Choosing a life partners even means writing your future with your own hands. So HOW TO choose your Life partner? What is the perfect spiritual match?
( Please read till the end of conversation )
Hence here is our guidance on love and choosing the right life partner. While know that we ourself take ourself closer to God, the most beloved personality, for which you are asked not to marry or practice complete celibacy for this precious birth. More of which you will know on our Article: Celibacy, a way of Life. Ok, enjoy the conversation.
Original Email Received in Feb 2019
Respected sisters and brothers,
I have been following a lot of Sister Shivani's videos and ThinkRight. Me app affirmations. I've always heard from her to exercise the capacity to accept other people and radiating love and affection to them. My doubt was how should one decide on a life partner? If we can remain happy with everyone and accept everyone, how do we choose whom to spend our life with? Choosing a life partner is one of the most important decisions one has to make in their life. One wrong decision, and the entire life pathway may change. So how we choose on someone, especially in arranged marriages where you haven't spent enough time with someone and if you see everyone's good qualities, you will never be able to come to that one conclusion as to whom should one marry. I was highly confused in this case and wanted your help.
Your email as on 11 Feb 2019 is received and read. Here is our response.
Yes, that is right. One should always strive towards give love to all and be accepting of others. But acceptance does not mean saying yes to everything. You can of course have your preferences.
What acceptance means is that it is not causing any disturbance in your mind. You are not being judgemental about the other person. We can never know the entire truth of one’s life.
Acceptance means to understand that I am a soul and a child of God, and so is the other person. We are all playing our role as per world drama. This is called being soul conscious. When you are in this consciousness, you see the divinity in everyone and acceptance becomes a natural way of life.
Choosing the right
When it comes to choosing a life partner, have your terms and conditions regarding how that person should be, matching your living values, likes and dislikes (not necessary, but best if it does match), family atmosphere and background, and most important if you two really have a deep inner connection which you may call love. If you find someone suitable and if there is a strong karmic account, most chances to become long-term life partners.
In many religions and countries, it is widely believed that God creates your exact match and send you both in world. This in fact to say that our marriage for life is already destined. This isn't true however. God does not sit and make couples. What is the purpose? He knows the world, being the creator of world. He knows his children.
So the accurate way to answer WHY two souls have such inner connection that they are perfect to marry each other, lies in their past life Karmic account. If they both loved each other in a different form and name and even between a different relationship (can be a parent-child, brothers, sisters or brother-sister, and even husband-wife). So in the view of Soul, love does not mean a RELATIONSHIP of Husband and Wife. Love only means a feeling of pure connection, caring about each other, giving priority and respect.
Love is simply beautiful and unbounded of any marriage. So there is no NEED when you feel COMPLETE being with someone. This feeling of completeness is called ''love''.
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