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Are you facing challenges in your marriage? Here is our spiritual insight on how a relationship should be, how to protect your value & dignity; and also—our detailed guidance on 'keeping the marriage and healing the relationship' at all levels.

➤Self-upliftment and empowerment begins by acknowledging your capabilities, no matter how small they may seem. Shift your focus toward solution rather than the obstacle, and reframe setbacks as "opportunities" for personal growth. Cultivate resilience by maintaining positive mindest, self-discipline, practicing self-care, and celebrating every step of progress. By approaching adversity with confidence, courage, and adaptability, we can transform difficulties into "stepping stones" toward greater strength and self-mastery.

Tip: If you need general guidance on how to overcome any form of challenges in life, please read our post Overcoming Challenges.

Title: "𝙀𝙢𝙥𝙤𝙬𝙚𝙧 𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙎𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝘼𝙢𝙞𝙙𝙨𝙩 𝘾𝙝𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙚𝙣𝙜𝙚𝙨"

Subtitle:

𝙶𝚞𝚒𝚍𝚊𝚗𝚌𝚎 𝚝𝚘 '𝚐𝚛𝚘𝚠' 𝚊𝚖𝚒𝚍𝚜𝚝 𝚌𝚑𝚊𝚕𝚕𝚎𝚗𝚐𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚜𝚒𝚝𝚞𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗𝚜 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚙𝚎𝚘𝚙𝚕𝚎 (𝚂𝚎𝚕𝚏-𝚙𝚛𝚘𝚝𝚎𝚌𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗, 𝚂𝚎𝚕𝚏-𝚎𝚖𝚙𝚘𝚠𝚎𝚛𝚖𝚎𝚗𝚝)

✶𝗔𝗱𝗺𝗶𝗻: 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘧𝘶𝘭, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘶𝘮 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 (𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺/𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴). 𝘏𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘶𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 & 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴. "𝙎𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙎𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜"

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The following was written in response to a query we received on our Samadhan WhatsApp group in Nov 2024.

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𝗤𝘂𝗲𝗿𝘆: 𝘏𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘰 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘨𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘮𝘪𝘴𝘣𝘦𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘳, 𝘱𝘢𝘪𝘯 𝘰𝘳 𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵 (𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘢𝘯𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘳𝘦𝘮𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘤𝘦/𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘥𝘦𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘺 (𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦) 𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘳𝘦𝘧𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦? 𝘏𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘰 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘨𝘦𝘵 𝘢𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘣𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘣𝘢𝘥 𝘣𝘦𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘣𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘭𝘢𝘯𝘦? 𝘛𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘬 𝘺𝘰𝘶.

Your question is very clear, as "how to strengthen myself in the presence of challenges" and your question is not "whether to even put yourself in the presence of those challenges"

🌴But let me first mention this and clarify your thinking—A lot wrong has been done and endured in the world, in the name of 𝐨𝐛𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧—whether an obligation at the level of a one-to-one relationship, family, village, culture, religion, or country. Whenever human beings have acted against their inner voice, went against their inner moral compass, and done things in the name of 𝘰𝘣𝘭𝘪𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯—they have hurt another, or endured pain, or started a war. (History is the witness)

🪻In order to keep a vow, 𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 have done things that a 𝚌𝚘𝚗𝚜𝚌𝚒𝚎𝚗𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚞𝚜 person would never. Just as that—in order to keep 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕧𝕠𝕨 𝕠𝕗 𝕞𝕒𝕣𝕣𝕚𝕒𝕘𝕖, and due to 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭 or 𝘦𝘮𝘰𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 reliance—people come and stay in 'bad marriages' that doesn't serve themself, nor their partner.

God Says:

"You have no obligation to your family, country, religion, or to the world. You are not to keep your promises, if doing so harms yourself or another. And you shall always have your share of bread, and your share of life"

🍀You are not 'reliant' on any other being, for anything (even when you now think so). If you decide to 'leave' someone, 𝐚 𝐰𝐚𝐲 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐛𝐞 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐝—if the 𝙞𝙣𝙩𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 is right, and the manner of leaving is true to your being (and not running under negative emotions).

𝗥𝗲𝗺𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿:

You are not to victimise yourself. Do not put yourself in a negative situation, and then regret the choice. Always 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐟𝐮𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐚𝐝𝐯𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞, and then 'avoid' getting into arguments. So learn the '𝚊𝚛𝚝 𝚘𝚏 𝚊𝚟𝚘𝚒𝚍𝚒𝚗𝚐' and you will do good not only to yourself, but also relieve the other person from being hurt.

𝙏𝙞𝙥: Please visit, read & follow our beautiful guidance on 𝐏𝐫𝐨𝐭𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐍𝐞𝐠𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐲

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𝗚𝘂𝗶𝗱𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 '𝗦𝘁𝗮𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴' 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗠𝗮𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗮𝗴𝗲

If you seek to "stay" in such a relationship—with a good HOPE that this '𝕜𝕒𝕣𝕞𝕚𝕔 𝕒𝕔𝕔𝕠𝕦𝕟𝕥' will be settled one day, and you both shall live in 𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐦𝐨𝐧𝐲... And also your 𝕝𝕠𝕧𝕖 & 𝕣𝕖𝕤𝕡𝕖𝕔𝕥 for each other might grow, as you go (together) through this process of '𝚑𝚎𝚊𝚕𝚒𝚗𝚐' and '𝚏𝚘𝚛𝚐𝚒𝚟𝚒𝚗𝚐'. Remember: God is with you in this decision. This is a 𝕓𝕣𝕒𝕧𝕖 and a 𝕙𝕠𝕝𝕪 choice.

☘️But you are choosing the difficult way. Walking this path, you must 𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙮 𝙖𝙬𝙖𝙧𝙚, 𝙘𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙛𝙪𝙡, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙥𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙩 in every 𝚜𝚒𝚝𝚞𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗 and 𝚜𝚌𝚎𝚗𝚎 of your life. You are connected to this divine platform (Samadhan), and so shall you receive beautiful insight & guidance whenever you may need. So 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝚗𝚎𝚟𝚎𝚛 𝚊𝚕𝚘𝚗𝚎, in any sense.

🍁For such a brave decision, you should be 'proud' of yourself, as i am now. All help shall be given, and believe it—the key to this situation is very 𝚜𝚒𝚖𝚙𝚕𝚎. I can give you that key using ONE word.

It is "LOVE"

🍎You are intending to 𝐬𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐥𝐞 this karmic account, and 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐦 a deep sanskar in another soul. Only '𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞' is the energy that can make this possible. It is your 𝚐𝚘𝚘𝚍 𝚠𝚒𝚜𝚑𝚎𝚜, 𝚋𝚕𝚎𝚜𝚜𝚒𝚗𝚐𝚜 & 𝚕𝚘𝚟𝚎 that can HEAL this spiritual bond.

𝗣𝗿𝗲𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳

Ask yourself the following questions and 'prepare' yourself from within:

➙Can i forgive them immediately & unconditionally?

➙Can i always think 'good' of them, and 'be fair' with them?

➙Can i always show kindness and patience, no matter the situation?

➙Can i never fail to see the 'spiritual purpose' of why things happen?

➙Can i keep this relationship above my personal feelings, needs & ego?

➙Can I express myself around them, completely?

☝️If the answer to ALL above 6 questions is YES, only then should you proceed ahead. And if you can do this, be 𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐮𝐫𝐞𝐝 that the relationship will HEAL quickly and peacefully.

𝗥𝗲𝗺𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿: LOVE is the only way. There is no other feeling, force, or way for this magic to happen. 𝙱𝚎 𝚝𝚛𝚞𝚎 𝚝𝚘 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛-𝚜𝚎𝚕𝚏. Only if you truly are 'in love' with the person, should you try to protect this marriage (not for any other reason)

🌈As explained before—Do not try to stay & keep on just because you are 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐝𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐧𝐭. That is not 'true love' and holding on to a person whom you do not truly love, will take away a large part of your soul, and repay you nothing but regret.

𝙏𝙞𝙥: As all human relationships are based and function around 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞, it is so very important for us to first know WHAT TRUE LOVE IS. We have given beautiful explanation on the same on our post 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝗧𝗿𝘂𝗲 𝗟𝗼𝘃𝗲?

🌷Read the above post, and see if your love is genuine. If you find it so, we welcome you to follow our detailed guidance on 𝗛𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗻𝘆 𝗞𝗮𝗿𝗺𝗶𝗰 𝗮𝗰𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗻𝘁

and

𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗶𝘀𝗵 𝗮 𝗸𝗮𝗿𝗺𝗶𝗰 𝗮𝗰𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗻𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗲𝘁𝗲𝗹𝘆

Please read both above posts one by one to get the complete guidance.

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𝙁𝙄𝙉𝘼𝙇 𝙒𝙊𝙍𝘿

Everything is said, explained and two links are given for further guidance... Please read this post again, if needed. Try and follow as per your exact situation. Visit ALL links provided in this message/posts and FOLLOW them as well. Remember: 𝐆𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 '𝐒𝐚𝐤𝐚𝐬𝐡' is a large part of this "healing process" in any relationship (this is included & explained in those 2 posts on 'healing karmic account')

Also read our post Overcoming Challenges.

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𝐵𝓁𝑒𝓈𝓈𝒾𝓃𝑔..

Oᑎ ᘜOᗪᒪY SᗴᖇᐯIᑕᗴ,

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