As we newly find spirituality, we are surrounded by the magnificence and beauty it brings to life. Spirituality immediately becomes the 'centre-point' of life, and everything else revolves around this newly-found inner truth. This is all natural and essential.
But does it meanโto remove yourself completely from the worldly life, family, relationships, and the responsibilities? No. There must be a 'balance' between spiritual path we walk (as a process), and the responsibilities we hold towards family, work & relationships. When this balance is found and maintained, we can progress greatlyโbecome spiritual matured, emotionally stronger, and wiser as a human being. All this comes as a 'gift' for maintaining this 'balance'. You will learn all this and more, in this special post. So must read it till the end>>
Title: "๐ฝ๐๐ก๐๐ฃ๐๐: ๐๐ฅ๐๐ง๐๐ฉ๐ช๐๐ก ๐๐๐ฉ๐ & ๐๐๐ง๐ง๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐"
Subtitle: ๐ป๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ '๐๐๐๐๐๐๐' ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ข ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐. ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐ข ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ '๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐'?
โถ๐๐ฑ๐บ๐ถ๐ป: ๐๐ง ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ง๐ช๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ๐ง๐ถ๐ญ, ๐ฑ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ข๐ด๐ฆ ๐จ๐๐๐ง๐ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ถ๐ฎ ๐ฑ๐ฐ๐ด๐ต ๐ช๐ฏ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ค๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ค๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด (๐ง๐ข๐ฎ๐ช๐ญ๐บ/๐ง๐ณ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ด). ๐๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ ๐ถ๐ด ๐ช๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ฅ๐ช๐ท๐ช๐ฏ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ข๐ด๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ, ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ๐ช๐ฏ๐จย & ๐ต๐ณ๐ข๐ฏ๐ด๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฎ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ญ๐ช๐ท๐ฆ๐ด. "๐๐๐๐ง๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐จ ๐๐๐ง๐ซ๐๐ฃ๐"
Query:
I am going through a divorce and living separately from my wife since 5 months. There were a lot of issues between us more due to differences in the value systems with which we have been raised. She was adamant and always wanted things to happen her way. Eventually I got frustrated and told her that I no longer intend to stay together.
After being separated for 5 months, I got more into spirituality and Iโm now thinking whether I should reconsider my decision. Although Iโm at peace now, Iโm thinking whether going back to her will allow my 'spiritual progress' and take me 'closer to god' by keeping my mind calm and focused as I navigate through my marital life and try to maintain a balance between my wife and family/friends, OR, would that only pull me down (from my spiritual progress) that I have made so far.
I would really appreciate some guidance and light on this.
Our Response
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The following is our guidance on finding the right approach for spiritual progress, while staying with family, doing your work & fulfiling your responsibilities.
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๐ดFirst of allโlet us clear the misunderstanding relating to 'spirituality' and the path we should walk after a "spiritual realisation". Should we try and keep a 'balance' between ๐ง๐ข๐ฎ๐ช๐ญ๐บ, ๐ธ๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฌ & ๐ด๐ฑ๐ช๐ณ๐ช๐ต๐ถ๐ข๐ญ๐ช๐ต๐บโor should we renunciate everything?
๐ชดSpirituality does not require us to leave the work, family, or any particular relationship. Instead, ๐๐จ๐ซ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ '๐ง๐๐ฐ' ๐ซ๐๐ฅ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐ฉ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ข๐ง๐ง๐๐ซ-๐ฌ๐๐ฅ๐ ๐๐ง๐ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ก๐ข๐ ๐ก๐๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ฌ๐๐ฅ๐ (๐ ๐จ๐). Having a strong relationship with god will bring 'magic' into your life.
"Spirituality is not about renunciating, but discovering!"
๐๐ป๐๐ถ๐ด๐ต๐ ๐ข๐ป ๐ฌ๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ฆ๐ถ๐๐๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป
As you described your story, we cannot fail to notice the good cause. Notice how your separation from wife caused you to come to spirituality. It was all planned & meant to happen! "Everything make sense when we see the complete picture"
๐ฌ๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐พ๐๐ฒ๐๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป ๐ถ๐โAfter being into spirituality, should i consider staying together with my wife (with whom i had conflict), or should i stay apart? Does living together & keeping a 'balance' with family life help us becoming spiritually strong, or does it deviate us from the path?
โถ๐๐ป๐๐๐ฒ๐ฟ:
In any way of formation, this question is perhaps the most vital, for anyone who is ๐ ๐ ๐๐ง๐ฎ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ๐ฉ๐ข๐ซ๐ข๐ญ๐ฎ๐๐ฅ ๐ฌ๐๐๐ค๐๐ซ, and wants to walk the path but not give up the family-responsibilities.
๐As mentioned in the beginning, ๐จ๐ฅ๐๐ง๐๐ฉ๐ช๐๐ก๐๐ฉ๐ฎ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ซ๐๐ง๐ฎ๐ง๐๐ข๐๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐๐ฆ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฒ, ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ค, ๐จ๐ซ ๐ซ๐๐ฌ๐ฉ๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ข๐๐ข๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐๐ฌโ๐๐ฎ๐ญ ๐๐ฆ๐๐ซ๐๐๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ฆ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก '๐ฌ๐๐ฅ๐-๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ๐ฅ๐๐๐ ๐'. For how you give your family love & care, when you lack it within. How can we work effectively, when we are not feeling at best. How can i fulfil my resopnsibilities, when do not know who i am.
Here are a few life-transforming lines that defines exactly what spirituality is meant to bring into your life:
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๐ณSpirituality completes our life. It does not break relationships, but make them ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ and ๐๐๐ข๐๐๐... 'Spirituality' simply means ๐ก๐๐ซ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ก๐๐๐ ๐๐จ ๐ ๐จ๐ฅ๐๐ง๐๐ฉ (๐จ๐ค๐ช๐ก). It is asking the question: "How will i manage my life around family, work, self-goal and responsibilitiesโif I am an eternal consciousness (spirit) who has incarnated for a purpose?"
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๐ฑFinallyโcoming to the heart of your questionโ'Will living together help me and my wife progress into spirituality, or will it deviate me from the path?'
โถAnswer:
If you are determined to be ๐ฉ๐๐ญ๐ข๐๐ง๐ญ, ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฏ๐ข๐ง๐ , ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฌ๐, ๐๐ง๐ ๐ ๐๐ง๐ญ๐ฅ๐โthen nothing can cause you to deviate. Instead, your presence will serve as 'a reminder' for your wife's soul. Even she will receive your ๐๐๐๐, ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐โand even her transformation can begin.
๐ปBut be awareโthis will happen ๐จ๐ง๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ก๐๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ฒ ๐จ๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฉ๐๐ญ๐ก ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐๐ง ๐ฎ๐ง๐๐๐ฏ๐ข๐๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ซ๐๐ฌ๐ข๐ฅ๐ข๐๐ง๐๐. We should steadily practise being soul-conscious, and ๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ฒ ๐ข๐ง ๐ซ๐๐ฆ๐๐ฆ๐๐ซ๐๐ง๐๐ of Shiv baba (the Supreme Soul). This exactly is what we call RajYog meditation.
๐When we stay in such remembrance, ๐ฐ๐ ๐๐๐ซ๐ข๐ฏ๐ ๐ฌ๐ฉ๐ข๐ซ๐ข๐ญ๐ฎ๐๐ฅ ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฐ๐๐ซ๐ฌ & ๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ๐๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ก๐๐ฅ๐ฉ from beloved father, Shiv Baba. We never experience being alone, and constantly guided to the right path. "๐๐ญ๐ญ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ด๐ธ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ด ๐ข๐ณ๐ฆ ๐จ๐ช๐ท๐ฆ๐ฏ ๐ฆ๐ท๐ฆ๐ฏ ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ๐บ ๐ข๐ณ๐ฆ ๐ข๐ด๐ฌ๐ฆ๐ฅ". ๐๐ค๐ is simplyโan intellectual & heartly-personal connection with the divine (Shiv Baba, the highest soul)
๐๐๐พ๐๐๐ฟ:
Definitely try staying with your wife... Give it a try... But if you feel (at any point) that your own spiritual progress is hindered and this relationship is not helping both of you, then choose to part. Give yourself and your wife, ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ ๐ข๐๐ญ ๐จ๐ ๐ฌ๐ฉ๐๐๐ ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐ซ๐๐๐๐จ๐ฆ. Let her be with herself and you focus inward on your journey.
๐๐ ๐๐๐ฅ๐๐๐จ๐
In no case should you cause her grief. So ๐๐ ๐๐๐ซ๐๐๐ฎ๐ฅ ๐จ๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก๐ญ๐ฌ, ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐๐ฌ, ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐๐ก๐๐ฏ๐ข๐จ๐ซ. Explain her of your motive, and encourage & inspire her to follow ๐ค๐ก๐๐ฃ๐๐ฅ๐ฆ๐๐ ๐ก๐ฃ๐๐๐๐๐ก๐๐๐ค ๐๐๐ ๐จ๐๐ช ๐ ๐ ๐๐๐ง๐๐๐... Remember: ๐๐ฎ๐ซ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ is the foundation. At no cost should you compromise your spiritual principles, especially purity (includes celibacy). Hence you must exhibit 'purity' in every relationship and karma.
๐If you walk this way, not only will you take the 'balanced' approach, also can become an intrument for bringing your wife (and others) towards spirituality, and make their fortune too. For all this, must you ๐๐ฆ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฐ๐๐ซ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐๐ฅ๐ ๐๐ข๐ซ๐ฌ๐ญ. Your vibrations should influence them (and not vice versa).
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โฑ ๐ฆ๐ฒ๐น๐ฒ๐ฐ๐๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ธ๐/๐ฉ๐ถ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ผ๐ โฑ
๐๐๐๐: Balance b/w Loukik & Aloukik Life (post)
๐๐ข๐๐๐จ: Balancing Work & Family (by BkShivani)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GfzbivONqYM
๐๐ข๐๐๐จ: BALANCE in life (by BkShivani)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yeU6IcDp5aI
๐๐ข๐๐๐จ ๐๐ฅ๐๐ฒ๐ฅ๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ: BEING DIVINE (full series)
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL8BCGs3ul_7TYT2uvJXV9ClCcscvwrnVR
๐๐ข๐๐๐จ ๐๐ฅ๐๐ฒ๐ฅ๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ: BEING LOVE (full series)
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL8BCGs3ul_7R1j_LBAa7oaJMBEWVGr_55
โ๏ธHighly I would recommend you to visit ALL given links (read the post, and watch all videos) to gain more and more ๐๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ฅ๐ช, ๐ค๐ฆ๐ก๐ก๐ ๐ฃ๐ฅ & ๐๐ฆ๐๐๐๐๐๐ in this direction.
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๐ต๐๐๐๐๐พ๐๐๐...
Oแ แOแชแชY SแดแแฏIแแด,
๐ธ๐๐๐๐๐๐, ๐พ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐, ๐พ๐๐๐ ๐ญ๐๐๐ ๐พ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ด๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ (SBSI)
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