Question was asked by unknown about: 'Handling Family in-Laws Relationships and staying away from negative thoughts and Maya.
Original Question via Email:
Namaste. I am living in Australia right now and arrived just 3 months ago. I am married for ten years and 29 years old and also have two lovely kids. I was only 19 when got married and faced many ups and down in my married life, even many times I decided to commit suicide and my in-laws want me to get divorced from my husband and whenever I talked to any boy in relatives they started to question on my character just because I have a smiley face. But I never lose my hope. I make myself so conservative and preserve that nobody can point me out. I always became loyal to my husband and shrink myself to him and my kids. As I strongly believe in God so I always afraid of doing any type of illegal work and sin. But my husband never tries to understand my feelings and even don't give much respect to me. I have a shy and introvert nature. I don't understand why people misunderstand me if I talk to them with a smile. Is really my character is not good? I don't want to cheat my husband. But I still think about my identity and character, attracted to another man is not a sign of a good woman. Is that I gave them any signal that attracts them to me?
You are cheerful and that is a virtue. If you create such thought for someone - definitely that thoughts will reach them and they will react if that soul is not powerful enough. This is how thoughts can influence.
Second - this all can be overcomed. A powerful tree is not shaken even in midst of tsunami. Because its roots are deep and trunk is strong. Similarly - if Soul's pure sanskars are deep and the mind is made powerful, then stabilty is seen in practical life.
Advice: Start Swaman Abhyas (practice of self respect). DAILY - wake up early in morning around 5 am, sit in silence and listen these commentaries and follow.
Swaman in Hindi: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_kYVRgC1PFM&list=PLVTJYOj3fHtHjdxqZhniGRCjWUv6MlRMY&index=2
Swaman in English: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fhr4ChV3EEM&list=PLVTJYOj3fHtEe4C2MOHQT_tMLu0AuPJot
Save above playlist.
* Conclusion *
Practice given advice for atlleast 21 days and see the results in yourself. You have 2 children. Mother has natural feeling of belongingness to someone - for you - you should focus only on YOUR family or children. Do not even try to make any happy. JUST BE YOURSELF at your best.
Always remember - Lust is the greatest enemy of human being. NEVER you should surrender to any feeling that is risen by this lust.
Read this article on Purity - as a way of Life: https://www.brahma-kumaris.com/single-post/celibacy-is-raja-yoga-way-of-Life