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𝗤𝘂𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻: From your insightful answers I read on the Samadhan group, I have understood that "one should stay away from negative places and toxic relationships". But this is not always possible. Shouldn's we instead learn to stay calm and composed even while staying in a negative place & try our best to save even a toxic relationship? Please clarify.

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If there is a situation or a challenge to cross—first see for the best option. See if it is possible to 'stay' in a negative situation, or, is it appropriate and reasonable for you to STAY in a difficult relationship. See if there is something for you to "learn" OR to help the other person in any way... The first tools are 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 & 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗮𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻 using which any situation or person's behavior towards you CAN be changed.

🪻If it seems too difficult or not possible or reasonable; one should prefer living in PEACE... and distance from a relationship that holds no hope. (Of course—everyone must judge themself if they can continue, help the other person, or if it is hopeful to bring a positive difference)

Do not force yourself to stay where your heart does not find home, for you are not obliged anyhow to transform or help tranform any person. Your "good wishes" "love" and "patience" are more than enough for the other person. Sometimes, you need to do nothing but keep patience. For 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙤𝙡𝙫𝙚𝙨 𝙞𝙩𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛, 𝙞𝙣 𝙞𝙩𝙨 𝙤𝙬𝙣 𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙘𝙚𝙨𝙨. (Meaning: Every situation is resolved, and everything starts to make sense—when you allow time to pass, remain gentle and careful in your own choices and doings)

Remember: Every soul is a 'creator' of its own life. You need not to interfere deeply with anyone's role. Every soul is guided by the light of God.

Spiritual Insight

🌳It is not wise and not good for anyone to stay around toxic relationships... because by continuing to allow the other person to harm you, you not only harm yourself, but also them. Remember: "Even the abuser is abused, when their abuse is allowed to continue" (You do no good to your-self, or them, by allowing them to continue doing what they find okay.

Instead, make it clear what is not appropriate, show them how you wish to be treated, by being an example; and alert them if they cross the line. Do this with genuine care, and with strength behind your eyes, and they won't feel attacked, but rather moved, helped, and motivated.

When you separate yourself from the grasp of the situation, and then HEAL yourself... only then 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧 & 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦 𝐭𝐨𝐨; for a wounded soul can heal no-one. And to heal yourself, you must first give yourself the gift of PEACE... for 𝙨𝙞𝙡𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚 & 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙗𝙚𝙨𝙩 𝙝𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙚𝙧.

"𝘋𝘰 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘳𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘢 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱"

if you can save a relationship 𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐞𝐟𝐮𝐥𝐥𝐲 & 𝐰𝐢𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐲 >> and if the other person seems reasonable and willing >> then do it... And if not, give yourself & the other person the gift of PEACE and FREEDOM.

How To Act Wisely?

Definitely practise 𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞. Do not react on everything. Slow down your senses, 𝕤𝕚𝕝𝕖𝕟𝕔𝕖 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕗𝕝𝕠𝕨 𝕠𝕗 𝕥𝕙𝕠𝕦𝕘𝕙𝕥𝕤... be 𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁𝗳𝘂𝗹 before speaking, and be 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 as you try to see another's 𝚙𝚘𝚒𝚗𝚝 𝚘𝚏 𝚟𝚒𝚎𝚠. Only by keeping "patience" we can 𝐚𝐯𝐨𝐢𝐝 𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐟𝐥𝐢𝐜𝐭.

☝️this is our spiritual insight on the given situation, and our general insight on "handling difficult situation or people in your life"

~ Manager, Samadhan, SBSI