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This is a question of 'great' importance. The spiritual art of learning 'when to adjust' and 'when to avoid' in general sense, can greatly soothe your relationships, enhance your life and the lives of others around you. In this post, we are explaining both cases in detail, and giving a conclusion.

Question: Is adjustment better, or avoiding is better in relationships?

Simply stated, the answer is:

"Adjust with people. Avoid bad situation"

Here is in-depth evaluation of both cases:

When To Adjust?

"Adjust with people with differing opinions and nature (to yourself)"

Adjust when the relationship is important to you and the issues at hand can be resolved through communication, compromise, and understanding. (This often applies when differences are based on misunderstandings, varying perspectives, or habits that can be harmonised).

Being flexible, developing understanding, and foregiveness can strengthen relationships and lead to mutual growth.

When To Avoid?

"Avoid the situations that can hurt yourself or another person"

Choose to avoid or distance yourself when the situation negatively affects your mental, emotional, or physical health, or when fundamental values are consistently disrespected. This includes relationships involving "abuse, manipulation, or a lack of reciprocity" where efforts to improve are ineffective. Avoiding is a form of self-care, setting boundaries to protect yourself from harm.

REMEMBER: If you can no longer 'adjust' with someone's presence, and your presence in their life is not a gift any more... than it is time to 'remove yourself from the picture'... it is wise to give them the gift of your absense >> with a "good intention" of helping them to heal and understand.

When To Confront?

There are situations when you may need to 'confront' the person in order to protect yourself, your dignity, and make sure this does not happen to you again. So if you feel someone is 'taking advantage' of you, then your first response should be to keep a distance (give yourself space).

⭐Take charge with your dignity, and do not allow that to happen the next time.

The question of 'confrontation' is subjective >> it depends on the person & the situation... So if the person or the situation is serious enough to harm your 'peace of mind' or in general if it keeps you from doing your best in life, then surely go ahead and confront .... See if the situation can be clarified & resolved through a conversation >> keep the "intention" clear >> you are not to fight or be harsh.

🌱Confrontation simply means speaking your truth & allowing others to speak theirs, with the intention to resolve this situation.

Briefly > "keep it simple and straight"

Conclusion

There should be a "balance" with both of them... every soul knows intuitively WHAT to do WHEN... only if you always listen to your inner voice.

Ultimately, the decision requires self-reflection and honesty about the dynamics at play. Consider factors such as the importance of the relationship, the possibility of positive change, and alignment with your core values.

🍎For if you cannot touch someone's life POSITIVELY any more, and if you suffer yourself in a relationship, then it is 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐬𝐞 to force yourself into keeping such a relationship alive. There would be no pleasant outcome by 'wounding' yourself in trying to 'heal' another... as, only a 𝚑𝚎𝚊𝚕𝚎𝚍 & 𝚙𝚘𝚠𝚎𝚛𝚏𝚞𝚕 𝚜𝚘𝚞𝚕 can help heal another.

☝️this is 'spiritual wisdom' applied to every day life

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