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The art of decision-making involves merging clear reasoning with intuitive insight, allowing us to navigate complex situations with confidence. In essence, this involves—examining available information, foreseeing potential outcomes, and harmonizing logic with personal values and priorities. By thoughtfully balancing these factors, we can arrive at choices that not only solve immediate issues but also lead to long-term growth and fulfilment.

Title: "𝙃𝙤𝙬 𝙩𝙤 𝙈𝙖𝙠𝙚 𝙍𝙞𝙜𝙝𝙩 𝘿𝙚𝙘𝙞𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨/𝘾𝙝𝙤𝙞𝙘𝙚𝙨"

Subtitle:

𝙺𝚗𝚘𝚠 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝟺 𝚜𝚘𝚞𝚛𝚌𝚎𝚜 𝚘𝚏 𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚌𝚑𝚘𝚒𝚌𝚎𝚜, 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚕𝚎𝚊𝚛𝚗 𝚖𝚊𝚜𝚝𝚎𝚛𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚊𝚛𝚝 𝚘𝚏 𝚍𝚎𝚌𝚒𝚜𝚒𝚘𝚗-𝚖𝚊𝚔𝚒𝚗𝚐

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✶𝗔𝗱𝗺𝗶𝗻: 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘧𝘶𝘭, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘶𝘮 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 (𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺/𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴). 𝘏𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘶𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 & 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴. "𝙎𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙎𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜"

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The following was written in response to a query we received on our Samadhan WhatsApp group in Dec 2024.

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𝗤𝘂𝗲𝗿𝘆: 𝘐𝘵 𝘴𝘦𝘦𝘮𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘐’𝘮 𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘯 𝘮𝘺 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘴𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘢𝘳 𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘱𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘯 𝘸𝘩𝘪𝘤𝘩 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘮𝘺 𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘭𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘮𝘦. 𝘐 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘪𝘧 𝘐 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘮𝘺 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦. 𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘥𝘰 𝘐 𝘥𝘰? 𝘏𝘰𝘸 𝘥𝘰 𝘶 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘧𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘮𝘺 𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘪𝘤𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘥𝘰 𝘐 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘪𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘵? (by Srishti, Member, Samadhan group)

🌴You have come in connection of this group, this divine platform—by no accident, but an art of god. Your prayers were silently heard, and now openly answered.

☘️Before we answer your good question, it is important to remind everyone how 'relatable' this question is... Srishti has asked "𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘰 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵 𝘯𝘦𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 & 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘪𝘤𝘦𝘴, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘰 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘧𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦/𝘧𝘢𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘪𝘤𝘦𝘴" (this is the query in brief)

✶𝗙𝗼𝗿𝗲𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗱: This is going to be a 'concise' answer, as we have also given links to our forum posts (end of this post) where you will find more detailed guidance on the same. Thus, i must ask your 𝕥𝕠𝕥𝕒𝕝 𝕒𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕟𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟, as you read the following:::

🍀All our decisions/choices stem (originate) from the 4 sources/faculties:

* 𝗘𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻

* 𝗙𝗲𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 (Intuition or Knowing)

* 𝗟𝗼𝗴𝗶𝗰 (based on facts)

* 𝗦𝗮𝗻𝘀𝗸𝗮𝗿 (past impressions)

🪻If you take a moment before making a choice, you will find that your every decision/choice is powered by one (or more) of the above 4 sources. Let us explore all four of them one by one.

𝗘𝗠𝗢𝗧𝗜𝗢𝗡

It is the soul's energy to act-out the thoughts. Emotion is 𝙴𝚗𝚎𝚛𝚐𝚢-𝚒𝚗-𝙼𝚘𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗 (act). There are 𝟓 𝐦𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 using which we act and make decisions: 𝙇𝙤𝙫𝙚, 𝙁𝙚𝙖𝙧, 𝘼𝙣𝙜𝙚𝙧, 𝙂𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙛, 𝙀𝙣𝙫𝙮. Ultimately, all these emotions are sourced from and are based in 'love'. All of them ARE love, when they are 𝕖𝕩𝕡𝕣𝕖𝕤𝕤𝕖𝕕 𝕚𝕟 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕙𝕚𝕘𝕙𝕖𝕤𝕥 𝕗𝕠𝕣𝕞.

🌸When you act purely with 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬, you must be very careful and make sure that you are not guided by them alone. Emotional-choices often 𝐛𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐫𝐭-𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐦 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭, but 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐨𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫 𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐠-𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐦 𝐟𝐮𝐥𝐟𝐢𝐥𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭. Hence, make sure that you mix your emotions with one or more of the other 3 faculties (intuition, knowing, sanskar)

𝗙𝗘𝗘𝗟𝗜𝗡𝗚 (Intuition)

✶𝘿𝙚𝙛𝙞𝙣𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣: Intuition is the "inner knowing" or "guidance" that arises beyond logical thought, often described as a gentle, yet clear sense of truth. Intuition is also 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐯𝐨𝐢𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐨𝐧𝐞’𝐬 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟, voice of god—offering 𝐝𝐢𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧, 𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 in a way that transcends the rational mind.

🌈When you act from the "gut feeling" you are making better decisions for your spiritual journey. Such choices may take you to a path with 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐬, but assures you 𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐰𝐭𝐡 and 𝐮𝐥𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐟𝐮𝐥𝐟𝐢𝐥𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭.

𝗟𝗢𝗚𝗜𝗖

✶𝘿𝙚𝙛𝙞𝙣𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣: In decision-making, logic refers to the systematic use of '𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘰𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨' to evaluate information and reach rational conclusions. It is based on evidence, recognizing patterns, and following clear steps to ensure that one’s choices are coherent and consistent in objective analysis rather than emotion or assumption.

🍎When you act with logic, you are "playing safe". Decisions based on rational thinking would (most probably) not bring you to harm. But here one must take care—as rational decisions often compromise the 'heartly desires'—and therefore making all your choices with a rational mind will not help you living your life at its best, as it sometimes hinder our 𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐰𝐭𝐡 and keep us from many of 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞'𝐬 𝐞𝐧𝐣𝐨𝐲𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬. Most times, being brave, having faith on god, and 'trusting the process of life is the challenging, yet the shortest way to a speedy spiritual growth.

𝗜𝗠𝗣𝗥𝗘𝗦𝗦𝗜𝗢𝗡𝗦 (Sanskar)

✶𝘿𝙚𝙛𝙞𝙣𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣: Sanskara (nature or habits impressed on the soul) is the 𝕞𝕠𝕤𝕥 𝕔𝕠𝕞𝕞𝕠𝕟 source of our every day choices. It is because the mind is a big 'data centre' which 𝕣𝕖𝕞𝕖𝕞𝕓𝕖𝕣𝕤 our past decisions, and 𝐛𝐲 𝐝𝐞𝐟𝐚𝐮𝐥𝐭 makes the 'same' choice over and over again (until you 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐜𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐥𝐲 '𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞' the direction of thought, and thus change the sanskaar)

🍁When you act entirely on past impressions (Sanskar), you are driving on 𝐚𝐮𝐭𝐨𝐩𝐢𝐥𝐨𝐭. Such choices 𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐤𝐬 𝐜𝐥𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐲, 𝐩𝐮𝐫𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐨𝐧. Thus, if you wish to enhance your decision-making, start with this >> Change your Sanskar 𝐛𝐲 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐜𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐥𝐲 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐛𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐝𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 which are based on a balanced mixture of all 4 sources (right emotion, gut feeling, logic, and past memory)

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𝗦𝗨𝗚𝗚𝗘𝗦𝗧𝗜𝗢𝗡

We hope you have read and understood all above points. It is important to fully understand the 'sources' of our day to day choices, in order for us to master 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚊𝚛𝚝 𝚘𝚏 𝚍𝚎𝚌𝚒𝚜𝚒𝚘𝚗-𝚖𝚊𝚔𝚒𝚗𝚐.

🌳Now, if you wish to break the cycle of making wrong choices again and again, the simple solution is—𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 '𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐜𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬' 𝐝𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬. That is—𝐃𝐨 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐝𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐛𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐲. When you start thinking, speaking, and doing things 'deliberately' you begin to hold a 'purpose' behind doing anything. Living this way adds a great meaning and a sense of purpose to life. And this happens naturally when we start living with 𝚊𝚠𝚊𝚛𝚎𝚗𝚎𝚜𝚜. It is as simple as that.

The Process

Before making any important decision, 𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐚 𝐩𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐠𝐨 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧... Go within and find your intuition, the gut feeling, and 𝘪𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘳 𝘮𝘰𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯.

➤Imagine yourself making the choice/decision... Ask yourself "am i happy making this choice" (as if you are talking with your 𝐟𝐮𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞-𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 who has already experienced the outcome of that decision)

🌻That is the way to make sure that your every decision, every choice is 𝐚 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐟𝐥𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐨𝐟 'where' you want to go (aim), and 'what' you want to experience. Taking a pause is what you must practise. This is beautifully explained in detail in our post 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗠𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗥𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗗𝗲𝗰𝗶𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 (must read: recommended)

and

𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗔𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝗱𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗥𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗞𝗮𝗿𝗺𝗮?

☝️Do read both posts one by one for further guidance.

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