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Helping Someone on Addiction

This is a very helpful post for anyone who wishes to help a family member, friend, or relative to overcome any form of addiction (alchohol, smoking, etc). The following is written in response to a lady who approached us for guidance to help her 'brother' overcome his smoking addiction. Please read the following in the same context. This guidance is VALID for ALL people regardless of the form of their addiction.

Tip: Also read our detailed post: Overcoming Addiction


Title: "๐™ƒ๐™š๐™ก๐™ฅ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™Ž๐™ค๐™ข๐™š๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™š ๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐˜ผ๐™™๐™™๐™ž๐™˜๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ"

Subtitle:

๐™ฒ๐š˜๐š—๐šŒ๐š’๐šœ๐šŽ & ๐š๐šŽ๐š๐šŠ๐š’๐š•๐šŽ๐š (๐šœ๐š๐šŽ๐š™-๐š ๐š’๐šœ๐šŽ) ๐š๐šž๐š’๐š๐šŠ๐š—๐šŒ๐šŽ ๐š๐š˜ ๐š‘๐šŽ๐š•๐š™ ๐šœ๐š˜๐š–๐šŽ๐š˜๐š—๐šŽ ๐š˜๐šŸ๐šŽ๐š›๐šŒ๐š˜๐š–๐šŽ ๐šŠ๐š—๐šข ๐š”๐š’๐š—๐š ๐š˜๐š ๐šŠ๐š๐š๐š’๐šŒ๐š๐š’๐š˜๐š—


โœถ๐—”๐—ฑ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—ป: ๐˜๐˜ง ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ง๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ฑ๐˜ง๐˜ถ๐˜ญ, ๐˜ฑ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐™จ๐™๐™–๐™ง๐™š ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ถ๐˜ฎ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฐ๐˜ด๐˜ต ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ค๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ด (๐˜ง๐˜ข๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜บ/๐˜ง๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ๐˜ด). ๐˜๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ฑ ๐˜ถ๐˜ด ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ท๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜ด๐˜ฌ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ฑ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ, ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จย & ๐˜ต๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ด๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ด. "๐™Ž๐™๐™–๐™ง๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ž๐™จ ๐™Ž๐™š๐™ง๐™ซ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ"

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The following was written in response to a query we received on our Samadhanย WhatsApp group in Jan 2025.

Index

Process in Brief

Step-wise guidance

Helpful Videos

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๐ŸŒดFirst of allโ€”do welcome our 'appreciation' as you approached for help and are trying to help your 'brother' to overcome smoking-addiction.


๐Ÿ€Indeed smoking is highly injurious in many ways. Must be stopped in its early stage. But even now, ๐•š๐•— ๐••๐•–๐•’๐•๐•ฅ๐•™ ๐•จ๐•š๐•ฅ๐•™ ๐•”๐• ๐•ฃ๐•ฃ๐•–๐•”๐•ฅ๐•๐•ช, ๐•ฅ๐•’๐•œ๐•–๐•Ÿ ๐•”๐• ๐•ฃ๐•ฃ๐•–๐•”๐•ฅ ๐•ค๐•ฅ๐•–๐•ก๐•ค, ๐•จ๐•š๐•ฅ๐•™ ๐•ฅ๐•™๐•– ๐•ฃ๐•š๐•˜๐•™๐•ฅ ๐•’๐•ก๐•ก๐•ฃ๐• ๐•’๐•”๐•™ ๐•’๐•Ÿ๐•• ๐•ž๐• ๐•ฅ๐•š๐•ง๐•’๐•ฅ๐•š๐• ๐•Ÿโ€”this CAN be done.



The Process (in brief)


Now helping your brother begins with:

โžค๐˜–๐˜ง๐˜ง๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜จ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ถ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฑ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜บ, ๐˜ง๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต ๐˜ค๐˜ข๐˜ถ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ, ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ถ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ง๐˜ง๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜บ ๐˜ง๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ฆ.

โžคEncouraging them to identify triggers, explore 'healthier' alternatives, and 'set achievable milestones' can reduce cravings and build confidence.

โžคConsistent ๐ž๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐š๐ฅ ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ฉ๐ฉ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ, taking options like therapy or counseling, and 'celebrating small victories' all help foster a lasting change.


After this post, please also read our detailed guidance on ๐‡๐ž๐ฅ๐ฉ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐’๐จ๐ฆ๐ž๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐ญ๐จ ๐Ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž ๐€๐๐๐ข๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐งย (Dec 2024)



๐—ฆ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฝ-๐—ช๐—ถ๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐—š๐˜‚๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ

(( Process in-detail ))


In order to attain the desired result, you must consider every step of this process, be gentle, affirmative, and motivating. Here are our 6 suggestions:


1 ๐—ข๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—–๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป

Express genuine concern and willingness to help. Avoid blaming or lecturing; insteadโ€”invite them to share their struggles and motivations for quitting.


2 ๐—ฆ๐˜‚๐—ฝ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—˜๐—ป๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜

Keep your home smoke-free, be supportive around him, and offer alternativesโ€”like ๐š‘๐šŽ๐šŠ๐š•๐š๐š‘๐šข ๐šœ๐š—๐šŠ๐šŒ๐š”๐šœ, ๐š๐š›๐šž๐š’๐š๐šœ, ๐š๐šž๐š–, ๐š๐š›๐šŽ๐šœ๐š‘ ๐š“๐šž๐š’๐šŒ๐šŽ, ๐šŠ๐š—๐š ๐šœ๐š๐š›๐šŽ๐šœ๐šœ-๐š›๐šŽ๐š•๐š’๐šŽ๐š ๐š’๐š—๐š๐š˜๐š˜๐š› ๐šŠ๐šŒ๐š๐š’๐šŸ๐š’๐š๐š’๐šŽ๐šœ that keeps them engagedโ€”to reduce temptation.


3 ๐—˜๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ด๐—ฒ ๐—›๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—น๐˜๐—ต๐˜† ๐—Ÿ๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด

Help them identify triggers and replace smoking with healthier habits, such asโ€”๐ ๐จ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐š ๐ฐ๐š๐ฅ๐ค, ๐›๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ž๐ฑ๐ž๐ซ๐œ๐ข๐ฌ๐ž๐ฌ, ๐ฆ๐ž๐๐ข๐ญ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง, ๐˜๐จ๐ ๐š, etc. Watching motivational videos can be very encouraging and helpful.


4 ๐—–๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฏ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฒ ๐— ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜€

Acknowledge their progressโ€”whether itโ€™s a day, a week, or a month of smoke-free livingโ€”and reward their successes. For example: ๐˜›๐˜ข๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ, ๐˜ค๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜ข ๐˜ค๐˜ข๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ, ๐˜ค๐˜ญ๐˜ข๐˜ฑ & ๐˜ฆ๐˜น๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ด ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ ๐˜ข๐˜ฑ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ค๐˜ช๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ.


5 ๐—ฃ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ฆ๐˜‚๐—ฝ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜

If needed, encourage them to consult healthcare providers or counselors for medication options, nicotine replacement therapies, and de-addiction rehabilitation camps.


6 ๐—ฃ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—จ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด

Remain supportive, remind them of their initial reasons for quitting, and reaffirm your faith in their ability to overcome smoking. ๐‘๐ž๐ฆ๐ž๐ฆ๐›๐ž๐ซ: 'Acceptance' and 'Patience' are most important.

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Helpful Videos

Watch the following videos & suggest the same to the person in concern (your brother)


BK Shivani on 'Overcoming Addiction'

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vy3_2RP3ZMM


BK Shivani on 'Helping someone with addiction'

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fGPjYrkMrAI


Sadguru on 'How to overcome addiction'

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SKwLz6aI3aU


Motivational Video by Sandeep Maheshwari on "quitting addiction"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ro83VdwiYiA


โœถEXTRA: Do visit our in-detailed post on ๐‡๐ž๐ฅ๐ฉ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐’๐จ๐ฆ๐ž๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐ญ๐จ ๐Ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž ๐€๐๐๐ข๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง (must visit once)


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