Husband puts obstacles and challenges for the wife who just came in Gyan (became a BK) and wife writes to us for a solution. Here is our detailed response with guidance.
Original Email written to BK Shivani:
Om shanti shivanididi
I am married for 27 years and my husband is angry in nature and unpredictable. He has disputes with my family my children, myself, for long time and he doesn't attend most of the gathering with positive approach. He also fight with our friends on small issues. Now he expects that I shouldn't attend to any functions or get together where he is not comfortable. As a wife what is right approach? Is it to be loyal to his emotions or manage all the relations without him. And how to explain him as he starts scolding in a very bad way. I am trying truly from my heart and practice the original sanskars of soul.
Your letter is received and read. You discussed that you have a trouble of sanskar with your husband. You are doing Purusharth to transform your sanskar while your husband is a challenge for you.
You should now know that you are now in a different line. You know do not expect anything from others. Now you know that whatever you need, is within you. You are PEACE, you are POWER and you are LOVE.
If someone give you sorrow, show them mercy, If someone hurts or anger with you, then give them vibrations of peace. We brahmans who live in family also face such situations. Baba has given us Shrimat on how to handle everything. This is the best advice (advice of God himself) - Learn to tolerate. Life is to learn.
Life is there and we have come here to LEARN. You become a child of God and God is your father, and a teacher. So you have a responsibility - you CANNOT give sorrow to anyone, for any reason. Consider everyone equal. Knowledge helps us to understand the reality of life. Why does something happen?
When you know that ''Everything happens for a good reason, then you put a smile on face and love this life.'' You know, this is the final moment of World Drama and the cycle of 5000 years is just about to end. Hence all souls shall be liberated. Before this, many changes has to happen. Relationships changes, climate change, change in beliefs, etc.
During this, we Brahman souls, whom God is giving the knowledge and we are becoming deity like - would have much service to do for the world souls. We are the direct creation of God (Shiv baba) and hence we are his medium for World Transformation.
You are new in Gyaan and everyone faces such problem when they first come in Gyan. So be calm and follow the Shrimat given in Murlis. Listen Murli EVERYDAY here: babamurli.com (if you know Hindi, it's better)
What is Murli or Shrimat?: https://www.brahma-kumaris.com/what-is-murli
With some time, your husband will begin supporting you. For this, you need to follow the Shiv baba's shrimat. Murli is our food and a guide for life. Always be patient and watch whatever happens. Do NOT have any attachment for husband or anyone else. See them as a victim of Maya (5 vices) and you being a doctor. Clear?
Need more guidance? Here is our Question-Answers forum: https://www.brahma-kumaris.com/forum/question-answers
Need anything else? Search on BK Google: www.bkgoogle.com (A personal divine search engine for BKs)