Such emails come to us regularly when the person seeks advice before or after the marriage. Here, this sister did not want to marry to anyone in the path, but wish to have a long-lasting and understanding relationship. We guided this Kumari towards Brahmcharya (celibacy) as a way of living taught by our Supreme father (God)
Original Email Received
Dear Sister Shivani,
Since childhood I am watching your program at home but I couldn't connect or change myself. But I am still trying.
I am not married. I am an independent girl. It's been long time I am facing high pressure of getting married.
As per them if you got the tag of marriage at a right age then it's well, wether your after marriage life isn't good. That's ok because compromise is the second name of marriage.
But they say understanding comes after marriage and it needs to be created. You can't understand to a person over phone calls and meeting.
I am looking for a person with whom I'll spend rest of life. It's about entire life not just few weeks or months.
Everyday I try to keep myself happy but when I come back home it gets ruined. Because they just have one topic to talk about.
Thanks and best regards
Our Email Response+ Guidance
To: A Kumari From: Prajapita BrahmaKumari Ishwariya Vishwa Vidhyalay (Godly Spiritual University)
Divine SisterAs you said, the purpose is to either convince parents not to marry OR to convince yourself to marry, but with a right person. And how can one ''judge'' the qualities of a person. So here is our advice.''For now, you should not think about this. As you said, you have a good job where you can focus and be happy. When you reach your home, try to avoid any thoughts or family discussions which may disturb your stage of happiness. Better is to avoid. There is a big reason why we preach 'celibacy' (non-partnership) as a true way of living.''If you are in a proper connection with us, you should know that we teach and preach ''celibacy'', as a way of living. Thus not to get married is also included. Why? You will know - first you visit this article -> Celibacy -A way of living. Continue to read ->
Not to indulge in making relationships as this time is such that 'lust' emerges and this lust, is our greatest enemy. God himself has made this announcement - ''Conquer this enemy and you will conquer over the world (spiritually).'' Moreover, we all are souls - when we have a body - we become Brothers and Sisters - How then can we marry?
There can be many questions regarding what exactly means to conquer lust - it simply means - ''Become Soul Conscious''. I am a soul, a point of divine light and might. I am a child of the Supreme Soul (god). This is pure knowledge and a source of immense spiritual joy.
Answer:When one indulges in bodily pleasure, he forgets that he is a soul (not this body). And that this body will die/end. As if we regard ourself a the clothes we wear. But now Shiv Baba (our spiritual father/Supreme soul) explains - You are a pure peaceful soul.It is no way forced on you. It is now your choice - to accept the promise of God (to become pure) or to walk on the path chosen by many today. Now you know that being Soul conscious itself gets you inner peace, joy and powers - what more is needed?Now if your question is - HOW TO CONVINCE MY PARENTS for not to marry..?, then come and read our guidance on -> https://bkarticles.blog/2019/05/19/not-want-to-marry-but-parents/ (Not want to Marry)( We understand your background and thus giving you many guidelines, as we know it is not easy to suddenly believe that GOD has come and this Celibacy can be possible.)God has gifted you this opportunity - You wrote email to us - you got this. Now is your choice - whether to regard this guidance by God or to ignore. If you chose to regard, please come and know about God's coming, the story and more -> ABOUT US (introduction)Then visit our online 7 days course, where you will learn the essence of all God-given knowledge -> https://www.brahma-kumaris.com/rajyoga-courseAlso visit when get time -> How to Become BK while living in family?Waiting for your decision & response.On Godly World Service00