This is our in-detail guidance on "General & Practical Advise on Husband Wife Relationship" (To Resolve Conflict)
Note: This guidance and advise is given to the wife. But even a husband can use this by just replacing the word "wife" with "husband" (and vice versa) wherever you find on this post. Case: Here a wife was seeking help regarding her husband being overpowering with anger issues. Guidance is given to resolve this relationship peacefully and wisely with a spiritual insight on "karmic laws" and a regular practise of affirmations (Swamaan) and RajYog meditation.
✶Foreword ➤ This is a draft & our 'in-general' advice on the above matter. It covers main/imp points and it is onto the person how they apply this spiritual insight and advice as per their situation.
🌱We understand that the life is designed by our own deeds (karma). Just as that, your relationships are designed by how you and the other person share a karmic account or thoughts about each other, or had shared in past life/lives.
🌿The nature of your relationship with your husband's soul is caused by the karmic account which you both souls had shared during past birth/s (journey)
☘️In this in-detail guidance, we are giving you "general advise" and insight/wisdom that true love is in detachment from your expectations from the other person.
True Love means: "respecting each other", "well-wishing" for each other, "being each other's true friend", and being a "soul-mate" of each other.
★Important 👉 While taking ANY step forward in this relationship, your STATE OF MIND should be calm, clear and detached. This is must. When your state of mind is clear and detached from temporary emotion/feelings, you will be able to make the better choice, which will reward you in the future.
🌻 When you are 'attached' to someone, you can never be fully satisfied and thus happy. God, the Supreme Soul himself has taught us, that true love is when you stay 'detached' from other person's behaviour and yet help them to transform/overcome their weakness. You can apply this wisdom and help your husband to overcome his weakness (of anger); thus resolve the situation peacefully...
✤ Practical Wisdom ✤
👉 When and if your husband is in a bad mood, you should calm him down... For example: Cook his favourite food, give a head massage, put a relaxing music & best to put on our "Awakening with Brahma Kumaris" series on YouTube while you eat the dinner together.
👉Watch the series on "Relationship management" hosted by Sister Shivani.
🌿Here is full playlist 👉 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uXMRxwyzVe0&list=PL6mmKavEt551HqVGwRL1hqVi9TQD-03Hp
(Save this YouTube playlist)
☘️Find more such "relationship" related talks by Sister Shivani (on YouTube) which would be surely helpful to you in many ways... Just search youtube as "Bk shivani on healing relationship" or similar.
True Meaning of Love
The meaning of a true love is to be pure... Love teaches also to sacrifice. We should put our ego besides and develop selfless love for each other... This way, every relationship can be beautiful. Keep the aim to maintain peace and harmony in your home, in your life, no matter what happen. Because remember that tomorrow you will forget the harsh words of your husband... time heals every wound.
The Other Option
Along with the above-shared guidance on resolving the situation, we also provide a practical way out in case of a more challenging circumstance. So, if the situation becomes out of control, it is best to leave your husband alone and go away from him for a while... And in wider sense, if you are financially independent, then taking a divorce is a wiser and easier option.
➥ The videos and Awakening episodes on 'Healing Relationship' and 'Karmic Patterns' (search on YT) will help you a lot in this process to understand the law of karma/soul connections and resolve any situation peacefully...
Peace & Patience Wins
🌷When your husband will see you staying CALM, always smiling and not reacting to his anger, even he will calm down. The situation will resolve, and you both will live in harmony... This is just as water cools down the fire... For this, respecting each other is also important.
➥ See each other as a "companion" and a child of God... Know that we all human beings have both virtues and weaknesses... It is upto us what we want to see in others. If you go into a conflict, remember his virtues (everything good about him).
Tip: Learn 7 virtues of Soul
"When our mind is at peace, there is clarity in our thoughts. When there is clarity in thoughts, we take the right decision, which leads to a better, favourable future for us."