5 Ways Of Being Assertive In Relationships

1 ● 𝗣𝘂𝘁 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗣𝗼𝗶𝗻𝘁 𝗔𝗰𝗿𝗼𝘀𝘀 𝗣𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗲𝗳𝘂𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗔𝗻𝗱 𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗳𝘂𝗹𝗹𝘆 – Often in different life situations we become angry when others do not agree with us and do not respect our opinion. We feel this is wrong and feel the urge to do something about that. We can share our opinion and also explain why that is beneficial in the situation, but without having any ego and with a lot of peace and respect.

2 ● 𝐌𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐒𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐎𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫’𝐬 𝐅𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐍𝐨𝐭 𝐇𝐮𝐫𝐭 – Spirituality teaches us that being aggressive is against the goodness of human relationships and being assertive is not wrong if used in a correct way without giving pain to the other person and without dominating the other person’s feelings. So, assertiveness can be used wherever required and situations can be taken to their destination of success.

3 ● 𝗧𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗧𝗶𝗺𝗲 𝗧𝗼 𝗚𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗩𝗶𝗲𝘄, 𝗗𝗼 𝗡𝗼𝘁 𝗕𝗲 𝗝𝘂𝗱𝗴𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗮𝗹 – A very important spiritual dimension of relationships is to think before you speak because words once spoken do not come back and also once the other person has heard them they do not forget them. So being assertive is good but we shouldn’t misuse the power and make it a part of conversations in a positive way.

4 ● 𝐌𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐆𝐨𝐝’𝐬 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐀 𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐎𝐟 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐀𝐬𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐍𝐚𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞 – Remember that assertiveness should be filled with God’s love and goodness. Only then it is effective. God’s love is important because it also fills us with spiritual love for the other soul and also makes us caring which is very important while being assertive. Also, the love in our heart ensures we are not blunt while being assertive but are very soft.

5 ● 𝗟𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝗧𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗢𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗣𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻'𝘀 𝗢𝗽𝗶𝗻𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗨𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗺 – In relationships, it is very important to listen and deeply realize what the other person is trying to say. Otherwise, assertiveness can be very wrongly used and affect relationships negatively. The more we listen to the other person’s heart’s voice, the more we will be able to satisfy them with our assertiveness and mutual understanding.