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2023-05-14

Gratitude For People Who Weren’t Good To Us

The behaviors of certain people feel unacceptable, hostile, or even intolerable to us sometimes. We feel they came into our life and created chaos with their words and behaviors. What we fail to realize is that such people bring out our potential, help us grow and be stronger. 𝐋𝐞𝐭 𝐮𝐬 𝐛𝐞 𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐟𝐮𝐥 to those who were not good or kind to us. Do you believe that 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱/𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲𝘀, 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗻𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗹𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗼𝗻𝘀? You may dislike every bit about someone who behaved wrongly with you, but do you realize how powerful you emerged, as you went through those experiences?

➥ Whether they are rude, betray us, create an obstacle in our success, lie to us or harm us, 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐦𝐲 𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐰𝐭𝐡. They make us strong enough to independently deal with the issue, overcome any situation, and remain powerful. When people are not right to us, 𝐰𝐞 𝐚𝐝𝐚𝐩𝐭, 𝐰𝐞 𝐚𝐝𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭, 𝐰𝐞 𝐚𝐝𝐚𝐩𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐧𝐞𝐰 𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠, 𝐨𝐟 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐝𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐛𝐞𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐫. We lower our ego, enhance our goodness and take care of keeping our karmas clean. By becoming powerful, we also change our past belief that our emotions are dependent on people.

➥ 𝐏𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐟𝐮𝐥, 𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐞𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐮𝐜𝐡 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞. Remind yourself everyday - I am a wise being. I am grateful for everyone in my life, no matter how they treat me. I treat them well. I thank the people who were not right to me, for giving me the strength to be who I am today – powerful and humble.

➥ Remind yourself regularly that "𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐚 𝐝𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐬𝐨𝐮𝐥, 𝐚 𝐩𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐟 𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭, 𝐚 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝 𝐨𝐟 𝐆𝐨𝐝 𝐡𝐢𝐦𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟". Thank everyone who has been a part of your life journey, for their role in it. At times people are not right to you, they lie, betray, ignore or abuse you. It’s their doing, their choice. You take care of yourself, you recognize your worth and remain in self-respect. You should be grateful to them for bringing out the best in you.

➥ Their behaviour gives you the 𝐨𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐭𝐨 𝐢𝐧𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐨𝐥𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞, 𝐚𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐦𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬, 𝐯𝐚𝐥𝐮𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭, 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐝𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝. Develop compassion for yourself and them. Forgive them as they are not wrong, they are in pain themselves, and behaving that way because of that. They are playing their role, as per our past karmic accounts. Now they allow you to settle your past karma with them. Even if you feel uncomfortable momentarily, realize they came to give you the lessons and knowledge that you had to learn. Your gratitude influences them, heals them. You come out of it stronger, you let go of the emotions, move on, being a better you, giving gratitude for everyone.

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Message for Today

"Forgiveness means to forget the mistakes of others"

"Forgiveness means to forget the mistakes of others"

ExpressionThe one who is able to forgive is able to forget the mistakes in their future interactions even after noticing the mistakes of others. They are able to be loving and so he is able to give corrections with love. Only when there is love in one's interactions, will the corrections given will be effective. Also such a person will not be caught up with anyone's mistakes and will be free from wrongly judging and criticising.


ExperienceEven if there is a temporary feeling of negativity, if I am able to forget the mistakes of others and forgive them, I am able to be free from negative feelings. I am able to be light and free from the burdens of the past interactions with them. So I find myself successfully able to deal with others, whoever they may be.

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