Being Stable In Criticism
Regardless of the form it takes and the intentions behind it, criticism can be difficult to accept. But if we learn how to deal with it, we can certainly benefit from the feedback. A large part of criticism directed towards us is not in our control, but how we respond to it is always our choice. No matter who you are or what you do, does someone always judge you? Even if things seem to be going well, do you find people criticizing your ideas, behaviors, talents, efforts, or results?
➤Like it or not, criticism is unavoidable so it helps to take it in our stride. We need to be stable in the face of criticism. It usually comes with an energy of anger, insult, disrespect, or rejection. So, more than the feedback itself, the accompanying vibrations hit us hard. Yet, we have the choice only to accept the feedback and be untouched by the negative vibrations accompanying it.
➤People’s criticism is more about them than about us. It mirrors their weak state of mind – their hurt, their worries, their insecurities and their personalities. Basically, they are in pain and are relaying it to us. Our role is to understand, empathize, and not radiate negative energy back to them. You have the power to make things better or worse when criticized. Be courteous to them, validate their words, and improve yourself if needed. Otherwise, release that scene from your mind. Remain stable in criticism, just as you remain stable in appreciation. Know yourself well and do not get disturbed when someone criticizes you.
➤Sometimes when sharing their feedback, people are rude and criticize you. Pause and think through the criticism, and check if it is valid. If yes, thank them and improve yourself. If not, let go, do not create any thoughts about what they say. Remain stable and don’t react or argue or defend. Just state your views assertively. Understand they might be disturbed, jealous, or insecure. Understand they are different, they are only expressing their opinion, which is based on their personality. Know your strengths and work on your weaknesses. Do not take criticism personally. Remain detached as you see their nature.
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"Honesty Brings Learning and Growing"
When I am honest with myself, I am able to find the joy of learning from my mistakes. Mistakes don’t make me heavy because I know I have something to learn from them. There is constant enthusiasm to bring about a change and move forward.