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One of the most common topics from the queries we receive is "love" and in that, people mostly struggle in understanding what love is, and how to deal with the feeling.

Title: "𝙍𝙚𝙘𝙤𝙜𝙣𝙞𝙨𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙏𝙧𝙪𝙚 𝙇𝙤𝙫𝙚"

(𝙰𝚍𝚟𝚒𝚜𝚎 𝚏𝚘𝚛 𝚊 𝟷𝟿-𝚢𝚎𝚊𝚛 𝚘𝚕𝚍 & 𝙱𝚎𝚜𝚝 𝚍𝚎𝚏𝚒𝚗𝚒𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗 𝚘𝚏 𝙻𝚘𝚟𝚎)

✶𝗔𝗱𝗺𝗶𝗻: 𝘐𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘣𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘧𝘪𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘶𝘮 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵 & 𝘴𝘦𝘯𝘥 𝘪𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘮𝘢𝘺 𝘣𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘧𝘪𝘵 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘨𝘶𝘪𝘥𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦. 𝙎𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙎𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜.

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🌴Firstly, i think it would be useful to mention the original query message we received on our Samadhan WhatsApp group:

𝐐𝐮𝐞𝐫𝐲: 𝘚𝘰 𝘐 𝘢𝘮 19 𝘺𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘴 𝘰𝘭𝘥. 𝘉𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘱𝘩𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘴 𝘸𝘦 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘴 𝘐 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘐 𝘢𝘮 𝘭𝘰𝘺𝘢𝘭 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯 𝘢𝘴 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘰𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘤𝘳𝘶𝘴𝘩 𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘤𝘦 3 𝘺𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘴... 𝘏𝘰𝘸 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘐 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘥𝘰𝘦𝘴 𝘩𝘦 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘴𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘮𝘦 𝘰𝘳 𝘯𝘰𝘵?? 𝘐 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘴𝘢𝘥 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸𝘪𝘯𝘨...𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱

Clearly you are troubling yourself with such unnecessary thoughts... At this age, your attention should be on your 𝐞𝐝𝐮𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧, 𝐨𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐞𝐬, and the 𝐩𝐮𝐫𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞. While, the right question is not whether the other person is in love with you, but "𝘈𝘮 𝘐 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘓𝘰𝘷𝘦?"

✤𝗧𝗼𝗱𝗮𝘆'𝘀 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗯𝗹𝗲𝗺✤

While there are many good qualities and skills in yound people today, certainly most of the young people do not understand "true love" as they are exposed to school and college life where the 𝐚𝐭𝐦𝐨𝐬𝐩𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 is such. On the top the 𝐢𝐧𝐟𝐥𝐮𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐬𝐨𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐦𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐚 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐦𝐨𝐯𝐢𝐞𝐬 that certainly have nothing to do with pure & genuine feeling of "love" and everything to do with "lust" (bodily attraction)

𝗔𝗱𝘃𝗶𝘀𝗲 𝗙𝗼𝗿 𝗔𝗹𝗹

If you simple remove yourself from the atmosphere of your school/college, stop attending social media (or just see the positive things), and only watch/read good films and literature, 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐚 𝐠𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭 𝐞𝐧𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 not only in your-self, but also in your life. TRY THIS for even a week and see how greatly it can benefit you.

🌈Now... here is the most accurate definition what a true love must be like:

"𝙇𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙞𝙨 𝙀𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙣𝙖𝙡, 𝙀𝙣𝙙𝙡𝙚𝙨𝙨 & 𝙁𝙧𝙚𝙚" 👉 These are the three qualities of the love that is genuine and of the highest nature.

● 𝗘𝗧𝗘𝗥𝗡𝗔𝗟

Not dependant on the physical body (which is perishable) & does not change with time, moments & phases of life. Because love has nothing to do with outside appearance or worldly parameters.

● 𝗘𝗡𝗗𝗟𝗘𝗦𝗦

Not limited to any degree, for any reason, and to any person... Love is endless stream of light that flows from your soul to every being and every thing that exist.

● 𝗙𝗥𝗘𝗘

It must not bind you to anything. Love is "freedom" itself. If there is jealousy & posessiveness, it is anything but love. True love sets you FREE to experience, enjoy, and enhance your-self.

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🍁You have heard what "true love" is like & feels like... Now, if you feel that your life has brought you such a person, then 𝐢𝐧𝐯𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞, 𝐛𝐞 𝐡𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐭 & 𝐥𝐨𝐲𝐞𝐚𝐥... 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐨𝐛𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐞 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐢𝐭 𝐠𝐨𝐞𝐬... And if life has not yet brought you to someone your heart feels close... then have "patience" and keep "clarity" in your thoughts. 𝐃𝐨 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐛𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐰𝐚𝐲 𝐛𝐲 𝐩𝐡𝐲𝐬𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥 𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐢𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐫 𝐛𝐨𝐝𝐢𝐥𝐲 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐫𝐞𝐬. That will only bring you regret. Marriage should never be thought of unless you find that the love is 𝚙𝚞𝚛𝚎 and 𝚐𝚎𝚗𝚞𝚒𝚗𝚎.

🌳𝔾𝕚𝕧𝕖 𝕥𝕚𝕞𝕖 𝕥𝕠 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕌𝕟𝕚𝕧𝕖𝕣𝕤𝕖 to unfold you the best of options and most wonderful of the gifts.

𝐑𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐦𝐛𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐬𝐝𝐨𝐦:

"It is human nature to desire what is lacking... but when it is obtained, the desire is extinguished...you shall no longer feel the same joy you had when you first obtained that desire."

Because dear soul... "𝙅𝙤𝙮 𝙞𝙨 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙧𝙤𝙘𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙤𝙛 𝙇𝙞𝙛𝙚 & 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙞𝙣 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙩𝙨 𝙜𝙤𝙖𝙡"

⭐𝐀𝐬 𝐆𝐨𝐝 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐩𝐮𝐭 𝐢𝐭: "𝘏𝘰𝘭𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘥𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘮𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘦𝘺𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘤𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘴𝘩𝘦𝘥. 𝘏𝘰𝘭𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘥𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘪𝘴𝘩𝘦𝘥"

So ENJOY every moment of life... being grateful for WHAT I HAVE rather than going for things you do not. Make use of all your resources & see forward to life.

🌱We suggest the 2 following posts for extra guidance:

1. 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗘𝗻𝗷𝗼𝘆 𝗟𝗶𝗳𝗲? 👉 https://www.shivbabas.org/forum/question-answers/how-to-enjoy-life

2. 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗟𝗶𝘃𝗲? 👉 https://www.shivbabas.org/forum/question-answers/how-to-live

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