ๐ง๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐๐ก๐-๐ก๐ค๐ซ๐ ๐๐ค๐ง ๐๐๐ก๐-๐ฉ๐ง๐๐ฃ๐จ๐๐ค๐ง๐ข๐๐ฃ๐"
Subtitle:
๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐-๐๐๐๐ & ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ถ๐๐'๐ ๐๐๐๐๐
{ A life-changing message }
Index
Why is 'self-acceptance' essential?
โถ๐๐ฑ๐บ๐ถ๐ป: ๐๐ง ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ง๐ช๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ๐ง๐ถ๐ญ, ๐ฑ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ข๐ด๐ฆ ๐จ๐๐๐ง๐ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ถ๐ฎ ๐ฑ๐ฐ๐ด๐ต ๐ช๐ฏ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ค๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ค๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด (๐ง๐ข๐ฎ๐ช๐ญ๐บ/๐ง๐ณ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ด). ๐๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ ๐ถ๐ด ๐ช๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ฅ๐ช๐ท๐ช๐ฏ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ข๐ด๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ, ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ๐ช๐ฏ๐จย & ๐ต๐ณ๐ข๐ฏ๐ด๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฎ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ญ๐ช๐ท๐ฆ๐ด. "๐๐๐๐ง๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐จ ๐๐๐ง๐ซ๐๐ฃ๐"
The following was written in response to a query we received on our Samadhanย WhatsApp group in March 2025. So please read the following in the same context.
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๐ทDear one, the question of having "self-love" and "self-acceptance" is ๐จ๐ ๐ ๐ซ๐๐๐ญ ๐ข๐ฆ๐ฉ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ๐๐ง๐๐ and is deeper than you think. The source of it is not external reasons or your past actions & choices, but the BEING that you are. YOU are the source of what you seek. We will explore this ahead>>
Remember:
"๐๐ค๐ ๐ก๐ค๐ซ๐๐จ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช ๐ฃ๐ค๐ฉ ๐๐๐๐๐ช๐จ๐ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช ๐๐๐ ๐ฌ๐ค๐ฃ๐๐๐ง๐๐ช๐ก ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐จ ๐๐ฃ ๐ก๐๐๐, ๐๐ช๐ฉ ๐จ๐๐ข๐ฅ๐ก๐ฎ ๐๐๐๐๐ช๐จ๐ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช ๐๐ญ๐๐จ๐ฉ"
Does a parent wait for their child to do wonderful things, before they start loving? Or do they love their child right from the birth?โSo you see then, what we understand as the 'highest love' or the ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ is not reasoned or inducible, but ๐๐ฑ๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐๐ฅ!!
๐๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ฃ๐: You do not love yourself 'because' you do something external (karma) that validates the love and self-respectโas this love is ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ข๐ง๐๐ฎ๐๐ข๐๐ฅ๐ (created/caused/given birth), but is ๐๐ฑ๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐๐ฅ (sourced from your existence as the soul).
๐ช๐ต๐ ๐ฆ๐ฒ๐น๐ณ-๐๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ฒ๐ฝ๐๐ฎ๐ป๐ฐ๐ฒ ๐ถ๐ ๐ฒ๐๐๐ฒ๐ป๐๐ถ๐ฎ๐น?
Answer: You cannot change what you do not 'accept' and 'understand'... Only when you ๐จ๐๐ฌ๐๐ซ๐ฏ๐ your mistakes, then ๐๐๐๐๐ฉ๐ญ (acknowledge) them honestly, and then ๐ฎ๐ง๐๐๐ซ๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ง๐ the patternโ'how' & 'why' the mistake happened... can you CHANGE it and not repeat.
๐ฆ๐ฒ๐น๐ณ-๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ป๐๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ๐บ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป
Here is the 4-STEP process of self-transformation:
Step 1: ๐๐๐ฌ๐๐ซ๐ฏ๐ (Identify the mistake)
Step 2: ๐๐๐๐๐ฉ๐ญ with total honesty
Step 3: ๐๐ง๐๐๐ซ๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ง๐ the Patterns
Step 4: The thought of ๐๐ก๐๐ง๐ ๐ (Determinism)
๐When you take the first 3 steps, the fourth is simple. It is ONE thought away... The process of self-transformation is always ONE thought away. The thought of 'I WANT TO CHANGE THIS' comes naturally when you 'realise' that ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ก๐๐ฅ๐ฉ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐จ๐ซ ๐ฌ๐๐ซ๐ฏ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฆ๐ to reach where i wish to go.
๐๐ผ๐ฟ ๐ฒ๐ ๐ฎ๐บ๐ฝ๐น๐ฒ: If you have a smoking habit. You follow the first 3 steps and recognise how it is affecting your health... then realising that smoking is not helping me attain a 'healthy life'โyou will instantly ๐ฅ๐๐ญ ๐ข๐ญ ๐ ๐จ. Not because you suddenly stopped loving to smoke, but that ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐๐ ๐๐ง ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฏ๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐๐ฅ๐.
๐ชทSo you see... how essential "loving yourself" is... in the process of self-transformation, and indeed in doing anything worthwhile. ๐๐ก๐๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฏ๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐๐ฅ๐, ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ง๐๐ฏ๐๐ซ ๐๐จ ๐ฐ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ฆ๐๐ฒ ๐๐๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ก๐๐ซ๐ฆ, in short term or long. You would not hurt another, nor put poison (smoke/alcohol) into your body; for you know of its consequence. You will not hurt another when you are surrounded by love... The root cause of all conflicts is "lack of love". Whether it is lacking love for the self, for your own family, country-people, or humanity in general. Only when you lack this love can you attack another, inviting a retaliation! But when you love yourself, you wont hit another with a brick, only inviting them to hit you back.
๐ง๐ต๐ฒ ๐พ๐๐ฒ๐๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป ๐ผ๐ณ "๐๐ฒ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด"
As now you understand the meaning and the importance of ๐๐๐๐-๐๐๐๐, we come to your other point of '๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ข๐ฃ๐ญ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ง๐ช๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ๐ด๐ฆ๐ญ๐ง ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ด๐ฆ๐ณ๐ท๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐จ๐ช๐ง๐ต๐ด ๐ง๐ณ๐ฐ๐ฎ ๐จ๐ฐ๐ฅ'.
๐ชปDear soul... I can tell you of a 'million' reasons for why god loves you ๐๐ฅ๐๐ฃ๐๐๐๐๐ช & ๐๐๐๐ก๐๐ช. You are judging yourself on a very very limited viewโof this particular birth of yours, and only seeing the bad things/choices you made. But what about all those wonderful things you the soul have done in previous lives and this.
๐I tell you thisโwe all have done more good than bad. And, ๐ง๐จ ๐จ๐ง๐ ๐๐จ๐๐ฌ ๐๐ง๐ฒ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฐ๐ซ๐จ๐ง๐ (๐ ๐ข๐ฏ๐๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ข๐ซ ๐จ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ฉ๐จ๐ข๐ง๐ญ ๐จ๐ ๐ฏ๐ข๐๐ฐ). Remember this when you deal with any form of relationship. '๐๐ผ๐๐ฒ' ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ผ๐ฝ๐ถ๐ป๐ถ๐ผ๐ป & '๐ฟ๐ฒ๐๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐' ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐๐ถ๐๐ฒ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐ผ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐.
โค๐ฟ๐ค๐ฃ'๐ฉ ๐๐๐ก๐จ๐ ๐ ๐ช๐๐๐
You were not sent here to be judged and be found worthy or not. Always remember this. You were sent here because god wanted to give you the greatest gift called LIFE... there is no greater gift than ๐๐๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐๐ฅ๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐ซ๐๐๐ญ๐ a life-experience of your choice. To be able ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฌ๐ก๐๐ซ๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ญ๐ซ๐๐๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ซ๐๐ฌ with others.
๐ปGod needs nothing more from you, but that ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐๐ ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฏ๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐๐ฅ๐, ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐ฏ๐๐ซ๐ฒ ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฎ๐ฅ ๐ข๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐๐จ๐ง๐ง๐๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง... Yet, only when you 'create' love for yourself, can you 'extend' that to others. Only when your own hands are full, can you feed another. And only when you are HAPPY yourself, can you spread JOY to others.
๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ผ ๐๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐๐ฒ ๐ฆ๐ฒ๐น๐ณ-๐๐ผ๐๐ฒ?
Now that you understand all that i wanted you to, here is the way to create self-love. This method will work even when you are surrounded by the darkest of clouds. For this is the ray of light you need.
๐ฑThere are only 2 ways to experience self-love, and in general, experiencing the divine self that you are:
ONE: "๐๐ก๐๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐ (๐๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐ฎ๐ญ)"
TWO: "๐๐๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐๐ฅ๐ (of your truth) constantly (Affirmations)"
Out of the two, we will see the better one:
'๐ฆ๐ต๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ป๐ด' (๐๐ถ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ข๐๐)
"๐๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ด๐ต ๐ธ๐ข๐บ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฆ๐น๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ค๐ฆ ๐ญ๐ฐ๐ท๐ฆ ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ๐ด๐ฆ๐ญ๐ง, ๐ช๐ด ๐ฃ๐บ ๐จ๐ช๐ท๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ช๐ต ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฐ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ด"
โถ๐๐ญ๐ฅ๐ก๐๐ฃ๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ: This is very subtle but when you understand this, your life and perspective will change forever! ๐๐๐ซ๐: We have explained this when i wrote about "the purpose of life"โWe are here, ๐ฉ๐ค ๐๐ญ๐ฅ๐๐ง๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ง๐-๐๐ง๐๐๐ฉ๐ ๐ฌ๐๐ค ๐ฌ๐ ๐๐ง๐. We are here to create & experience the ๐ฉ๐๐๐๐, ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฏ๐, ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฌ๐๐จ๐ฆ & ๐ฃ๐จ๐ฒ that we are! We can experience this inner-abundance, when we give it out.
๐See >> When you give out vibrations of ๐ฉ๐๐๐๐, you first experience it. The more you express ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฏ๐, the more you experience it. The more you share your wealth of ๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ๐ฅ๐๐๐ ๐, the more you expand it. This is the reason "sharing" is a greater form of experiencing who you are... Because when you remind others of who they are, you no longer need to remind yourself. You will instally experience 'having' what you give out to others.
"What you express, you experience"
Therefore, dear one, in order to experience self-love, you first EXPRESS love to others. ๐๐๐๐ฅ those wounded relationships... Win back their hearts... Make up with old friends... ๐๐ ๐ง๐ข๐๐ ๐๐ง๐ ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐ฅ๐ฅ no matter what... Source this goodness from within, not just because others are good to you, but because you are expressing yourself.
Inspiring Quotes:
"๐๐๐ก๐ก ๐๐ฃ ๐ก๐ค๐ซ๐ ๐ฌ๐๐ฉ๐ ๐๐ซ๐๐ง๐ฎ๐ค๐ฃ๐, ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช ๐ฌ๐๐ก๐ก ๐๐๐ก๐ก ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ฃ ๐ก๐ค๐ซ๐, ๐ฌ๐๐ฉ๐ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช๐ง๐จ๐๐ก๐" (and vice-versa)
"๐๐๐ ๐๐๐จ๐ฉ ๐ฌ๐๐ฎ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช๐ง๐จ๐๐ก๐, ๐๐จ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐ก๐ค๐ค๐จ๐ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช๐ง๐จ๐๐ก๐ ๐๐ฃ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐จ๐๐ง๐ซ๐๐๐ ๐ค๐ ๐ค๐ฉ๐๐๐ง๐จ" ~ Gandhi
"๐๐๐๐ฉ ๐ฌ๐ ๐๐ญ๐ฅ๐ง๐๐จ๐จ, ๐ฌ๐ ๐๐ญ๐ฅ๐๐ง๐๐๐ฃ๐๐" ~ CWG (book 1)
"๐๐๐๐ฉ ๐ฌ๐ ๐๐ค ๐๐ค๐ง ๐ค๐ฉ๐๐๐ง๐จ, ๐ฌ๐ ๐๐ค ๐๐ค๐ง ๐ค๐ช๐ง๐จ๐๐ก๐. ๐ผ๐ฃ๐ ๐ฌ๐๐๐ฉ ๐ฌ๐ ๐๐๐๐ก ๐ฉ๐ค ๐๐ค ๐๐ค๐ง ๐ค๐ฉ๐๐๐ง๐จ, ๐ฌ๐ ๐๐๐๐ก ๐ฉ๐ค ๐๐ค ๐๐ค๐ง ๐ค๐ช๐ง๐จ๐๐ก๐" ~ CWG (book 1)
โ๏ธThese are not just wonderful words, but ๐ฅ๐ข๐๐'๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ซ๐ฎ๐ญ๐ก๐ฌ that are meant to be adopted and followed.
Practical Suggestions
1. ๐๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฒ ๐ฌ๐ผ๐๐ฟ๐ฆ๐ฒ๐น๐ณ
Cut yourself off from social media and from every negative program or movie that can take away love and peace of mind... This is very important in this process. Peace brings clarity.
2. ๐๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ป ๐ ๐ฒ๐ฑ๐ถ๐๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป
Fill yourself with the highest vibrations from god (the supreme soul, Shiv Baba) by simply remembrance through 'soul-consciousness'. Learn ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐จ๐ through our official guide.
3. ๐ฆ๐๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ ๐ฆ๐๐๐ฑ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ ๐๐ฟ๐น๐ถ
Read or listen to the daily gyan murli that you can get from our websites, YouTube channel & mobile apps.
Audio murli page: https://www.shivbabas.org/murli-today
Murli website 1: https://babamurli.net
Murli website 2: https://madhubanmurli.org
๐With this, we end this response. ๐๐๐๐ ๐ข๐ญ ๐๐ ๐๐ข๐ง and again to absord all the 'wisdom' and 'empowerment' that it offers. Follow the 3 step practical advise as well... ๐๐๐ฏ๐ the link of this article/post to come back and be inspired.
โถ๐๐ฑ๐บ๐ถ๐ป: ๐๐ง ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ง๐ช๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ๐ง๐ถ๐ญ, ๐ฑ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ข๐ด๐ฆ ๐จ๐๐๐ง๐ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ถ๐ฎ ๐ฑ๐ฐ๐ด๐ต ๐ช๐ฏ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ค๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ค๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด (๐ง๐ข๐ฎ๐ช๐ญ๐บ/๐ง๐ณ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ด). ๐๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ ๐ถ๐ด ๐ช๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ฅ๐ช๐ท๐ช๐ฏ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ข๐ด๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ, ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ๐ช๐ฏ๐จย & ๐ต๐ณ๐ข๐ฏ๐ด๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฎ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ญ๐ช๐ท๐ฆ๐ด. "๐๐๐๐ง๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐จ ๐๐๐ง๐ซ๐๐ฃ๐"
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