Sometimes our focus shifts outside, that's - we keep thinking about what/how much s/he has been receiving. Feeling jealous is a sign of a vacuum inside us which can only be filled by loving ourself, by knowing & practicing the fact that I'm an embodiment of Peace & Love. I have everything that I need.
I have tried everything to stop being jealous of someone very near to me. I just can't even talk to that person or be happy for everything thing she got in life so easily, while I keep on working hard. Why she gets to live like a queen, pampered and appreciated. It's like God has given her everything, although she doesn't even have that quality, and I keep on working still nothing. I did try everything to stop this like stop comparing. Please guide e as in the new year I want to be peaceful and be able to talk to her with a lot of love and care that comes from the heart, not in just words. Please thank you.
"We at Prajapati Brahma kumaris daily do collective Yog/meditation for the world souls & send to them vibrations of peace, purity, love, and power. Let good happen to all"
Our Email Response + Guidance
Good Morning Devine Sister,We appreciate that you have recognized the negative energy (jealousy) that you're creating for someone. And your desire to overcome the same and be able to love the person is even more appreciable! Half the battle is already won since your focus is on working on yourself & not on anything else.Let us first clear some wrong belief systems:
1. DOES GOD WRITE OUR DESTINY?
Since childhood, we have been taught two different concepts - one says, whatever happens in our lives is as per God's will & second concept says - My own Karma write my destiny. These are two completely contradictory concepts, and so not both can be right. If God (our father) would be writing our destiny, we all would have equal & perfect lives with complete peace & prosperity. We can see that we all neither have equal nor perfect lives. Even if a human being gets the authority to write someone's destiny, he would write nothing but the best. If God had the role to write our destiny, he would give abundantly to every single person on this planet. Just think, whatever is happening in our world today - the calamities, droughts, untimely deaths, disasters, relationship failures... would He do all this sitting up there??? No.
In simpler words, Karma means the energy 'I' the being radiate out into the world. The energy could be of high frequency i.e. unconditional love, acceptance, respect, harmony, peace, bliss, happiness, cooperation or of low frequency i.e. hurt, hatred, jealousy, anger, attachment, greed, ego, laziness. It is a Universal Law that whatever energy I create & perform an action, its consequences return to me accordingly. The interval between the action performed and its consequences may be of a few seconds, a few years or even some lives. [Please refer: Karma - Law & Living]God is called Bhagya Vidhata - meaning that He teaches us to write our destiny by (1) Teaching us toThink the right way no matter what, (2) Learning tocleanse our past Karmas & (3)Making our present Karma the best &write a beautiful destiny. [Please watch the linked videos to get complete understanding]
2. WE ALREADY HAVE WHAT WE EVER NEED!
Your true identity is that you are a 'soul' on a very long journey. A soul/spirit/conscious energy - a point of light that sits on the hypothalamus gland of your brain. Your innate qualities are - Peace, Love, Purity, Happiness, Bliss, Knowledge & Powers. You're by default full of these virtues & powers! Please refer:Who Am I? All of us have these 7 virtues as our innate nature.When we tend to believe that Happiness / Contentment lies in -1. How much we have (beauty, health, wealth, relations) as compared to anyone else or2. How much we achieve or attain (fame, rewards, recognition) as compared to anyone else or3. How much appreciation we receive from the people around us..., we create a vacuum inside us by programming our minds with such conditions. It is like choosing to remain unhappy until the condition fulfills (they pamper me or until they value me). When I find the right way of remaining happy unconditionally (which is my innate quality) I remain happy independent of people and situations.
Please start with watching this wonderful video series for overcoming jealousy: Overcome Jealousy (This will help you change the way you perceive things. You'll learn unconditionally feeling great about yourself!)Happiness & Love is your default nature which gets blocked when you think negative. There's always an inner conversation going on in our minds, which nobody else can hear. We're the only listeners & we should be very careful of what we're talking with ourselves.
Start paying gentle attention to your thoughts throughout the day & when you find yourself thinking negatively, replace the thought with a positive one right then. Meditation is an art of thinking right, an art of talking nicely with ourselves. You need to consciously find ways to create beautiful thoughts about the person, focusing on her qualities, focusing on the good things about your relationship. The way you learned about your true nature (peaceful, loveful.. and not jealous), she too originally is loveful, humble, compassionate... So whatever good quality thoughts that you create about her will not be a lie, it will be the truth.
Your mind is your best friend, train it to think beautiful:
'She' must have worked hard in her past lives, she deserves what she's got and I am truly happy for her...
- A beautiful bond we both share... a strong & loveful relationship where I unconditionally love her, no matter what she does / how she behaves, I feel only respect & love for her...
- I do not need to prove my truth to anyone, I live by my values but in return, I do not seek anyone's appreciation...
- I already have everything that I need... God loves me so much, His powers & love are always with me... I do the right Karma, my destiny is secured...
God, Himself is your true companion who unconditionally loves you. He has abundant peace & love to shower on you. To receive what He has to offer you, you need to connect directly with Him. RajYoga Meditation is all about learning to connect with Him & use His love & powers in your daily life. He has arrived on this earth to shower His love on His sweet & special children!You're heartily welcome to our Brahma Kumaris RajYoga Meditation center to come and learn about Your True Devine Identity, about God (name, form, role, residence, task), God's revelations (The Time Cycle, Karma Philosophy...). We recommend you to learn RajYoga Meditation, please find a nearby center on this website. Also, here's our online Rajyoga Course.