Email letter received from Kavita (Australia) who wish advice upon how to ulift her nature so well that no one should physical attract to her and how to imbibe the virtue of Purity (celibacy) in life?
Original Question asked via Email:
Namaste, I am living in Australia right now and arrived just 3 months ago. I am married for ten years and 29 years old and also have two lovely kids. I was only 19 when got married and faced many ups and down in my married life, even many times I decided to commit suicide and my in-laws want me to get divorced from my husband and whenever I talked to any boy in relatives they started to question on my character just because I have a smiley face. In Australia, we are not financially strong and live in a house share and our owner also attracted to me after a small informal chat and always cared for me. Four days ago, he told like me that he like me, and tried to hold my hands forcefully. I denied because I know it is a big sin. He is also a married and a very nice man even his wife is also a friendly lady and they have a kid. I managed to convince him that I don't have any wrong intention about him. I don't understand why people misunderstand me if I talk to them with a smile. Is really my character is not good? Because internally for the first time I also feel attracted to him but I always stay away from him and stop talking to him. I don't want to cheat my husband. But I still think about my identity and character, attracted to another man is not a sign of a good woman. Is I gave them any signal that attracts them to me?
You are cheerful and that is a virtue. If you create such thought for someone - definitely that thoughts will reach them and they will react if that soul is not powerful enough. This is how thoughts can influence.
Second - this all can be overcomed. A powerful tree is not shaken even in midst of tsunami. Because its roots are deep and trunk is strong. Similarly - if Soul's pure sanskars are deep and the mind is made powerful, then stabilty is seen in practical life.
Advice: Start Swaman Abhyas (practice of self respect). DAILY - wake up early in morning around 5 am, sit in silence and listen these commentaries and follow.
Swaman in Hindi: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_kYVRgC1PFM&list=PLVTJYOj3fHtHjdxqZhniGRCjWUv6MlRMY&index=2
Swaman in English: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fhr4ChV3EEM&list=PLVTJYOj3fHtEe4C2MOHQT_tMLu0AuPJot
Save above playlist.
Here are Guided Raja Yog commentaries in Hindi & English: https://www.brahma-kumaris.com/rajyoga-meditation-music-commentary
* Conclusion *
Practice given advice for atlleast 21 days and see the results in yourself. You have 2 children. Mother has natural feeling of belongingness to someone - for you - you should focus only on YOUR family or children. Do not even try to make any happy. JUST BE YOURSELF at your best.
Always remember - Lust is the greatest enemy of human being. NEVER you should surrender to any feeling that is risen by this lust.
Read this article on Purity - as a way of Life: https://www.brahma-kumaris.com/single-post/celibacy-is-raja-yoga-way-of-Life