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Do you know a person (partner, sibling, child, friend) who needs help to overcome their addiction? Here is our complete guidance on how you can help them in a balanced way. After this post, please also read our latest and refined post on the same topic, titled Helping Someone to Free from Addiction (Jan 2025)

Introduction

Helping someone overcome alcohol addiction requires patience, understanding, and consistent support. Start by encouraging open and non-judgmental communication to help them 'feel at comfort' sharing their struggles. Offer emotional support by being present, celebrating small victories, and helping them stay motivated. Avoid enabling their behavior by setting clear boundaries, and remember to care for your own well-being during the process. Compassion and encouragement can make a significant difference in their journey to recovery & healing.

Title: "𝙃𝙚𝙡𝙥𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙎𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙏𝙤 𝙊𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙚 𝘼𝙙𝙙𝙞𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣"

Subtitle: 𝙲𝚘𝚖𝚙𝚕𝚎𝚝𝚎 𝚐𝚞𝚒𝚍𝚊𝚗𝚌𝚎 𝚝𝚘 𝚋𝚎𝚌𝚘𝚖𝚎 𝚊𝚗 '𝚊𝚗𝚐𝚎𝚕' 𝚏𝚘𝚛 𝚜𝚘𝚖𝚎𝚘𝚗𝚎 𝚜𝚞𝚏𝚏𝚎𝚛𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚏𝚛𝚘𝚖 𝙰𝚕𝚌𝚘𝚑𝚘𝚕 𝚊𝚍𝚍𝚒𝚌𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗

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✶𝗔𝗱𝗺𝗶𝗻: 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘧𝘶𝘭, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘶𝘮 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 (𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺/𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴). 𝘏𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘶𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘰𝘯𝘦 & 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴. "𝙎𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙎𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜"

The following was written in response to a query we received on our Samadhan WhatsApp group in Nov 2024.

Introduction

Step 1 (Empower)

Step 2 (Talk)

Step 3 (Process & Support)

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✶𝗙𝗼𝗿𝗲𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗱: We understand and feel compassion for your situation. But worry not now, for you are at God's home. You will find all help & guidance right here. Not only shall we guide you on this, but show you how you can be an 'angel' in your brother's life.

Note: The following guidance was written as a guidance for someone who contacted us regarding her brother's alcohol addiction. Our guidance is the SAME for any form of relationship you may share with the person needing help with addiction.

𝗦𝗧𝗘𝗣 𝟭: 𝘿𝙚𝙩𝙖𝙘𝙝 & 𝙀𝙢𝙥𝙤𝙬𝙚𝙧

First and above all—in order to help another, you must 'detach' yourself from the situation, and fill yourself with the 𝐰𝐢𝐬𝐝𝐨𝐦 and 𝐩𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫 that is 'needed' to help someone suffering with addiction.

🍁So, our first advise is: Remove yourself from the situation for a moment, and act as if you are 𝐆𝐨𝐝'𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐥 who is here only to help that soul overcome this habit—𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞, 𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐞, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐩𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫. (Keep this thought very very clear in your mind whenever you go try to help him)

𝗘𝗠𝗣𝗢𝗪𝗘𝗥 𝗬𝗢𝗨𝗥𝗦𝗘𝗟𝗙

A large part of this "healing process" for your brother's soul... is healing & empowering yourself first, because you need to be healed from the past experiences before you may become a help. This healing process asks you to be 𝚍𝚎𝚝𝚎𝚛𝚖𝚒𝚗𝚎𝚍 and 𝚙𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚎𝚗𝚝. So are you?

If you are... then here is a way👉

Try and wake up early in the morning (4am is best). As you wake up, the first thing you do is sit in silence, 𝕗𝕠𝕔𝕦𝕤 𝕪𝕠𝕦𝕣 𝕒𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕟𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟 and start affirmations (Swaman Abhyas). Here is our 𝗔𝗳𝗳𝗶𝗿𝗺𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗚𝘂𝗶𝗱𝗲 with useful links➤ https://files.shivbabas.org/wp-content/uploads/Swaman-Abhyas-Guide.pdf

🎶Play this 𝟓𝟐𝟖𝐇𝐳 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐯𝐢𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 in your home, especially in the morning & evening before dinner time (this is natural vibration of 528Hz frequency that promotes healing)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F7BHtlwUIEs

OR

get its 𝐚𝐮𝐝𝐢𝐨 version➤ https://soundcloud.com/brahmakumaris-bk/528hz-for-positive-spiritual-transformation

𝗦𝗧𝗘𝗣 𝟮: 𝙏𝙖𝙡𝙠

As you detach and empower yourself, now it is time to 'talk' with your brother... Find the best time for this... find a quiet room. Again 'morning time' is best for this.

➥Explain him how this 'alcohol addiction' is affecting his health, his relationships, and your family as whole.

➥Make him remember the "good time" before he got this addiction started.

➥Let him 're-experience' how better his life was before this.

𝙉𝙤𝙩𝙚: Approach with a 'detached' and 'compassionate' vision (be gentle, go slow, do not argue)

𝗦𝗧𝗘𝗣 𝟯: 𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙧𝙤𝙘𝙚𝙨𝙨

As you convince him to think about leaving this addiction... it is now time to show the way HOW this can be done.

🌳There are many good ways. Here are our suggestions:

𝗦𝘂𝗴𝗴𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝟭: "Online Group"

Connect him to 𝚘𝚗𝚕𝚒𝚗𝚎 𝚐𝚛𝚘𝚞𝚙𝚜 of people who are going through the same journey of overcoming their alcohol (or any kind of) addiction. This will 'empower' your brother in many ways, as he finds company of like-minded people which will keep him 𝚒𝚗𝚜𝚙𝚒𝚛𝚎𝚍 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚖𝚘𝚝𝚒𝚟𝚊𝚝𝚎𝚍.

𝗦𝘂𝗴𝗴𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝟮: "Therapy"

If possible for you, approach a Therapist or a Counselor who specializes in helping with addiction. (make this optional)

𝗦𝘂𝗴𝗴𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝟯: "Support"

"𝘾𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙖 𝙎𝙪𝙥𝙥𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙀𝙣𝙫𝙞𝙧𝙤𝙣𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙖𝙩 𝙃𝙤𝙢𝙚"

You see--mostly those who indulge in alcohol are ones who are unhappy with their life, relationship, and workplace; or are going through emotional issues; or are engaged in a bad company of friends. Therefore, it is vital for you to understand their perspective/situation in order to help them the right way.

🌿Do the following as a 'support' for them to bring this change:

➥Remove all alcohol from your home.

➥Make changes in their 𝕓𝕖𝕕𝕣𝕠𝕠𝕞 (clean the bedroom nicely & create more 'open' space)

➥Only healthy, vegetarian food is cooked for the family. No outside food for 3 or 4 weeks.

➥Make him 'feel included' (do not leave him alone, or treat him like a patient)

➥Bring 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘫𝘰𝘺 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘰𝘨𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 (spend more time together. Eat at least 2 meals together as a family)

➥To make sure he stays willing for this journey of transformation, make sure he leaves his old lifestyle and company of friends.

☝️All above points are 'important' for the transformation to take place smoothly. Make sure you follow this as it is, and 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐲 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠 during your brother's journey.

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𝗦𝗽𝗶𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹 𝗦𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁

🌷As he becomes better, we invite you to bring him (and your whole family) to a 𝐁𝐫𝐚𝐡𝐦𝐚𝐊𝐮𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐬 𝐑𝐚𝐣𝐘𝐨𝐠 𝐜𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐞. Find one nearby using our centre locator (International) or India centres

At the centre, he will get a 𝐩𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐚𝐭𝐦𝐨𝐬𝐩𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 that will heal and empower the soul to start a new. Even that a BK brother or sister at the centre can help him further)

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✱ 𝗩𝗜𝗗𝗘𝗢𝗦 𝗙𝗢𝗥 𝗬𝗢𝗨 ✱

BK Shivani on 'Overcoming Addiction'

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vy3_2RP3ZMM

BK Shivani on 'Helping someone with addiction'

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fGPjYrkMrAI

Sadguru on 'How to overcome addiction'

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SKwLz6aI3aU

Motivational Video by Sandeep Maheshwari on "quitting addiction"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ro83VdwiYiA

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★ 𝗙𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗱𝘀 ★

This completes our guidance today. It is now all in your hands. You can be the "angel" your brother needs right now... Remember: Angels never cry, shout, become aggitated, or hopeless... 𝐀𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐥 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐛𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐆𝐨𝐝, 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞, 𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐞, 𝐰𝐢𝐬𝐝𝐨𝐦, 𝐣𝐨𝐲, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐡𝐨𝐩𝐞.

🌈With these words, we leave it on you for now. Remember "you are not alone" and this group is at your help, whenever you may need. Just 𝕗𝕠𝕝𝕝𝕠𝕨 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕘𝕚𝕧𝕖𝕟 𝕒𝕕𝕧𝕚𝕤𝕖 and see how it not only help your brother, but also help yourself to grow as a human being.

Also read our latest and refined post on the same topic, titled Helping Someone to Free from Addiction (Jan 2025)

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