This is a question in the mind of many people. Whether or not they are following a spiritual discipline, there is always a fight with one's own conscience about what is right and what is wrong to be done; and what is serving or disserving me. And some of us, sooner or later find that masturbation actually takes a part of our body's energy to give us a second of pleasure; it puts a struggle in feeling the real world and real relationships, and if it becomes a habit, it is seen as a big hurdle in the path of our spiritual growth. Because purity of the soul and body is vital for those who aims to this path.
What causes to masturbate?
We can see that every person who develops a habit of masturbation has various causes:Loneliness, lack of affection or time spent with family, anxiety or stress, a company of wrong person or a group, visiting a place where you may catch such vibrations, watching such videos or pictures which ignites the urge to self-pleasure or masturbate... These are some of the most common reasons.
Masturbation is otherwise considered by medical practitioners as a natural and common behavior that is generally considered healthy as long as it is not interfering with daily life or causing distress or become a nasty habit. However, if you feel that you want to quit masturbation for personal or spiritual reasons, here are 5 tips & steps that can help:
1. Identify triggers
Try to identify the situations, emotions or triggers that make you feel the urge to masturbate. Understanding the underlying reasons can help you to manage your urges. And when you do identify them, find a solution or altenative.
2. Keep Busy
Find an alternative to masturbation which makes your life better, and engage in other activities that you enjoy or that can keep you busy and distracted. For example:
➥Going for a Walk (most recommended)
➥Reading a book/novel/story
➥Listening to your favourite songs
➥Writing your daily life dairy
➥Watching TV (movies, sports, etc)
➥Spending time with friends or family
➥Speaking to a friend or family over phone (if you feel alone)
➥Playing a video game that engages you to the world
➥Pursuing a hobby or interest
In today's time, you can find a thousand ways to entertain yourself and keep busy in something fruitful.
3. Create a routine
Create a daily routine and stick to it. Create a "timetable" which works along with your studies or job & family life. Follow it as strictly as you can. Make this a natural way of living... This can help you to avoid situations (& free time) that can lead to masturbation.
4. Seek support
Consider talking to a therapist, counselor or an online support group. There are many forums where you can get constant help and emotional support. Consider that an opportunity to connect with people like yourself, who already have overcomed similar habits. They can give you the best guidance, strategies and custom support. We recommend you this forum: https://www.mentalhealthforum.net
5. Practice mindfulness
Mindfulness meditation can help you to become more "aware" of your thoughts and emotions, which can help you to manage your urges, reduce stress, enhance emotional wellbeing, and in many ways, to make your life better. We recommend you using mobile applications such as Calm, Medito, Headspace, Insight Timer, The Mindfulness App.
✤ Remember: Quitting masturbation may not be easy for everyone, and it is okay to have setbacks. Be kind to yourself and keep trying the best of above mentioned ways which starts showing you the results.
In the process of completely overcoming this urge, we highly suggest you to keep a notebook (dairy) and note down your thoughts and struggles you might have faced during the day. Pour down your feelings on the paper. This will encourage you immensely to keep trying until you win.