Answering the classic "Obligation vs Heart's Calling" question. In the intricate dance of life, we often find ourselves torn between the weight of obligations and the whisper of our heart's calling. Obligations—those duties & responsibilities imposed by society, family, or circumstance—anchor us to the practicalities of existence, demanding our time, energy, and often, our dreams.
Heart's calling—is that inner voice, sometimes faint but always persistent, urging us to pursue our passions, embrace our true selves, and seek fulfillment. This confusion between what we "must do" and what we "long to do" is a universal human experience, shaping our decisions, our identities, and ultimately, the spiritual path we choose to walk.
In this beautiful and special article, we explore how to "balance" between these two—examining how we can honour our earthly responsibilities without silencing the soul's deepest desires.
Title: "𝙏𝙖𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝘾𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙋𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙨 𝙫𝙨 𝙀𝙢𝙗𝙧𝙖𝙘𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙇𝙞𝙛𝙚 & 𝙂𝙧𝙤𝙬𝙩𝙝"
Subtitle:
𝙱𝚎𝚊𝚞𝚝𝚒𝚏𝚞𝚕 𝚒𝚗𝚜𝚒𝚐𝚑𝚝 & 𝚐𝚞𝚒𝚍𝚊𝚗𝚌𝚎 𝚘𝚗 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚌𝚕𝚊𝚜𝚜𝚒𝚌 𝚚𝚞𝚎𝚜𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗 𝚘𝚏 𝙾𝚋𝚕𝚒𝚐𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗𝚜 𝚟𝚜 𝙻𝚘𝚟𝚎 & 𝙶𝚛𝚘𝚠𝚝𝚑. 𝙻𝚎𝚊𝚛𝚗 𝚝𝚘 𝚏𝚒𝚗𝚍 "𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚖𝚒𝚍𝚍𝚕𝚎 𝚙𝚊𝚝𝚑"
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✶𝗔𝗱𝗺𝗶𝗻: 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘧𝘶𝘭, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘶𝘮 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 (𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺/𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴). 𝘏𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘶𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 & 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴. "𝙎𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙎𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜"
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The following was written in response to a query we received on our Samadhan WhatsApp group in February 2025. So please read the following in the same context.
𝗙𝗼𝗿𝗲𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗱:
This is not only a response, but an insightful message for all to read and embrace. We all may come to a point where we need to choose between obligations & heart's calling. From this message, you will learn to find a perfect BALANCE that rewards the most.
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☘️Thanks for describing your situation in detail. From reading of that, it appears that your situation is not as complicated as you think or feel it is.
🌈Let us clarify first:
Always be ready to support those who supported you. Always 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐚𝐛𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 & 𝐰𝐢𝐬𝐝𝐨𝐦. Both wisdom & love only 'grows' when shared. It is a noble thought and desire—𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐞 & 𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 when they are in need (as they cared of you for years). That sweet obligation is to keep and cherish.
But there is an even greater obligation, in fact, the highest obligation of your life—𝐭𝐨 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐞 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 & 𝐛𝐞 𝐨𝐩𝐞𝐧 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐰𝐭𝐡. This is the 'original obligation' to life that we all divinely abide.
𝗜𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗼𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘀𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻:
Let me explain what it means for you here and now👉
Your life is calling you to join your husband... perhaps there is GROWTH and PURPOSE waiting for you... Just as your husband found his "dream job", perhaps 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐮𝐫𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞 (your dream) is waiting for you beyond the seas.
🌱Should you renounce the highest obligation of life (𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐜𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 & 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧) in order to keep your 'earthly' obligation (to serve the parents)?
𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙈𝙞𝙙𝙙𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙖𝙩𝙝
I tell you this—the best solution to any confusion, is the "middle path" (the 'balance' way). That is—you can attend BOTH the obligations. You can go and join your husband and 𝐨𝐩𝐞𝐧 𝐧𝐞𝐰 𝐝𝐨𝐨𝐫𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞-𝐣𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐲, while 𝗮𝗹𝘀𝗼 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘀𝘂𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝗯𝗮𝗰𝗸 𝗵𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀.
🪻Surely you do not need to be in person. You might have a sibling, or a trusted relative, etc. Also, you mentioned that you both are married for 20 years. You must have children then, who can live with their grandparents back home, making sure that they do not feel alone. Also, it would be nice to 𝐡𝐢𝐫𝐞 𝐚 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤𝐞𝐫 who live nearby (in case there is an emergency).
🌻There are many such ideas you can explore and experiment. When there is a good intention, 𝐚 𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐝𝐨𝐨𝐫𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐨𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐝. There are many ways in which you can make sure that your parents are looked after.
𝗣𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹 𝗔𝗱𝘃𝗶𝗰𝗲:
Looking at the financial aspect of this—it is very much possible to hire a "full time" 𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤𝐞𝐫 𝐨𝐫 𝐧𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞 who can live at your home (or nearby) and is thus, always available. Having a job in the foreign country will unable you to do all this easily, while allowing your life to bring you opportunities for 𝚜𝚙𝚒𝚛𝚒𝚝𝚞𝚊𝚕 𝚐𝚛𝚘𝚠𝚝𝚑 and new journeys to open.
𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗛𝗶𝗴𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗜𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁
By answering your question, my higher intention was to bring in your notice (and to everyone's notice) that often the best path to take in any situation is '𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕞𝕚𝕕𝕕𝕝𝕖 𝕡𝕒𝕥𝕙' (balanced approach) as even the 𝐁𝐮𝐝𝐝𝐡𝐚 has preached. Observe that nature has everything is in a BALANCE (in harmony). This is the "divine blueprint" of how our life should be... You do not need to 'leave' one thing in order to 'hold' another. God has given us two hands for a reason.
🌳Yes, you must always 𝐛𝐞 𝐨𝐩𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐞𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐧𝐞𝐰 𝐠𝐢𝐟𝐭𝐬. When an 'opportunity of growth' comes knocking your door, WELCOME it, EMBRACE it... BLESS it... You are here not only to fulfill earthly obligations, but 𝐭𝐨 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐩𝐮𝐫𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞. Yet, in doing so, you do also fulfill your earthly obligations. The universe will send you "opportunities to grow & progress" on this path. Always be open. Hear your heart, your inner voice is your sixth sense.
🍁Do everything with 'joy' and 'love'. That is the key to life and the key to success—𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 & 𝐣𝐨𝐲. Take care of your parents & family, not because it is your duty and obligation, but because you LOVE them... and in sharing & expressing this love will you find your JOY... Remember—𝙬𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙩𝙧𝙪𝙚 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙢𝙨, '𝙟𝙤𝙮' 𝙛𝙤𝙡𝙡𝙤𝙬𝙨. 𝘼𝙣𝙙 𝙬𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 & 𝙟𝙤𝙮 𝙗𝙡𝙤𝙨𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙨, '𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙨𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙩𝙮' 𝙛𝙤𝙡𝙡𝙤𝙬𝙨.
𝗟𝗼𝘃𝗲, 𝗢𝗯𝗹𝗶𝗴𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻, 𝗙𝗿𝗲𝗲𝗱𝗼𝗺
Just as a parent care of their child not because there is an obligation to carry, but of "pure love" that they naturally experience for their begotten child! 𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐨𝐛𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬, 𝙛𝙧𝙚𝙚𝙙𝙤𝙢 𝐢𝐬 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐢𝐜𝐭𝐞𝐝, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝐟𝐚𝐝𝐞𝐬... Therefore, do not feel obliged to do anything. Instead, do everything with 𝚕𝚘𝚟𝚎 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚐𝚎𝚗𝚞𝚒𝚗𝚎 𝚒𝚗𝚝𝚎𝚗𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗. ➤Enjoy opening new doors & embracing life's gifts, as much as you would serving your parents.
"𝙒𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙞𝙨 𝙩𝙧𝙪𝙚 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚, 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙞𝙨 𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙛𝙧𝙚𝙚𝙙𝙤𝙢". Thus, if your parents hold true love, they will set you 'free' so you can progress in life without worrying of them. If you have true love for them, for your husband, and for your life-purpose, then you will take care of everything fine. "Follow your heart". This 𝕤𝕚𝕩𝕥𝕙 𝕤𝕖𝕟𝕤𝕖 is for us to use in every moment. The more you listen to your intuition, the stronger it becomes.
✶Remember: "𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝗻𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼𝗼 𝗱𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗶𝗰𝘂𝗹𝘁 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘀𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗮𝗰𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 & 𝙥𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚"
Patience is a true mirror of love... When you love someone truly, you will hold great patience... even so dearly do you love your life!
☝️This is our advise and insight. Read it again and again till it melts in your heart. Let the words fill you with 𝐰𝐢𝐬𝐝𝐨𝐦 & 𝐣𝐨𝐲... Think upon this, embrace the wisdom, and then do as you choose.
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