Family, the cornerstone of our lives, can also be a source of profound emotional turbulence. Anger—whether sparked by misunderstandings, unmet expectations, or unresolved past wounds—can fracture even the strongest bonds, leaving loved ones feeling isolated and disconnected. Yet, within this tension lies an opportunity—not only to 'heal' but also to 'strengthen' the bond. Healing relationships is not merely done through words, but more with positive thought/intention and willingness.
This article-post gives guidance on a specific family situation, where a grand-daughter feels for her grandfather, and enters into a conflict with her uncle and rest of the family. She approached us for guidance to overcome her anger issue, heal herself, and mend the relationship.
✶𝗔𝗱𝗺𝗶𝗻: 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘧𝘶𝘭, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘶𝘮 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 (𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺/𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴). 𝘏𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘶𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 & 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴. "𝙎𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙎𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜"
The following was written in response to a query we received on our Samadhan WhatsApp group in April 2025. So please read the following in the same context.
Title: "𝙎𝙤𝙡𝙪𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙤 𝙖 𝙁𝙖𝙢𝙞𝙡𝙮 𝙎𝙞𝙩𝙪𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣"
Subtitle:
𝙸𝚗𝚜𝚒𝚐𝚑𝚝 𝚘𝚗 '𝚊𝚗𝚐𝚎𝚛' 𝚒𝚜𝚜𝚞𝚎 & 𝚘𝚗 '𝚑𝚎𝚊𝚕𝚒𝚗𝚐' 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚜𝚎𝚕𝚏 & 𝚛𝚎𝚕𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗𝚜𝚑𝚒𝚙𝚜 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚗 𝚏𝚊𝚖𝚒𝚕𝚢
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Original Query >>
The Response
Firstly, it is good that you have wrote down your feelings... This itself would make you feel light and free.
Now, 𝐨𝐛𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐞 yourself what has happened. You saw a scene, and it did not please you seeing that your grandfather was not treated with the 𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐞 & 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭 he deserve. You saw this as "injustice" and this immediately sparked emotions in your heart... This then trailed long and caused you anger. ((Anger is the final outcome whenever you become too emotional.. no matter what emotion is in the beginning, but it would all lead to 'anger' in the end))
Because anger has many open doors to enter... Observe this >>Whatever makes you unhappy, and whenever you are 'agitated' or 'feeling helpless' or especially when something doesn't happen as per your expectation or will—this will lead to disappointment and anger... and anger takes away "clarity" in thinking. 𝗥𝗲𝗺𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿: One cannot make the best decision (in a given situation) in favour of 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐞 & 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬, when their mind is covered by anger.
What is the Solution?
ANSWER: "𝘾𝙡𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙩𝙮 & 𝙋𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚"
...and these both reciprocate each other (if you find 𝐜𝐥𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐲 you will attain 'peace' & 'patience'... and when you keep 𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 you will also gain 'clarity' with time)
🌳Hence all we need to keep is "patience" when dealing with situations or people. Just 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐦𝐦𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐲>> that is all you need. 𝐉𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐨𝐛𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐞 and then process it using your 𝐩𝐚𝐬𝐭 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞, 𝐰𝐢𝐬𝐝𝐨𝐦 & also be open to the 𝐝𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭.
𝗜𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝘀𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻:
What you missed here, was an opportunity to see the other side... Maybe it is not what you THINK it is... as there are things that you do not know (and cannot see)... The kind of relationship they both (your grandpa & uncle) share is their own 𝐤𝐚𝐫𝐦𝐢𝐜 𝐚𝐜𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐭 >> we cannot judge that without having the "complete picture" (which only god have)
🍁"𝘌𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦𝘴 𝘴𝘦𝘯𝘴𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘺"... A big picture makes no sense when only a small part of it is seen. 𝗟𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝗮 𝗯𝗶𝗴 𝗽𝗶𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗲 isnt it. We see but a small part of it at once... 𝐄𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐬𝐜𝐞𝐧𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 will make a complete sense when you will see it as WHOLE... Same is true for every life of every person alive. "Think"
𝗦𝗢𝗟𝗨𝗧𝗜𝗢𝗡
Practically, yes suggest your grandpa to buy an inverter for himself (or anything cheaper that ensures he gets 'cool air' during summer)... And spiritually, you can help yourself to HEAL, to find PEACE... and to heal the relationships within your family. (Perhaps this is the purpose why you got connected to this divine platform 'Samadhan')
🌈We have detailed written guidance already published on our FORUM... So please read & follow the below-given posts one by one:
How to Tolerate, Forgive, Face & Heal?
Specific: Overcome Anger Forever
Healing from Past & Living in Awareness
🌟We highly recommend you to start practising "Sakash" meditation for your family & yourself:
➤➤ 𝙈𝙤𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙖𝙡
Testing times are 'blessed' times
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𝐵𝑒 𝐵𝓁𝑒𝓈𝓈𝑒𝒹..✨
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