Leaving a toxic relationship is never easyโit often comes after a long journey of pain, confusion, and countless attempts to make things work. Yet, choosing to step away is not a sign of weakness but of immense strength, self-respect, and courage. Healing from such an experience is about reclaiming your peace, rebuilding your self-worth, and creating space for growth, love, and new possibilities.
In this post, we will explore how to heal the hurt, the relationship, embrace forgiveness, and choose spiritual growth & self-worth to progress ahead in life.
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๐ณ๐๐๐๐ ๐ข๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐, ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ฑ๐๐๐๐๐๐, ๐ท๐๐๐๐๐๐ & ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ถ๐๐๐ ๐๐
โถ๐๐ฑ๐บ๐ถ๐ป: ๐๐ง ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ง๐ช๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ๐ง๐ถ๐ญ, ๐ฑ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ข๐ด๐ฆ ๐จ๐๐๐ง๐ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ถ๐ฎ ๐ฑ๐ฐ๐ด๐ต ๐ช๐ฏ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ค๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ค๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด (๐ง๐ข๐ฎ๐ช๐ญ๐บ/๐ง๐ณ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ด). ๐๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ ๐ถ๐ด ๐ช๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ฅ๐ช๐ท๐ช๐ฏ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ข๐ด๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ, ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ๐ช๐ฏ๐จย & ๐ต๐ณ๐ข๐ฏ๐ด๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฎ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ญ๐ช๐ท๐ฆ๐ด. "๐๐๐๐ง๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐จ ๐๐๐ง๐ซ๐๐ฃ๐"
The following was written in response to a query we received on our Samadhanย WhatsApp group in June 2025. So please read the following in the same context.
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๐๐ฎ๐๐ซ๐ฒ: My husband has been having an affair for 5 years, and we both know about it. Despite me giving him so many chances, he continues his behavior. I have done my best to make this relationship work (incl, Affirmations). But now, for a few months, I have gone into silent mode. Now itโs getting intolerable for me to stay with him in the same house. Please guide me what is best for me.
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Here is our detailed guidance for you๐
As i understand, the most challenging part of this has ended... and you have come through it successfully. Now you have come in connection through this platform, because this was the time for you to "progress ahead" to the next phase of your life.
๐ปYour feelings are completely justified. After years of betrayal, broken promises, and verbal abuse, going silent is actually a form of ๐ฌ๐๐ฅ๐-๐ฉ๐ซ๐๐ฌ๐๐ซ๐ฏ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง. You are to "save your energy" and "redirect it" to your ๐ฅ๐ข๐๐-๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฌ๐ (goals) and ๐ฉ๐๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ.
๐You are not responsible for fixing him or the marriage alone. A relationship requires TWO people committed to change, adjustment, and healing. As you said, you have triedโ๐ข๐ง๐ง๐ช๐ณ๐ฎ๐ข๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด, ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐จ๐ช๐ท๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ด๐ด, ๐ธ๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฌ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ฐ๐ฏ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ๐ด๐ฆ๐ญ๐ง.
๐ฆ๐ฝ๐ถ๐ฟ๐ถ๐๐๐ฎ๐น ๐ฃ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐๐ถ๐๐ฒ
Your soul is calling for alignment. The intolerable feeling you are experiencing is your intuition saying this situation no longer serves your highest good.
๐ทSometimes love means ๐ฅ๐๐ญ๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ ๐จ. True love - including ๐ฌ๐๐ฅ๐-๐ฅ๐จ๐ฏ๐ - sometimes requires difficult decisions to honor your wellbeing and growth. If nothing is helping your husband to realise the path of ๐ญ๐ซ๐ฎ๐ญ๐ก, ๐ก๐จ๐ง๐๐ฌ๐ญ๐ฒ & ๐๐ก๐๐ซ๐ฆ๐... and if there is a lack of love & respect, then it is good also for him if you 'separate' yourself from his life, and gift him some "space" for ๐ฌ๐๐ฅ๐-๐ซ๐๐๐ฅ๐๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง & ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐ซ๐จ๐ฌ๐ฉ๐๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง.
๐ชปYou deserve ๐๐๐๐๐, ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐, ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐. These aren't luxuries - they're basic human needs. Remember: Love is not meant to break you. True partnership is built on ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฏ๐, ๐ญ๐ซ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ & ๐ก๐จ๐ง๐๐ฌ๐ญ๐ฒ, not secrecy and abuse.
Part 2
๐๐ณ๐ณ๐ถ๐ฟ๐บ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป๐
You are practising affirmations, so i highly suggest you to follow our 3-page affirmations-guideโ
Affirm: โI deserve peace. I deserve respect. I deserve love that uplifts me.โ
Besides affirmations, practise ๐ฉ๐ซ๐๐๐ญ๐ข๐ฌ๐ ๐ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐๐ค๐๐ฌ๐กย (sending 'positive' vibrations/thoughts) with a clear 'intention' to heal or transform someone.
Also, follow our detailed guidance on Healing Karmic Account. Find all our posts using this link: https://www.google.com/search?q=site%3Ashivbabas.org%2Fforum+settle+karmaโ
๐ฆ๐ถ๐น๐ฒ๐ป๐ฐ๐ฒ ๐๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ป๐ด๐๐ต
You mentioned going into silent mode. Silence can sometimes be a shield, ๐ ๐ฐ๐๐ฒ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐๐ฌ๐๐ซ๐ฏ๐ ๐๐ง๐๐ซ๐ ๐ฒ. But silence is not supression. Instead of silent suffering, ๐ฉ๐ซ๐๐๐ญ๐ข๐ฌ๐ '๐ฌ๐๐๐ซ๐๐ ๐ฌ๐ข๐ฅ๐๐ง๐๐'โusing quiet moments to reconnect with yourself (๐๐๐๐ข๐๐, ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐, ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐) and ask: "What is my soul asking for now? What is my role here?"
๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ด๐ถ๐๐ฒ๐ป๐ฒ๐๐ & ๐๐ฒ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐๐ฒ๐ณ๐๐น
Forgiveness is greatly important in the spiritual journey and growth. Because by forgiving others, you FREE YOURSELF as well as HEAL them ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ฆ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฐ๐๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ฆ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฏ๐ & ๐ฅ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ... This way, you give them another chance to change and become a better person.
๐"Be Grateful" for what happened, even when it wasn't pleasant. Because you will realise that ๐ข๐ญ ๐ก๐๐ฉ๐ฉ๐๐ง๐๐ ๐๐จ๐ซ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ก๐ข๐ ๐ก๐๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ ๐จ๐จ๐. You will know that "no one is to be blamed, as whatever we experience, is a result of our own past karma & choices". People just become instruments (medium) to bring you what you have earned with your karma.
โถTip: Follow our post: ๐ ๐จ๐ซ๐ ๐ข๐ฏ๐๐ง๐๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐๐๐๐ข๐ญ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง (a step-wise guide)
๐ณLastly, ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐ซ๐ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐๐ฅ๐จ๐ง๐. There is LIFE, PEACE, and great JOY beyond this chapter. Stop holding on to what only hurts youโand step into the unknown where 'healing' and 'new possibilities' await. You will be able to release this toxic relationship first by ๐๐จ๐ซ๐ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐ง๐ him completely, ๐๐๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ ๐ซ๐๐ญ๐๐๐ฎ๐ฅ for the life-lessons, and then ๐๐ก๐จ๐จ๐ฌ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ๐๐ฅ๐-๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ๐ก & ๐ ๐ซ๐จ๐ฐ๐ญ๐ก over attachment and limited desires.
The Summary
โ'Forgiveness' is essential, even if you choose to part your ways (give divorce).
โBless him so his soul is 'empowered' to change its old habits. Remember: "๐ป๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐"
โif you find a POSITIVE CHANGE in him after practising ๐๐จ๐ซ๐ ๐ข๐ฏ๐๐ง๐๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐ฆ๐๐๐ข๐ญ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง (link given above), then you may choose to STAY together... but if not, then choose your peace... ๐ ๐ฐ๐๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐๐ ๐๐ซ๐๐๐ญ๐๐ for you.
โUltimately, you are guided by your higher self through ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐ฎ๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง (๐ข๐ง๐ง๐๐ซ ๐๐๐๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ )... so always listen to that. Follow your natural instinct, the gut-feeling.
โถ๐๐๐ฆ๐๐ฆ๐๐๐ซ: I am always here. This divine platform Samadhan is your family. They are truly life-changing. Remember every word you read in this response message and you will cross this easily with God's help.
โถ๐๐ฑ๐บ๐ถ๐ป: ๐๐ง ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ง๐ช๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ๐ง๐ถ๐ญ, ๐ฑ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ข๐ด๐ฆ ๐จ๐๐๐ง๐ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ถ๐ฎ ๐ฑ๐ฐ๐ด๐ต ๐ช๐ฏ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ค๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ค๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด (๐ง๐ข๐ฎ๐ช๐ญ๐บ/๐ง๐ณ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ด). ๐๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ ๐ถ๐ด ๐ช๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ฅ๐ช๐ท๐ช๐ฏ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ข๐ด๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ, ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ๐ช๐ฏ๐จย & ๐ต๐ณ๐ข๐ฏ๐ด๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฎ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ญ๐ช๐ท๐ฆ๐ด. "๐๐๐๐ง๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐จ ๐๐๐ง๐ซ๐๐ฃ๐"
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๐ต๐ ๐ต๐๐๐๐๐๐น..โจ
Oแ แOแชแชY SแดแแฏIแแด,
๐ธ๐๐๐๐๐๐, ๐พ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐, ๐พ๐๐๐ ๐ญ๐๐๐ ๐พ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ด๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ (SBSI)
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