Another Husband Wife relationship guidance. Here a sister writes about her husband having anger problem where suddenly mood changes. So how to handle the situation - should I heal that soul with good vibrations or should we take divorce?
Original Email Received
Good morning Sister/brother,
My husband is aggressive and short tempered. He has no control over himself when he gets angry. Other than that he is very good. But because of his sudden mood changes, I am always in constant fear and have to talk very carefully and be very calm.
Is it wise to stay in a relationship even after knowing the other person wouldn't change and keep hurting? I keep thinking of divorce frequently, I try telling myself to be/think positive and things would change. I have waited with patience for 3 years and I have been hoping for a change in his behavior. Please suggest me a solution.
Thanks & Regards,
Our Email Response + Guidance
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From: Prajapita BrahmaKumari Ishwariya Vishwa Vidhyalay (Godfather's University)
Dear Divine Sister
Your email letter is received and read. Here is our response.
You are already listening the Awakening TV series. However, for this, we suggest you to save below 2 links which are about the Awakening series
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To your question ->
Seeing your situation, giving you personal advice. You are educated, so you can sustain yourself without a need of someone else. Usually, sisters and mothers have to tolerate because of being financially dependent.
Power to tolerate is needed. But it is understood that each soul is different. This power is not seen in the majority nowadays.!
Hence the only solution remains is to abandon the relationship - that is divorce.
However, this is not the best solution. The better solution is to heal the relationship in a spiritual way. So instead make convince your husband to sit and listen to the awakening series on ''Relationship'' which is VERY beneficial for you both. Shortly saying that each and every talk guides the family relationship - How to manage, tolerate, love and transform...
Awakening series on 'Relationship'
How to have Happy relationships (Hindi)
(video): Healing Relationship: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hWvWT3zdXa8
ADVICE: Do watch the series and videos with your husband together. They will surely like the way of explanation.
However, the key is with you. Always be maturated, tolerating and accept him. Love begins with acceptance. Healing begins with loving.
All Souls are unique and are loveable in God's eyes. If explained with love and wisdom, anyone can be brought to the right path. Weakness can be 'transformed' into virtues. We all have virtues and today we all are some or other weakness. So what is needed?
Acceptance is needed. Helping each other, being a support and guide with a feeling of true and unconditional love. This is the direction of GOD.
We also welcome you to please come and know About Us -> https://www.brahma-kumaris.com/about-us (introduction)
God has come. If you are following Awakening series, you would know the task of God and our relationship with him. Please please come and know your Spiritual father who is waiting for you.
Hope you are completely satisfied with this response. The main aim of this was to bring you near to God, your Spiritual father. Come now he says.
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