Can Love Hurt Me?

As we create many new relationships in life, we give certain people access to our inner world of emotions by sharing with them our deepest thoughts and feelings. When they also reciprocate and share with us their inner world, we treasure the relationship. A meaningful connection starts building. But as time moves forward, love gets mixed with attachment.

➤Attachment is an unsettling emotion – it can be a source of great happiness but it can also create deep wounds. 𝐏𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐬 𝐢𝐧𝐜𝐥𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐣𝐨𝐲 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐨𝐭𝐡. When there is love we take good care of people, give people the space they need, and do not fear to lose them.

➤But 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐚𝐜𝐡𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭, 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐬 𝐞𝐱𝐜𝐥𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐯𝐞 & 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐜𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐝 – whenever they get upset, we create hurt. When their behavior changes, we create hurt. When we fear to lose them, we create hurt. And we believe – I love them but they hurt me. Love cannot hurt and people cannot hurt. Our attachment in the name of love towards them creates our hurt.

➤Love for anyone – 𝐚 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭, 𝐬𝐩𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞, 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝, 𝐬𝐢𝐛𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠, 𝐨𝐫 𝐟𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐝 is a space we move into. A conscious awareness is needed to understand that such love, care, and closeness, take us closer to hurt when there is attachment. When we stop identifying with labels of relationships and see everyone as pure souls, we experience love without attachment. Let us subtly examine our close relationships to check if we love them or have become emotionally attached.`