Marriage and love. How you can save yourself from this web of maya.. Many emails we receive that are about marriage. Here, a sister writes that she wants to marry someone who is not ready to. Even though it is unroyal, we do response such emails also.
Original Email 1 Received
Hello I need a solution on my problem from u . I love a person from last 7 years. He lives in mumbai & i lives in ahmedabad. So he was in a relationship previously bt after some time they broke for some reason after that I thought to confess my feelings for him. But i got to know that he is in relationship with his ex girlfriend again from last 6 or 7 months. But that girl is married having 2 children & now she take divorce from her husband. I've tried everything to make him realise that her ex gf is not good for him she is in relation with many guys when she was married & also what about his future after he got marry her & even his family is also against his decision. Bt he made his mind to marry her & He may gonna marry her in April he is also finding new house for them to live after marriage.
Now what should I do I can't live without him i love him very much from last 7 years i want to marry. I've seen my future with him & also what about him if he marry his ex gf than his future & his family's future is also In trouble. I am worried about him plzzz give me some solution.
Our Email Response 1
From: Shiv Baba Service
From: Prajapita Brahma Kumari Ishwariya Vishwa Vidhyalay
Your email letter is received and read. We received many such emails regularly. We have actually posted the detailed guidance in 2 parts (links are given).
You need to understand the difference between love and attachment. Love is 2 sides feeling where there is no separation, there is unlimited acceptance, truth.. love is very pure. Love is infact the highest feeling one can have.. So do you think such highest feeling exist for you and that person?
Here are some useful videos, forum post and 2 blog posts you must visit and read. It may change your life.
Should I Marry? - Article: https://www.brahma-kumaris.com/single-post/I-want-to-Marry-for-kumaris-part-1
(Video 1) What is true love - By Sandeep Maheshwari 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uEgWn7i67k8
(Video 2) What is love by Sandeep Maheshwari: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=faku-uBEloU
Do watch above videos also. Update us when you read the articles.
* Forum post *
Should I Marry or wait?: https://www.brahma-kumaris.com/forum/question-answers/should-i-marry-or-should-i-wait-answer-for-everyone
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Further Conversation *
2nd Email received from Vishakha
Namste Divine souls
I got ur mail & i respect ur answer & i watched video u've send. & U said I have to be clear whether it is love or attachment. So I m sure this is love i love him very much. & I do accept everything about him there is everything love, acceptance, respect, trust, understanding, loyalty, care, everything from my side isn't it enough?
& M also worried about him , his future, that lady he is in relationship with, that two children, family of both & specially him he deserves much better he is going on wrong path this lady is not good for him
Plz give some guidance that I can make him understand that whatever he is doing is wrong for him & for everyone around him &
Also how can I make him realise that i i love him.
Our Email Response 2
This love, acceptance, respect, trust, understanding, loyalty, care.. is it from both sides? No, it is one way. Love is not oneway. Attachment can be one way.
Also, if someone is going on a wrong way, as a human being - yes we shall feel good by helping him, showing the right direction. This you have to do without any attachment.
Because of your karmic account with that soul, you weak this bond. But that soul would have such karmic accounts with many others. ''Marry one who loves you, not one whom you love''
And in any way, what if he leave you after marriage? It seems a possibility.
You are connected in some way with the Godly University and we wish to give you this great news - God has come. The creator of this world, the most beloved Father has come.
What you should do?
Try and overcome such feelings of belongingness to a human being. Today's time is very different. To marry, only means to challenge the maya (5 vices). Love everyone equally. Do I need to marry everyone whom i love?? It is just a Soul to Soul relationship.
If you wish to marry someone, then marry to God, who knows you more than yourself and loves you the most. You are protected and with God, we become better day by day. On other hand, with a human being, we become lesser day by day. Body consciousness is the root cause of all sorrow and hence God (Shiv baba) firstly explains - ''You are a soul. Become Soul conscious''
Should I marry? (Hindi): https://www.brahma-kumaris.com/single-post/I-want-to-Marry-for-kumaris-part-1
Celibacy - A way of Life - Article: https://www.brahma-kumaris.com/single-post/celibacy-is-raja-yoga-way-of-Life
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