Healing and helping mother in law - Our response given to Ruchika (India) who faced unnatural behaviour of her mother-in-law who ever demands to sit and talk with her whole day.
Original Email we received:
I wanted some advices regarding my life situations with my mother in law. She is not like other mother in laws who ask their daughter in laws to work day night but she ask me to sit with her the whole day and take care of her talk to her the whole day as if I don’t have my own life. I sit with her from morning till noon and then again at night we have all our meals together. The only things she talk about is something bad about someone or something bad that happened with her. I feel pressured and helpless to listen to these negative things everyday. it affects my mental condition. I try to explain her that try to be happy but she has made it a habit and won’t change that to any cost.she keep complaining to others that I don’t give her time. She threatens to take pills if we don’t go according to her.
You letter is received and read. You talked about your family condition. Your mother in law wants you everywhere as you say
So here it can be understood that this may be a nature of your mother that because she have MANY thoughts and feelings in mind that she dsperately need someone to whom to speak all this.
You on other hand know that critizing others is an undivine and unroyal nature. We should NOT critize or hear other's critizism.
What should you do?
Firstly, you should not react or respond anything when she talks about others (crtizise). Just smile.
Second, convince your mother in law to watch either 'Peace of Mind TV' channel or 'Awakening episodes' with you daily. This watching will bring inner transformation - because ''we become what we see''
Third - after about 1 month of watching Peace of Mind TV, ask her to visit a nearby centre to take the 7 days course. Know more here: https://www.brahma-kumaris.com/rajyoga-course
Try this for yourself also. When get time, you and family sit together to watch the PMTV (visit pmtv website). If your TV doesn't cable doesntshow this channel, then watch online on YouTube: PMTV live YouTube.
--- Extra Advice ---
Mother and family -Practice Swamaan - swaman means ''self respect of soul'' - I am a Peaceful, pure, powerful soul'' - Practice swamaan daily morning with these commentaries: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_kYVRgC1PFM&list=PLVTJYOj3fHtHjdxqZhniGRCjWUv6MlRMY&index=1
Do this and update us your progress. See the transformation taking place in your family, and specially mother in law.