On this post, we are writing guidance on "𝙎𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 𝙄 𝙃𝙚𝙡𝙥? 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙃𝙤𝙬 𝙩𝙤 𝙃𝙚𝙡𝙥 𝙎𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙤𝙣𝙚?"
🌱This is a question of 𝚗𝚘𝚋𝚕𝚎 𝚒𝚗𝚝𝚎𝚗𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗... We all face this situation in life, where we have to choose whether to help a person, and if yes, then HOW to help them?
☘️Of course, this response is general and we are putting the truest words, a pure spiritual understanding using which an individual soul can freely decide by their own will.
🌴Never to forget that to help is a human being's Dharma (𝘴𝘱𝘪𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘭 𝘰𝘣𝘭𝘪𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯). So if you are capable to help someone in need, do it... and do it without a second thought.
🌿But remember... help doesn't always hold a straightforward meaning. For example: If a beggar comes to you and ask for money... and you give it. He then use that money for gambling or alcohol or does some other wrong use of money. The burden of that karma also comes on YOU, since you provided the money!
You may have known this wisdom as it is often told by parents and our well-wishers not to give cash/money to beggars. The best way to help them therefore, would be to provide them with food, clothes, a job or shelther (something which cannot be misused and always 𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘶𝘳𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨)
In fact, giving them an opportunity is the best way to help.
☝️Apply the same wisdom in every situation... To help someone truly, is to give them a "𝚖𝚎𝚍𝚒𝚞𝚖" and "𝚘𝚙𝚙𝚘𝚛𝚝𝚞𝚗𝚒𝚝𝚢".
✶𝗠𝗲𝗮𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴: Giving an "opportunity" to progress... and here "medium" means a straight way which leads to a better life. Knowledge is the best example of giving a "medium" >> that giving someone "knowledge" of what is right & what is wrong would never fail to make that soul realise its fault (wrong decisions) and also adopt the will-power to bring the necessary CHANGE within, and thereby their life elevates.
🌼Do you understand? Become a medium to give them knowledge (of right vs wrong, of good vs better)and stay "detached" from what and how they respond to your help. Surely keep yourself distant from worries, or trying to CHANGE them! No... Knowledge is given only to bring clarity to someone's mind/intellect. The question of whether they will be able to accept the knowledge, it THEIR choice.
🌷This way, do the help/service which is required, yet remain detached from its result. And this is what 𝔹𝕙𝕒𝕘𝕒𝕧𝕒𝕕 𝔾𝕚𝕥𝕒 teach us (do the Karma, and surrender its result to God)
🌱Secondly... if and whenever you feel uneasy of what help you may are giving, by all means PAUSE and self-reflect. You are not obliged to help anyone, but you do that with love and mercy. Keep this clear in mind.
"Love Your-Self First"
All religions ave wrongly taught that "loving your-self" is something "wrong" or "unacceptable in God's eyes" and you must devote your life serving everyone else but yourself.
🌸Nope... Love begins from home ... Everything is first born 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻... then it radiates out into the world... So by all means: "LOVE YOURSELF FIRST" > then love your family > then go out and help others. Like as they say: "𝘾𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙩𝙮 𝙗𝙚𝙜𝙞𝙣𝙨 𝙖𝙩 𝙝𝙤𝙢𝙚" >> For how can you love others, if you cannot love your own self?
🌻𝗧𝗵𝗶𝗿𝗱𝗹𝘆... while helping someone, if you truly follow the above☝️wisdom and 𝐫𝐞𝐦𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐝𝐞𝐭𝐚𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐝... 𝘙𝘦𝘮𝘦𝘮𝘣𝘦𝘳 that "your help should never make the other person dependant but should inspire them to get up and take charge of life."