Should i marry for the sake of family dignity? or what should i do in this situation? What is the middle way through which everything becomes calm? Here is our given response. The Shiv Baba Service.
Original Email Received in Feb 2019
At present I am finding myself in a crucial mode that I really so confused how to deal with the situation.
Fortunately or unfortunately my marriage has been fixed in the last months of this year. I love someone else. But his family was ready on that time so I have to say yes to arrange marriage. But at present the person to whom I get marry his family members are ready to accept me. now I am in confusion what should I do. Should I tell my family members about the real situation. Should I opt arrange marriage for the sake of family reputation ?
I am so much worried that if I would say no to arrange marriage that it would not for my family members. I wouldn't able to face them. Is it morally right or wrong ??
How should I deal with this situation ??
Would you please guide me there if it is possible for you?
Even I am feeling bad for that family too to whom my marriage has been fixed. They are not people they are too good .. but may be I am not right person for them.
Please tell me should I go against for myself,my happiness or should I not ??
What would be right decision this time ?
Our Email Response
To: Kumari Anjali & all Kumaris
From: On behalf of Shiv baba, your spiritual father
You described the life story is short. Saying that your maternal uncle and aunty brought you up. You are confused if should accept the arranged marriage or not. Heart or mind?
There is equal shrimat (God's advice) upon marriage in this time. You have to escape from this matters. Aim must be clear in your calm mind.
Shiv baba asks us children: ''This is your final birth. Now it is the time to return home, from where you all Souls initially came.. So become and stay pure for this birth and i shall give you the fortune of heaven for many many births..''
In your situation, you should apply the Balance or the ''middle way''. Neither should you marry to them, nor you say no. Them means arranged marriage. Also to tell you that according to the godly knowledge we received, whatever happens, it happens for a reason. Nothing is just happening. It was pre-planned and well organised. Shortly speaking, our Karma decides our future. Hence to think that arranged marriage much have a link to your past life karmic accounts. Maybe that's why all came in your life. So to solve the accounts, you need to walk step by step. Very carefully, like an angel. Follow the stable ''middle way'' in every aspect of life.
That family is nice, isn't it? So you should respect them and say that ''I need time..& I wish to remain pure for this life and walk in the path of Spirituality..''. By this way, you will save yourself from burden of marriage and also not hurt them by directly saying NO.
Yes marriage now only means Burden. Hardly one remains pure after marriage. Something or other difficulties comes. Not only financial but also there are many moral and family responsibilities. God gives advice. Marry to me. I am your most obedient servant. I have come to purify the old world. Give you hands in my hands.
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Present is a test time for you. Time will test your patience. How better decisions can you make. You have to be careful here. Become very sweet. You have to send them this message in such a way that they understand your point of view. They must support your way of thinking. For this, you should have NO desire even in your mind, to marry. Just because you are willing to marry GOD, the most benevolent and beloved personality.
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