A must read post: Life and relationships: two inseparable forces shaping who we are and how we experience the world. Understanding ourselves (self-realisation), examining the lessons learned from struggles, self-discovery through relationships, and the spiritual growth that blooms from the journey of life. This post aims to offer perspective on this journey, while explaining the depths of karma, life, and healing relationship with family (parents in this case).
Title: "𝙄𝙣𝙨𝙞𝙜𝙝𝙩 𝙞𝙣𝙩𝙤 𝙇𝙞𝙛𝙚 & 𝙍𝙚𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙥𝙨"
Subtitle:
𝚂𝚙𝚒𝚛𝚒𝚝𝚞𝚊𝚕 𝚒𝚗𝚜𝚒𝚐𝚑𝚝 𝚘𝚗 𝙺𝚊𝚛𝚖𝚊, 𝙻𝚒𝚏𝚎 & 𝙷𝚎𝚊𝚕𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚛𝚎𝚕𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗𝚜𝚑𝚒𝚙 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝙿𝚊𝚛𝚎𝚗𝚝𝚜
Index
Insight on Karmic Patterns
Greater Purpose of Life
Conclusion
4 Practical Suggestions
✶𝗔𝗱𝗺𝗶𝗻: 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘧𝘶𝘭, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘶𝘮 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 (𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺/𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴). 𝘏𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘶𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 & 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴. "𝙎𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙎𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜"
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The following was written in response to a query we received on our Samadhan WhatsApp group in June 2025. So please read the following in the same context.
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𝗦𝗽𝗶𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹 𝗜𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁𝘀
The situation of your friend as you have described, suggests that is rather 𝐚 𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐤𝐚𝐫𝐦𝐚 & 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐲 married together. Let me explain:
He is born in a well-doing family, but generally lacks the support that he desires and deserves. This is what i understand from what you have written. So he is given one thing and not given another.
𝗜𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗼𝗻 𝗞𝗮𝗿𝗺𝗶𝗰 𝗽𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗻𝘀
The unusual relationship that you described of your friend with his parents, is a result of a past life karmic account between them, plus the karma that they all jointly created in this life. "𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙨𝙤𝙪𝙡 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙪𝙡𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙞𝙩𝙨 𝙤𝙬𝙣 𝙠𝙖𝙧𝙢𝙖". This is the highest truth. Even when you think it is the parents being harsh, KNOW that it is just the way Karma is getting settled for your friend.
𝗕𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗦𝗶𝗱𝗲:
It is more important to notice that the situation isn't as bad on its own, but only 'feels' painful 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐭𝐨𝐨 𝐦𝐮𝐜𝐡 𝐨𝐧 𝐢𝐭. Most of the sorrow we experience is a "creation of our own mind" by overthinking and making a situation look worst than it it... and we then miss seeing the "bright side" and the 𝐨𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐲 of growth that it has brought.
🌿We know that not all parents are perfect, and although seeking their support is natural, it is not vital for your 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞'𝐬 𝐩𝐮𝐫𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞 to fulfil. No... 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐚𝐰 𝐢𝐬: "Every soul reaches its life's purpose no matter what happens and what does not". No matter who supports and who doesn't. God has given us no real reason to worry.
🌈The universe works all things for you. All you need to do is FOCUS on your path, 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐚𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬, 𝐝𝐨 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐚 𝐧𝐞𝐠𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐤𝐚𝐫𝐦𝐚 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐚𝐧𝐲𝐨𝐧𝐞, 𝐤𝐞𝐞𝐩 𝐝𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐤𝐚𝐫𝐦𝐚, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐰𝐚𝐥𝐤 𝐢𝐧 𝐟𝐚𝐢𝐭𝐡. All the rest is done by the natural process of life. God helps all his children at right time & in the best way. 𝐈𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐞𝐧𝐝, you will see how it all worked out 'perfectly' by the grace of god. Always remember this.
𝗚𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗣𝘂𝗿𝗽𝗼𝘀𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗟𝗶𝗳𝗲
The 'key' to understanding such situations & challenges in life is knowing that: "𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙥𝙪𝙧𝙥𝙤𝙨𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚 𝙞𝙨 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙚𝙖𝙨𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙩, 𝙗𝙪𝙩 𝙜𝙧𝙤𝙬𝙩𝙝 & 𝙚𝙫𝙤𝙡𝙪𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣"
🪴𝐆𝐫𝐨𝐰𝐭𝐡 happens when the soul goes through all kinds of experiences (both 'pleasant' and 'unpleasant'). 𝐄𝐯𝐨𝐥𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 is the greater spiritual process, which progresses ahead when the soul LEARNS through those experiences and its 𝚌𝚘𝚗𝚜𝚌𝚒𝚘𝚞𝚜𝚗𝚎𝚜𝚜 expands.
🍁Even in the earthly perspective, look at the life stories of those who achieved 𝐧𝐨𝐭𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐬𝐮𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐬𝐬 in their fields. One thing common in them is the "struggle" and "disappointments" they faced in the path. Those struggles (whether emotional, financial, spiritual, or any) that they faced actually 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐞𝐫, 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐰𝐢𝐬𝐝𝐨𝐦, and "prepared" them for the work they eventually did.
🪷If life happened all comfortable, they would have not "learned", there would be thus no GROWTH in their wisdom & consciousness... and there would thus be no success.
🌻Also, the reason God allows us to go through this "process" is not to test us, but to PREPARE us for the success, for the 'blessing' he has to offer. Because it is not just about reaching success, but also 𝐦𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐭. And you can maintain and grow your success only when you are PREPARED in every way---𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 strong & mature, 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 grounded, and 𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 'aligned' to your purpose.
𝗖𝗢𝗡𝗖𝗟𝗨𝗦𝗜𝗢𝗡
Now that we have explained the 'spiritual insight' behind what happen in life, you understand why all things happen for a GOOD cause. It is not to stop or trouble you, but to PREPARE and help you GROW in spirit, in your consciousness. Thus, see life this way and you will see the truth. You will see 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝 behind the challenges, the 𝐜𝐞𝐫𝐭𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐲 behind the uncertainties, 𝐠𝐨𝐝'𝐬 𝐟𝐚𝐯𝐨𝐮𝐫 amidst the struggles, and 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 at the end of the tunnel.
Practical Suggestions
The following are our suggestions for your friend. He should start following as he can👉
1. 𝗙𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝗔𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁
I see you have some EMIs to pay. So you are working a job, and doing the duties of a good son. That is 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐠𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭 𝐞𝐱𝐚𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐞, 𝐚 𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐤 on the society (and on the world) that how a good child should be. Do Not worry about other things. You do not need to send money to your parents, unless asked. Rather, try to save money and put it where it is more needed.
2. 𝗗𝗼 𝗡𝗼𝘁 𝗕𝗹𝗮𝗺𝗲
You have been strong and steady all this way. Now is not the time to be weak, or put blame on your parents. They are how they have become due to the 'society' they affiliate to, the 'culture' and the 'norms' that they follow, and the 'beliefs' they have nurtured.
🪻It's just that they do not understand "your perspective" right now. This is why they go harsh on you sometimes, not being able to see the struggle and hard work you put. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐨𝐥𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐢𝐬: Let them know about it, tell them how you are managing with multiple jobs and still able to save money & even send them. Also show them how difficult is to get a job in India right now. They would thus realise how significant your 'contribution' and your 'effort' is. ((But do all this with "peace" in your mind))
3. 𝗛𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽
This is an essential step and also a 'process' to go through. We invite you to HEAL this special bond with "love" and "patience". You can do this by practising 𝐑𝐚𝐣𝐘𝐨𝐠, 𝐒𝐰𝐚𝐦𝐚𝐚𝐧 & 𝐒𝐚𝐤𝐚𝐬𝐡 𝐦𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧. We know of many people whose relationships are healed when they practised giving Sakash (intense 'positive' 𝚟𝚒𝚋𝚛𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗𝚜/𝚝𝚑𝚘𝚞𝚐𝚑𝚝𝚜 with an intention to HEAL a relationship by sending/seeking 'forgiveness')
For this, you need to LEARN and PRACTISE giving sakash. Please follow our article: Sakash: Meaning, Purpose, Method
𝐕𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐨: 3 Thoughts to HEAL any relationship (by BK Shivani)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=38lXq_q5D9Q
𝐕𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐨: 'Affirmations' to heal a relationship (BK Shivani)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ii6KPi5S8_8
➙Also read our specific post on 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐑𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬
4. 𝗧𝗼𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗱𝘀 𝗦𝗽𝗶𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆
Above all, i welcome you to take our "introductory course" called the 7 days RajYog course online on our website, where you will get all resources to understand the spiritual knowledge in greater depth.
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✶𝗔𝗱𝗺𝗶𝗻: 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘧𝘶𝘭, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘶𝘮 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 (𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺/𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴). 𝘏𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘶𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 & 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴. "𝙎𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙎𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜"
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